Thank you so much for sharing this! I've been struggling with this as well after some traumatic events and knew something was wrong but couldn't find anyone else that has been going through it. I feel better at least im not alone.
I got bangs in 2021 and after obsessing if they were even it not( and I’ve always hated my hair anyway because people told me it’s ugly and floofy) I ended up chopping my hair till I ended up buzzing it. Good news, I’m still pretty without hair. Bad news it takes forever to grow out your hair. Love and hugs to those suffering from these issues❤.
i couldnt get my hair cut during covid so i gave myself a haircut, and i never really stopped giving myself a haircut. The past 1 year its so been so bad that my hair cant get beyond 1 week of growth before i have to shave my hair down to a buzzcut so that its all even. but i really want to grow it out. i tried getting rid of all the scissors and my bathroom mirror today. well see
Honestly I appreciated hearing your story, and i understand that feeling where you have a struggle thay feels too unique to share with anyone. But I admire your boldness in opening up. While I dont wish to let labels like trochotemnomania define me I don't want to hide the fact that I struggle with obsessive urges to shave my head. While I think I look fine with no hair, I dont like that I often have these obsessive thoughts about my appearance and feel unsatisfied until I shave all the way. Then once I go bald, I feel like I did something wrong by feeding the obsession. Wish I knew how to tell my close friends and my church small group about the obsessive thoughts but I do not know where to start. I am more concerned about the obsessove aspect of it but I should probably grow my hair out for winter anyway and to look more professional as well as to conquer the obsession.
I am more than certain I share this condition as well. It doesn’t help being a licensed hairstylist either. I don’t do hair anymore professionally and honestly regret getting technically trained in hair cutting. It really tightens the OCD. I really want to grow my hair out from the pixie I have. I try so hard and can only control myself for a month on average. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I have sleepless nights cause of cutting. It might be time to get rid of all of my hair cutting shears and buzzers. I just want to feel prettyyy
I have lived with this all of my life . Since I was a child . I'm 66 years young , now . Two years ago , I found a therapist that specializes in ocd , and does expose and response therapy . It's difficult therapy . You really have to be committed to get through it . I committed , and got through it , because I could not go on the way I was . I had just had it . Exposure and response therapy saved my sanity . Get the book "BrainLock" . It's about Exposure and Response Therapy . Then look for a therapist who specializes in OCD, and does Exposure and Response therapy . You won't regret it .
I feel you. I started pulling apart my split ends as a teenager. Then, years later, the cutting of the bangs began. Tiny tiny pieces at a time. The more I cut, the more I became obsessed with symmetry. Then they were gone. Then it would go away for months. I lost my professional job I worked so hard at. It kicked in big time. I seemed help in a ocd group. Nobody there had the same obsession as me. The men in the group said I'm bald and you hair grows. That was it. As it progressed, I started doing the perimeter: bangs, around my ears & the back. Then it went away for some time. Then years later, I got a new boss who picked on me non stop. I had to retire early. Since then it's been a constant thing. I'm a hat girl now and very depressed and ashamed to be seen. I've been on every drug out there without success. I'm in therapy at the present time. You are my hero...
that is beyond kind of you!! thank you SOOO much🥰🥰❤️ I'm so happy you appreciate this cover, it has to be the one I poured the most heart and work into, it's very special to me and I'm so glad I could share this with you☺️☺️
i’ve been struggling with this for a year, i can’t imagine for years… i hid all the scissors away, would you recommend to throw them away? it is so exhausting, im in front of the mirror for hours and one day it looks perfect and the next horrible. I’ve always had long beautiful hair and to others it still looks beautiful, and i’ve had layers for a few years but now i struggle with “ oh they are not even oh this and that, oh this side of my head is thinner this thicker”. I’ve been cutting my own hair for ten years and never had this issue and it got worse 6 months ago and a month ago another episode started again.
hey❤️ I absolutely understand what you're going through!! For me it started out exactly the same, the urge to even everything out just appeared out of nowhere - and yes, it stayed with me for years, but don't worry, that doesn't mean it has to be the same for you! Are there any other stressors in your life at the moment that might have triggered the Trich over the last year? Regarding the sheers, yes, I absolutely recommend throwing them away if possible! In fact I just did that during last week's summer solstice, I got rid of my scissors completely because I (personally) couldn't keep away from them if they're just locked up. I would always go and grab them no matter how or where I hid them. It's kinda like getting rid of sweets when you're on a diet, once you no longer have them in your house available you can't snack on them. So getting rid of my sheers is the only thing truly helping me to not trim my own hair! You can always buy new ones should you really need them but at least for the duration of the impulsive moments you're safe if you don't have any access! I truly hope you get through this!! All the love to you🦋💕💜
i thought i was crazy for going though this, i see i’m not alone… it has ruined my life to the point where i’m on antidepressants but even they don’t see them to be working..
