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I remember YOU!! 😡 YOU tried to diagnose me with psychosis when I was simply depressed and didn’t have any confidence!! You tried to get me permanently baker acted and wanted me put away in a state mental institution!! I was an alcoholic at the time because of my “depression”. (I also worked in the hospitality industry, in which everyone uses alcohol/drugs). You singled me out to be “crazy” and “mental” trying to diagnose me with psychosis when I was simply sad, around the wrong people and in the wrong work field! I wasn’t in the right career field and I lacked self confidence. That was my problem! Now that I’m 33 and in sales, I’m happy af. I was 26 years old at the time and you almost ruined my life! I was a young woman who had a job that didn’t value me, an abusive bf who would curse and beat me and I felt no support in my life. Park Royal baker acted me for a suicide attempt and then sent me there afterwards for treatment. Me and my mom both agreed for me to seek treatment at your facility. THE BIGGEST JOKE ON THE PLANET 🙄 you guys didn’t even care, it was all about profit and ripping off the insurance companies! I was already experiencing hardships and then you and your facility tried to exploit that! Sick 🤢 All of the patients are a money mill in your eyes. NOT actual living beings who are having a hard time in life. It’s all a SCAM! I remember meeting a lot of young women at the facility who told me you lied to their parents, telling them their kids were “crazy” and “needed help”, so they would make them stay!! Wow! When it came my time to speak to you, you did nothing but act callous and frustrated. I was scared and in tears because I was going through a hard time in life and at a random facility I’ve never been before. You’re a counselor and you refused to listen to me! You had ZERO compassion or empathy. You made your own biased “diagnosis” about me and it was all BS! You wanted me on drugs and I didn’t want to take any pills at all. You got upset I refused to accept your “psychosis” diagnosis and YOU insisted I see the psychiatrist for proof. I’m grateful you did! Thanks b**** 😇 it totally changed my life! The psychiatrist heard my story/testimony and (I’ll NEVER FORGET HER WORDS) said, “you don’t have psychosis and you’re not depressed. You need some self confidence”. SHE ABSOLUTELY CHANGED MY LIFE THAT DAY, YOU DIDN’T! YOU ACTUALLY TRIED THE OPPOSITE. You wanted to take me down and have me PERMANENTLY locked away! For what? Crying? Refusing to accept your answers or wants? Fk you, you demonic narcissist 🖕 you can’t control people and then lock them away if they don’t agree with you! Either you’re a fascist or simply evil. I’m my own person and didn’t realize the power of the word NO back then, but b**** I sure do now 😁 I developed a back bone and I’m not the same insecure, naive girl I was, I’M A CONFIDENT ADULT WOMAN NOW 💪🏼💃🏻💫💅🏼🙋🏻‍♀️ After she told me that, everything clicked. I realized that was the answer to most of my problems. My job not valuing me, my ex physically and verbally abusing me, my family disrespecting me, etc.. Now: 1) I’m an independent contractor who makes my own schedule, I make more $ in less time too. I usually work 3/4 days on average, not 7 anymore and have multiple sources of income. 2) I’m still going to FGCU continuing to get my bachelors for environmental studies. 3) I permanently cut off some narcissistic toxic family members, men, ex’s and any associates that bring disrespect or toxicity into my realm. 4) I now totally understand what that psychiatrist meant. I haven’t ever been that “depressed” since and am usually happy or content everyday. I speak good into my life and avoid negativity. My life is way better, NO THANKS TO YOU. The only thing you helped me remember was to watch what you say to people because it will be altered and used against you. You helped me strive to NEVER let myself reach such a low point in life again to succumb to that type of evil hell. I hope you get called out for your manipulative, narcissistic, victim blaming tendencies and end up in a state mental institution yourself. I probably said it to you then and I’ll say it again now, you’re the epitome of EVIL ❌🧿🙏 GO TO HELL🖕 because it’s definitely waiting for you..

Wouldn't that be more accurately described with C-PTSD? Also: how to get out of this if you don't have money for therapy?

