KRISTIN,.,., I literally watch this on the way to work so I can start my day off laughing! @4:26 you absolutely lose it and say,..,., "THAT'S THE BEST JOKE EVER!!!" As you fell out of your seat,..,., LOVE watching you 6! (Yeah Tommy too)
My sister in law and I were pregnant at the same time, I was 1 month further along than her. She said she and her partner were having difficultly coming up with a name for a girl, and I told her the names we had chosen if I should have a girl. It was a name that meant a lot to both my husband and I as it was the names of my husbands and my grandmothers, plus the last name that is the same as SIL. Sadly, I lost my baby. The day my niece was born my SIL called me to tell me the news and told me the babies name. Identical 3 names. Rightly or wrongly I was devastated, and to this day it hits me the wrong way, because when I think of my rainbow baby I call her by this name. I think what bothers me more is that I never voiced my thoughts to SIL about her using my chosen name.
He may get a pass for not understanding what she meant, and I don't believe anyone should be held responsible for what their family members say or do; however, I do have a MAJOR problem with the boyfriend, and that is the fact that he didn't do anything to take his girlfriend's side and protect her when his family started saying clearly inappropriate things. I solidly believe in the principle that in a relationship each person is responsible for establishing and enforcing boundaries with their own family. When anyone started saying things about bars that had been installed in bathrooms or asking grossly inappropriate questions about a person's ability to have children the boyfriend should not have told his girlfriend that she was being too sensitive. Instead, he should have stood up to his family and told them that their comments and questions were inappropriate and they need to stop. It would be different if the girlfriend initiated that conversation with the mother and wanted to say talk about how difficult it is to have kids and basically wanted a shoulder to cry on or maybe advice about the pros and cons of adopting or having a surrogate, etc., but it IS NEVER appropriate for a mother or mother-in-law to initiate that kind of conversation. I don't care how much you may want to have kids, if your daughter-in-law doesn't want to have kids that is her choice and her business, not yours. If she is sterile or has had multiple miscarriages, that also is none of your business. If she is currently 2 weeks pregnant, but the couple aren't ready to announce that news, that is none of your business. If they are arranging to have a surrogate for heath reasons, that is none of your business. The fact that her boyfriend basically responded by acting like she is supposed to be okay with the teasing and extreme violations of her privacy rather than by standing up to his family and establishing a boundary that clearly matters to his girlfriend is a HUGE red flag to me.
He for sure did not take the ultimatum seriously and long forgot about it. She needs to pack and leave. If he really loves her and wants her he would realize very fast what is in a stake. And if he woudnt fight for her, that is good for her to know too. As well people usually get married to have children and she wasnt mentioning that. Is that in cards? If they didnt plan children, maybe he do not feel in hurry.
This relationship was over the moment she made the ultimatum. It might have been salvageable when she was just thinking about this stuff. But she said the words out loud to him... And a radio station. Even if he proposes and she says yes, she will always have this situation in her mind. So much so that the resentment will build and build. Eventually divorce and hatred will be the only things that will come out of the marriage.... All because she couldn't get out of her own head.
He her real reason why he doesn't want to get married, know giving him I ultimatum of marriage, then called radio station to embrass him ,she doesn't care about his feelin gs are consistent. He needs to dump her ,she doesn't care about him it all about her, and what she wants ,I have a question is she worth the ultimatum and ending her relationship
To be honest I'm on HIS side. The economy is totally different right now and Steve Harvey explains it the best. A woman is ready for marriage when she's in love, a man is ready for marriage when he is FINANCIALLY prepared. They've been together 5 years and in that 5 years he lost a job and had to get a new one, who says he has the savings right now for any of that? 5 years (depending on your situation) is not a lot of time to save for a ring, especially since years 1-2 you're still kinda feeling it out. She said he still treats her great so MAYBE he just doesn't feel he is in a financial position to pay for the ring OR the wedding that he thinks she deserves. If you love each other and he shows commitment and shows you respect then why not BE HAPPY. But no, once again status wins over common sense. She'd rather be single again and risk waiting 10 more years for someone to propose than wait maybe 2 more years for him to feel comfortable? Women need to give their head a shake. Make it make sense.
The problem is that men lot of times have those excuses, but then year later they ready to marry their new girl immediately, and they are in exactly same financial stage. So..go figure..
I don't know how she feels about this, but I think she should show him she is SERIOUS about this deadline. Pack up a few things and let him see that she intends to leave if he doesn't propose. Place it by the door, and have the talk about marriage. I emptied EVERYTHING I had before our marriage and he got home from work and the house echoed. He came to me, told me he loved me, and wanted me back at home. In the end, our marriage ended in divorce but neither of us were ready for marriage.
I would break up with her just for tracking me without telling me. Yes, he is lying but these are short trips and she saw for herself that it was not a romantic relationship. So, he must have his reasons for keeping it from her. Next time that he says that he is going to see his friend, go with him. He might fess up. But right now, you are not looking good.
Firstly, I have a hard time believing that the husband came up with a unique name. Secondly, she is trying too hard to feign ignorance. But, the other lady is not pregnant nor has any control on getting pregnant with a particular gender. Honestly, they both sound silly because it should not matter anyway. If you look at your family tree, the names get used over and over again. And every generation, names becomes popular and unpopular. If this is what breaks up your friendship, it was not a very good one. BTW...here is my pick for name, Devon Mackenzie, works for a girl and a boy. Feel free folks !
That’s the only thing that makes some sense but still it’s the lies. Or it’s the grandma of a friend who has asked him to help out cause grandma is newly widowed. Worst case that is the grandma of a girl he’s having an affair with.
But if the name was do unimportant to hwr that she literally forgot about it, then she can change the name. she is the one getting possessive, not the friend