gosh, thank you sooo much, that means a lot🥰🥰💜 yes, saw the picture too;) I think she recently announced it on tour, I think in conjunction with Speak Now (Taylor's Version) coming out soon she'll also "properly" release Cruel Summer as a radio single🫢❤️
@@woozworldES neat!!! That's so cool! Haven't heard it in any stores or anything around me in Germany yet, sadly:/ Yes, I'm 100% certain on the music video (again) spending way too much time on TikTok and I'm pretty sure she also hinted on "songs that should've gotten a music video long ago soon finally getting one", I think she shot some MV in London earlier this year for both the Speak Now release as well as Cruel Summer! Let's cross our fingers, would be so cool🫢😎💜
you are not alone, I promise❤️ just today I had a really bad breakdown with my trichotemnomania again, and it's been two years since I made this video ... it's a struggle really, but you are never alone, we've got this!! We can beat this💪🏻❤️
I have this very same problem. I am OCD. I get so frustrated with being OCD. It’s a problem I have been dealing with since I was young and I am now 48. I just had an issue yesterday. I actually like my hair better shorter. I’ve always had compliments when my hair is short. I typically wear it like Halle Berry and for some reason it makes me feel more confident. But I think I try sometimes to grow it out just to say I can or maybe to cut it and go get it cut shorter again by a professional. I find I do cut it more when it’s short because I wear it pieces and no one really can tell. Like you I’ve learned several techniques and because I am OCD and a perfectionist, I really try to make it look right, not just cut. But the main thing is cutting just to make me “feel” better, when really that is not true. It always makes me feel worse. Even if I say I like the way it looks better, it steel makes me feel worse to know I have done it and can’t control myself. It’s funny how many times I’ve read people like me do this when their life is out of control to feel like it’s the one thing they have control over. But really we don’t (or at least I don’t) even have control over this. It’s a spontaneous result to a stressful situation that I literally can’t stop or can’t control. I’ve thought for so many years I was the only one. I am so glad to know I’m not. I’ve found talking about it does help. I told one friend I used to work with a few years ago. Then I told my hairstylist and I felt so much better after I told her. It’s still awkward letting her know I cut what she just fixed like I did last night. But it gets a little easier every time and like they say confession is good for the soul. Thank you all here for your confession so I know I’m not alone in this.
you think so? hearing her sing "the 1" live on tour and then comparing it to the recorded version it's so hard for me to spot a difference, I think she sounds lovely either way🥰
omg, yes, in case it wasn't clear, this isn't Taylor! It's me singing🫠😅😅 certainly sounds different than Taylor, that went right over my head, but I just covered her song, that's what I do on this channel hehe :)
I’m not laughing, but I did have to go in and take a few snips. I started in again, “tearing my hair out with style”, as I call it, about a year ago. My sister was dying from cancer after a 7 year battle. I’m not even sure if this was why. So many whys in an overflowing bucket I think till cutting my hair off was the only way I could show that I was truly going through some awful stuff. But the moment of truth through tears when it’s not quite right and you can’t go out in public for a couple weeks till it’s grown slightly and a couple more proper snips make it work again. Thankfully my hair still grows at least a half inch every month. I guess this is good, except it keeps me constantly snipping. Where does it end this time? I don’t know. I always get to the end, but it can take a couple years or so. It ends when I finally find a shop to go to and start working with someone who helps me grow it again. I’m 68 now, and it’s 🎉that I don’t look nice in a short do, but it’s very different to be doing what I’m doing as opposed to having it done and leaving it alone between trims. I think, for me, it’s a form of self-stim, and that it’s part of being on the autism spectrum; something I’m beginning to realize is likely my reality. Well… I’ve made it this far in life, and I suppose I’ll keep making it, regardless of my hair cutting. I’ve never cut shorter than a more or less pixie cut. My profile picture in the bubble is OLD, FYI.
Thank you so much for sharing! I really needed this. I have been struggling with this on and off for the last 4 years and I am working on stopping every single day! Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your true feelings and what has worked for you.
Thank you so much. I started having issues with continuously cutting my hair throughout the year and now it's gotten so short I find it so ugly that I wanted to shave it. Now I know I won't. I won't fall in the trap. 👍
You're completely right, thanks for your constructive criticism👍🏻 I didn't have an editing software at the time and originally recorded this video as a virtual diary for myself before deciding to upload and share it a while after. That's why I put a timestamp to skip the long ass intro at the very top of the infobox😅
you're sooo kind, omg thank you🥰❤️ yeah, it's my vibe too ;D I was playing around with the distortion pedal and while practicing, Taylor Swift popped into my head and I thought, what if I just quickly record a cover of Seven🦋😅 sooo glad you like it, xoxo
this is so good :) it kind of reminds me of 2000s bands I grew up with, which matches the concept of seven as well. thank you for this, hope you continue making music :)
oh my gosh, thank you soo much for this sweet comment!! 2000s music, that's awesome😎 I quickly put this cover together while practicing, I'm so soo happy you liked it❤️ Yes, I'll absolutely make some more music, it's such a nice and relaxing hobby:) you can check out some of my other covers if you like, I've got a whole playlist of them on my channel and you can always leave a suggestion, something you'd like to hear🤗
thank you soo much, that means a lot❤️ yes, I always play and sing simultaneously, it's actually just one guitar and a distortion pedal! Loved playing around with the sound and while practicing palm muting I recorded this take:)
@@johnnycade.switchblade haha, I'm like grinning ear to ear reading your comment🥰 It's so cool that you actually found my channel (it's such a small channel) and that you liked the cover! Youth has a very special meaning to me and I am so incredibly happy to hear someone else is enjoying it too❤️
@@humanity_bear youth has a special meaning to me too. My dad and stepmother were abusive, and this song was one I used to cope. Anytime I play it now, I tear up. You did so wonderful ❤️
hehe, thank you sooo much, that means the world to me🥰❤️ funnily enough I even uploaded on Halloween, so super early😅 There's always next year's Christmas, listen to it then, haha;)
Thank you for sharing this, I've been suffering with my obsession of wanting long hair and obviously trimming it is counterproductive to having it long