I recently had an employer from a job 6 years ago reach out for a great opportunity at their new company...however, the toxicity of that past work environment still has me absolutely spiraling just thinking back already feeling a huge rush of negative distress and flashbacks... I absolutely declined. Thankfully I'm fully employed with a developer role now that doesn't involve the same environment. High-functioning autism is really complicated in the conventional office setting.

It's a shame places like this do not take insurance. What to people do that need help but can't afford out of pocket

"Are you sure?" "Are you sure they didn't....?" "Are you sure.....?" "Are you sure, because...?"

i read ur dads book bro it’s a lifesaver fr ❤

Are you still working here?

Thank you. Useful and helpful information.

I find that my mental health “team” minimizes my perspective about escalating traumatic stressors experienced for past thirty years. Dysregulation is associated with “anxiety associated with depression”. Also as a 50+ female late diagnosed with ADHD and Bipolar 2 two years ago has been bittersweet. I’m seen as a drama queen because my immaturity (undiagnosed autistic traits per my research) is seen as entitlement and manipulation. I have chronic stress around work and can no longer function adequately in my profession. I am trying to adapt to a lower income due to cycles of unemployment/underemployment. Bad references follow me and gatekeepers are blocking opportunities for even entry level jobs. I feel like my very presence is a hinderance to team work environments because they perceive me as having accomplished things in my career (that they want) that I don’t deserve.

I spent 20 years in a Southern California school district, and just retired two years ago, and I still stress out about it. Being a white male school custodian was pure Hell. As a man in maintenance, you’re treated like a kid by the teaching staff, and if you talk back you get reported for making them feel intimidated. What happens a lot is that custodians are intentionally pushed to the point to where they start getting angry and talking back, and then get reported for improper behavior. My last two years were spent at a small elementary school that had a principal that I was warned about in advance for not liking white people, and I have to say I believe it from the way she talked to me. To make matters worse, my coworker, a female custodian, told me consistently how much SHE didn’t like white men, and I had no one to report all of this too. She would watch me and tell the principal everything that she saw wrong with my work. I eventually collapsed at work from the stress, and had to be taken to the hospital. No one asked me if I was ok when I came back to work two days later. A couple of months later a water fountain fell on me, and took out my right leg. The principal never left her desk and the secretary only told me to leave my keys on campus. And I was limping the whole time. It’s sad when you’re hated so much at work that you’re glad you went to the hospital and have to go to Workmans comp. Work place trauma is no joke. I still suffer from it, but don’t tell anyone because I don’t want to hear that I don’t count because I never went to war.

THANK YOU! I am so glad I found your video when I did. It validates what I think in my heart I already knew but haven't been able to get recognised instead being treated for the 'symptoms' not the underlying cause. I am going to share this with my health providers and hopefully this will get me the treatment I need to 'move forward' - something I desperately want to do but have been unable to. Your video gives me hope I can get better. Thank you

I have no problems accepting others. People are what they are. What I have a problem with is finding interest in other people. I am thinking this is a hedonic adaptation issue. I have spent much of my life around exceptional people. In comparison most people hold no interest for me because they have never done anything or even tried to do anything noteworthy .

You’re waiting for the other shoe to drop for so long in that toxic job, then you leave and start to realize there is no other shoe in your new workplace. 😅

Why should I have to discuss whether my memories are true or false and get re diagosed by every new therapist?

I've had 3 toxic bosses in a row after 2000. I'm retired now, but before 2000 I never ran into it. I'm wondering what has changed to be causing this nowadays.

I was at a gym in Toronto, without a manager (she quit, it took them a good 3 months to find another one), I was the only trainer there for 3 months. honestly, as a new trainer, it was a dream come true. bc suddenly I was bombarded w sooo many clients that someone would have had to take a long time to build. I remember going home crying from stress... and it was exactly what it was, " being bombarded". on top of being cheated on by my ex. My gosh Oct 2022 was such a dark dark time for me.. im traumatized still, deeply.. I need a lot of help and prayers tbh :( thank you! 🙏🏼

What is the author and book you mentioned at end? And great video, I’m currently stuck on a project :(

Very helpful thank you

You are so good at explaining. throughoutly. I really hope you are a professor

Unfortunately I had two Toxic bosses back to back, the first one was intimidating and always humiliating and comparing to other colleagues, he had a poor manager rating and would take out his frustration on the team, internally looked for another role the other manager was worse… always threatening with consequences if exactly not done to her wishes. Frantically looked for an external role and quit. But I still feel so much anxiety, and engaging with people feels very stressful.

