I was just dozed off When I was awaken my TV was on .This lawyer was on tv and watched a while and ready for bed and started to search for God 's words in youtube. It popped up this lawyer again Thks God
I know of several lawyers have mental issue. Due to the nature of the profession, I guess. Basically, our life is not defined by legality. If your mind is always filled with legalism rather than justice and mercy in the ontological sense, then one day you will become a legal manic.... But at the end of it, it is still a much-needed profession in society. The question is whether lawyers are able to detach their personal dimension from their professional realm.
I was bullied when I was seventeen back in the early 2010s when I was in sec4, I got followed home and countless pranks I had to deal with but when I got hit in the head and probably broke my neck, everything just went downhill, I started experiencing memory failing drastically like slowly day by day forgetting things or the route back home. every time someone told me something or when teacher was teaching, within split seconds I forgot what happened earlier on. I started experiencing sleep deprivation where I couldnt sleep until 5am. by then I had to woke up at 6 to prep for school. during pe lesson while playing girl soccer I got hit in the private area. and the pranks from the guys got worse as they followed me home, kept banging the door, when I opened they had ran away before I opened. and the next time I didnt dare to open but heard neighbours who aren't in good terms with us helped to asked the bullies to leave else they're calling the police. I stopped going to school although my memory totally wiped out and teachers came to my house to persuade me to return to school as I started experiencing weak leg muscle. the student councillor didn't showed empathy when I was hopping my way to school as slowly I had trouble in time management, I left house before 6:30am and school was barely less than ten minutes away but I ended up in school past 7:30am. I even request from my teacher if I could come to school at 7:50pm because when I sit on the floor I didnt have the strength to do so and it pulls the nerves around my heart, he requested to allow me to sit at the study corner but the student councillor simply kept telling me to go sit at the parade square, so he request to allow me to come at 7:50am which principal allowed due to such special request. but the student councillor kept insisting to take down my name, back then I was an introvert and find it very humiliating, and all along I have stress capability of 20%, I couldnt cope with it along with class bullies kept fat shamming me as I put on weight after having sleep deprivation where I would just kept on waking up to binge drinking water in the middle of the night. I only went for English n level and failed as I didnt went to school for few months after getting bullied and brain malfunctioning, I felt that anxiety probably took over everything and my brain simply gave up. principal told me to get tested for thyroid and it was a bingo, from there on ive been seeing my doctor but she always insisted I have brain tumour even though mri scan showed no issues. nobody showed empathy from there on, I didnt further my studies, I tried getting a job after turning 24 when covid restriction were lifted but experienced brain fog and brain malfunction which caused sleep deprivation which took few months to get back usual sleep routine. and last year when I turned 26, my doctor said I have pituitary gland damaged. and this year I started having nightmare of the accident and finally remembered everything, throughout the years my mom always asked me what happened back then but I couldnt remember which eventually she didnt asked. I had throbbing headache since I was in sec4, when the daily headache stopped, I was told I have pituitary gland damaged, throughout the years I had frequent profuse nosebleeding which I raised to my doctor but she never said anything about it or how to prevent or how to deal with it. I even took photo of it as the nose bleeding doesnt look abnormal
Very awe inspiring from ashes to phoenix resurrection life stories, Lawyer Josehpus. Thank you very much for sharing with people who are downtrodden with life(public ). I emphathise what is it like when weak (gang up because they cannot stand alone) bullies target a special individual. I got to battle weak bullies neighbours who harasses me relentlessly. I did not cow down but take them (no jokes there are a few of them who target me for filing the truth about their abusive lifestyle affecting the public domain) by the horn and make sure I 'stamp' them under my feet for the ill intent misdemeanours commited against me and others. I won them legally and hope those who are 'cornered' by bullies will pick up your sword(figure of speech ) and bring these no substance struggling human down. Hope many will draw strength from your life encounters. At the end of a decade battle, Kharma strike them, 1 lost her life, 1 move away, 2 were trial by ______(do not wish to mentioned) and I Still STAND tall here without moving house because I believe Evil will NEVER prevail good. Hope you do not forget the Divine who 'see' you along the way and Mr Tan, I wish you all the best. 🌹
Yes I agree a level playing field is in order and to this end there are not enough dialogues on what is expected at work to avoid disappointment and heartaches.
The standards at the Bar here have been raised astronomically the last decade which is a boon for our legal profession. However something can be done to improve the work life balance situation for the welfare and benefit of young lawyers. There should be more discussions and dialogue on whether the practice of law is a vocation or a calling or a job, and individual lawyers be given the freedom to choose or define themselves in their own unique ways and passions without fear or favour.