Here because of my experience. The repeated retaliation that happened after I left was like being stabbed in the back after 2 years of being stabbed in the gut. The “POW camp” is the perfect metaphor! I was told to “suck it up” because it’s just your turn and he’ll move on to someone else

Very helpful. It’s taken me 5 yrs to be healed from a traumatic firing that wasn’t legit. I was past 65 so just retired. Didn’t go back to the profession I loved. It’s been 5 yrs now and I finally feel healed and whole. In many ways I turned it into a positive by volunteering in a cause I strongly believe in. But yes….it was life chging and it took a couple of yrs to move ahead. I just allowed myself to rest. And sometimes do nothing. Just be.

What kind of therapist can treat trauma based ocd?

Do u see people on line

This is strange I relate with most of these points. I’ll have to look in to it; not to lean towards it but to understand where I can find the help to mitigate it. I do not want to feel like I can’t work; but I would like that confidence.

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You are amazing

Sometimes it’s not even necessarily abusive people in a workplace. I t can be traumatic conditions in your industry creating a feeling of drowning and helplessness. No matter what you do, you will never be able to accomplish those things your job demands with the resources available to you. This is my case. Especially in the last 20 years I’ve struggled with incredible anxiety and alcoholism. I’ve had suicidal thoughts on several occasions through the years. I finally quit alcohol 8 months ago. I retire in 3 months. I can tell you, I would NEVER go down the same career path I have gone. I see young guys getting into our industry and I just want to tell them to get out while they still can. Of course I can’t do that because I’m a department manager. I have to be a cheerleader, even though every fiber of my being feels hopeless. Money isn’t everything. Happiness needs to come first.

i think that my ocd is far more older but i just to know about it a few months ago, I'm 22 (m) suffering from hocd, but i had sexual intrusive thoughts towards my family members when i was 13-14 years, also i always had intrusive thoughts of death but anyhow this doesn't ruined my life as hocd is ruining

This is definitely one of the very best vids I've seen about this topic! Thx!! This vid helped save my life today ❤

Understanding the impact of a religious upbringing coupled with attachment issues, have been key in understanding my struggles with ocd. .This is so important and needs to be talked about much more. Thank you for this🙏

One of the videos John jr posted has really helped and led me on a self exploration journey. Thank you.

Thats right, really helped me to identify myself

Your lengthy self introduction nearly made me give up watching!

I worked for a large chain salon and it got so bad that I 👉had👈 (past tense )contemplated killing myself,,, I was constantly picked on, innuendos, snyed comments, I am in counseling now for it. I had went to apply for another job and did all the onboarding and the day I was supposed to start I couldn't bring myself to do it.... Why? I have over 30 years experience in the beauty industry yet I couldn't even muster up enough courage to 😢do the follow threw...

Hi John! Appreciate this video. I’m 1 month in my first job and I have thought about quitting almost every weekend. I’ll give it another chance and will be on the look out for stress signals, and hopefully deal with it properly, before deciding if it this job is really worth my sanity.

I was diagnosed with OCD since my teenage, spent my whole life fighting OCD. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

I feel like I have this. Last year had a job I tried the best I ever had at any job and was a top performer for a year straight. Tried to get promoted so hard there and was past over multiple times for a year straight. Was talked downed and cussed at by my manager and never stood up for myself because I lacked confidence (still do) and I felt I needed to do whatever it took to get promoted. Soooo many work place politics and sucking up occured there but I played it and not that type of person to kiss up to someone. I've been bullied bad all throughout school, so that job was making me relive all those bad things now as an adult. Ended up leaving that job after a bad emotional outburst, because I had enough of being mistreated by people. Now I feel I can't ever try hard at a job again for fear of being taken advantage of (like in my personal life). Currently at a new job and liked it at first and felt too good to be true to not deal with those same issues. It was a new career field for me too so I was really excited. Then I was suddenly put in a different location and saw signs of my previous job with heavy workplace politics and an ahole manager. After the 3rd day there I broke down after work and had a nervous breakdown and felt like I was having PTSD over having to relive the past job all over again. Now I left the new job and feel like my experiences from my past job haunts me and am afraid to get excited about another job and try hard at it over fear that I'll keep reliving the same experience. I've never really dealt with anxiety until now as I don't get often stressed out, but I'm really feeling it now. I feel I should see a therapist but due to my past experiences from bullying and life in general, I've become a huge misanthrope and have no trust for any human on this planet. It's a toxic, self-defeatist mindset and bigger than my work place trauma at this point. But my personal trauma kind of intertwines with my work trauma. I dunno, I'm rambling and just needed to vent.

Very informative and just listening to you speak helped me to calm down. I have to remember to be mindful with the time I have here.

Yes. I think for most people, we would never spend all the time and effort put into the actions labelled "OCD" if there wasn't a very good reason, or several very good reasons, from the point of view of the person we were at the time the initiating events took place. I'll share a bit about my experience, hoping it can be useful to others. For years, I was very uncomfortable unless I cleaned everything that was brought into the house, fearing new germs fresh off the plane from some jungle far away, would harm my children. It seemed unlikely but still possible, given all I was hearing about ebola, kuru, etc. Eventually I traced it to my father's bursts of anger, which were terrifying for the young child I was. I saw how, to protect myself, I got into the habit of watching everything I do in order to avoid giving him a reason to get angry at me. Trying to avoid making any kind of "mistake" had pushed me to take excessive precautions before doing anything, that were a waste of time and also an annoyance to others. Plus I felt anxious to succeed immediately at anything new I did, which made it difficult to try new activities. And I felt intense pressure to never be shown wrong on anything I said, which annoyed people around me when I would come up with unlikely reasons, to try to show I was actually right. And I was very judgmental, harshly criticizing everything and everyone, in a vain unconscious attempt to show that at least, I wasn't doing the "bad" things they were doing. I still have traces of these, but it's no longer limiting my life. For germs, it brought immense relief to come across information that convinced me I had worried for nothing, because it was never scientifically demonstrated that germs cause any illness, or that contagion exists.

This was a good one !

Thank you so much for making this post. have been bullied more than once in workplaces. I know it's not my fault as I have been at other workplaces where I was not targeted. Sometimes it is just them. The bully. However, I am a nice, agreeable person. And I believe that this made the bully(s) see me as an easy target. I cannot express in words alone the impact of the bullying. I will say though, to report it early. Don't wait. It tends to have more impact if you report it early. Like the first time someone says something rude, or is otherwise inappropriate. Better to report late than never, but early is definitely better. Best Wishes.

MY SOUL IS BRUTALLY VIOLENTLY VICIOUSLY MALICIOUSLY: RAPED I COULD MURDER MY RAGE IS A VOLCANO RED HOT WHITE BURNING HOMICIDAL RAGE Jesus, I cry out to you in faith and desperation, please pleas please HELP ME! paralyzed with trauma he raped me he was supposed to be my best friend I die inside rage and grief eat me alive I'm in hell 6 INSATIABLE DESIRES: - the man that left me. he discarded me like last week's garbage. he took my heart and my soul with him. I'd do anything to have him back. - LOVE. the real thing. in it's purest truest realest rawest form. romantic and sexual and intimate. twin-flame union. - sex. intimacy. attention. affection. romance. passion. cuddles. kisses. - to be wanted/needed/loved/desired. to be seen as beautiful and attractive. - to have all my past traumas erased/deleted/dissolved/healed. gone forever. - A TRIBE OF REAL FRIENDS

Yes the fear of being alone paralyzes me

I have been on sick leave almost for 2 months but every time I think about going back to work, I feel so anxious and stressed. Hard to breath and seeing nightmares from work when I just think about it. Even to work anywhere, I’m not ready for it yet. What can I do? I was diagnosed with PTSD symptoms.

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Deep down I always knew this. There's a reason I was obsessed with my perceived problems and it all stemmed from trauma

His video on OCD is the most profound I have ever heard. I know it’s true because I’ve experienced this… Healed now by the way

Thanks for this information. This brings to light everything we need to know about workplace abuse, trauma, overwork, ptsd