Thank you Shulin for interviewing Rachel Eng, I absolutely loved this episode and how candid she was in sharing her challenges and how she went about overcoming them, making a positive difference to other female colleagues and building up a supportive environment for other females to thrive in! Very inspired by Rachel's sharing that we should always work hard at what we are good at, and be so good at it that others are willing to do more to retain the talent, because it gives us hope! All the best, Rachel in bringing your firm to new heights and being a positive influence. Shulin, thank you for giving yourself so generously and sharing the wisdom from your network of friends and mentors. God bless!
Pastor Ray had certainly left big and bold footprints in our lives when he was my PIC in FMC. It's my privilege to know such a God-fearing person up close and this podcast has given me further insights into his servant leadership. May our good Lord bless and establish the work of PRay's hands.
There is a lot to reflect upon and to act intentionally especially on listening skills. Appreciate ShuLin for posing all the difficult questions to Ps Ray who articulated himself clearly with candour and humility. You inspire us Ps Ray! Thank you.
Once in the halls of law, now in the light, From DPP to pulpit, guiding right. Not of but in, a time we're bound, A thread through sermons, wisdom found. For every plea and prayer, a beacon bright, Guiding souls, at that point in time. In whispers soft, the hymn does chime, “In His Time,” "In His Time.” In every chapter, every climb, The Lord's works unfold in perfect time. Let this refrain in memory bind, As seasons turn, as stars align. In His grand design, all is prime, "In His Time," dear pastor, "In His Time." With each note sung, let hearts entwine, And in your teachings, let this shine: God's timing perfect, oh so sublime, A testament of faith, "In His Time."
Thanks for this podcast and Pastor Ray's very insightful leadership thoughts and perspective on career transitions, mentoring and showing vulnerability as you share on your struggles in your experiences! It provided much to think about for my own journey as well. :)
Tq for having this podcast. Enjoyed & learned from it. I am also a maximiser, didn't realise it can be used to bring the strengths of the team together
Easy way to “retrench without benefits”. Prepare a PIP (Performance Improvement Program) letter and magnify any “negative performance” issues. Grade them a D for appraisals thus no bonuses and using “Poor Performance” as an excuse. Make their working lives so miserable till the point where they resign on their own. No retrenchment benefits needed.
That was an interesting interview with Jean Voronkova. She's a very well spoken, humble and brave woman. Glad she found her path to happiness in life. Way to go!!
Good interviews but there is underrepresentation of lawyers in small and medium sized firms, and thus these interviewees alone are not representative of the profession. We need good lawyers in SMEs to help individuals from less privileged backgrounds too (esp if we talk about the law applying equally to all, access to justice, etc), so it shouldnt be the case that those lawyers are somehow perceived as not "worthy" enough to be interviewed or respected in the profession. Would love to see interviews of those lawyers to discern how their experiences differ from that in large and international firms :)
Like she said, it is expected that men are expected to bring home the bacon and thus there is also that bias… women are not “allowed” to vote many years ago coz it meant that if you vote, you are suppose to go to war and women were protected and thus not vote. This is then twisted by feminist as oppression when it didn’t start that way. Don’t just bring the women perspective and bias talk like men are putting you down. It’s isn’t. Women themselves are still expecting to married up and will not marry “down’ men despite equal opportunities and even marriage law protects women even if they commit adultery. Men get everything taken away from them if they do the same .. come on. Men are also working fathers and not just working mom.. as if only women sacrifices but men have it good.
A very interesting interview. Congrats to producer. Appreciate the views of late Adrain Tan which would have made a great difference to my life had I known them before. Truly enjoyed it even though its well past my bedtime.
Great questions and research from the interviewer. I respect Rahayu as an individual and for all that she's done, as well as the anecdotes and insights she raised. just hope that she can create more openness within the party that she is in.
i agree that it should be an aspiration for all of us to forge our own definition of success. However, the system and environment that we operate in must also accept and encourage us to do so; otherwise it is a futile attempt. E.g. a person can aspire to be a bus driver, but is that what society accepts? Will the individual be respected? It's not so simple.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I understand your perspective on forging our own definitions of success and about the importance of societal acceptance and respect for different career choices. Creating an inclusive environment that respects diverse aspirations is essential. Let's hope we can all work together to foster a more supportive society.
Thank you for sharing this. Her experiences as a business owner lawyer really strike a court. Thank you. Fellow lawyer here. Called 2014. This is my personal RU-vid account.
