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Wenn man ein Kind verliert, bringt es nichts, noch mehr zu kontrollieren. Es ist der Zeitpunkt, zur Ruhe zur kommen und ins Vertrauen, denn nichts ist schlimmer als ein Kind ab dem Tag der Einnistung zu stressen. In die Liebe und ins Vertrauen gehen und auch ein Kind das verloren geht, hatte seinen Grund. Auch wenn es schwer ist, euch und das neue Baby zu stressen ist der falsche Weg
I just found this podcast last week and I listen to it while I'm at work. I'm almost 5 months postpartum and I STRUGGLED after and felt so guilty cause I had to fight to get pregnant with my daughter. You have made my feelings feel so validated and I can't thank you enough. I know I'm not alone ❤
Thank you so much for this comment! It’s truly heartwarming to know you’re feeling supported and validated. Every stage of the journey is hard in a different way, and it’s always okay to feel that 🤍
This was an interesting episode, thank you for sharing your experience! Beyond just the language issue I am also bothered by how neither side of the abortion debate seems to think much about how the whole thing affects people who suffer miscarriages. I’ve also found it interesting how the terms is used differently in other languages. I learned that in Spanish the common term for miscarriage is “aborto espontáneo”. In France where I’m from, while we do often use the term “avortement” to talk about termination, we also commonly use “IVG” (which stands for voluntary interruption of pregnancy), and this is both the medical term and the term frequently used in more official settings including political debates
I’m so sorry! Are you in contact with your doctor about it? I found I had to be very forceful to make them listen to me, which I hated, but it was necessary.
No pain in a very long time! Just had to do a lot to get to a point where intercourse was comfortable again. Pelvic PT + pelvic wand + vaginal valium suppositories (who knew?)
@@UndefiningMotherhood Glad to hear. I am thinking about the surgery since I cant live with a bulge in there. Did it take more than 6 months to have a normal intercourse again? Thank you for sharing all this. I am trying to motivate myself as it is really a very hard step! Bless you!
@@theearthling8178 For me, it took more like 9 months. BUT--I didn't advocate for myself strongly enough. They didn't want to give me vaginal valium because I was nursing, and that was honestly the thing I desperately needed. I tried pelvic pt and a pelvic wand some, but wasn't regular with it. Once I stopped nursing and they gave me the valium suppositories, the muscles released rapidly and things were back to normal within maybe 6 weeks. I should've pushed harder to get them earlier. But if you're not actively nursing, that won't be a problem. Also, I had a hypertonic pelvic floor before, which I don't know if you have. I also had a completely detached muscle they had to reattach, which made my recovery much worse than expected. So more than likely, your recovery will be quicker and easier than mine, and if you do get a really right pelvic floor as a result, you can likely also get your urogyn to support medical interventions that'll really help PT.
My lifesaver is Miralax. 2 scoops daily and it’s soft but very easy to pass. Also, leaning forward on your knees also seems to straighten the passage and allow the ship to sail smoothly into the harbor. Haha. Peace, Avie
I was not told anything, I joined prolapse groups on Facebooks and learned a lot from women who had surgery. They have been angels with tips and support. I laid rather than sit, all last week was a problem sitting. Thank you
It couldn't sit without a donut cushion for like 6-8 weeks. NOTHING like tearing after birth. That said, my surgery ended up being much more involved than expected, so I'm not sure what's "normal."
I've had 2 prolapse surgeries and they both failed. First one they used my own tissues to cinch up my bladder. It failed within 2 months. They then used a xenograft, failed within 8 months. So depressing.
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Omg 🎉🎉🎉 Thank youuuu so much for this video. I’m 12 days out from stage 4, complete reconstructive prolapse surgery, and “fire vagina” set in a few days ago 💥 plus general pain in sitting. You gave some amazing tips. Thank youuuuu !! 🫶🏻
The “Old Maids” scheme reminded me of a museum I visited in Montreal called Maison St. Gabriel, where young and mostly poor women were shipped from France to marry the heavily male population in the 1680’s. The museum was a school for teaching them how to be a good wife and mother in the new world. It was very physically demanding. They kept some pretty invasive statistics on them like how many were married and to what social class, where they pregnant or not, it was shocking! Also shocking - how many loaves of bread the average French person ate in a day! Just the baking alone would take up the whole darn day. Great episode!!!❤
Please, no pockets on my leggings!😂 How are these on overall support? I would like support/ compression legs, thighs and booty. Thank you! Love your enthusiasm!
@@theearthling8178 I don't feel like before. I have a lot more vaginal and perineal tightness than before, but I've been able to work a lot of it out with pelvic floor PT. But while it's certainly not the same as my pre-baby pelvis, I'll take it over prolapse any day!
How far out from surgery are you? I am 13 weeks out and have the same issue. Did 2 weeks of vaginal Valium and been going to pelvic floor therapy for 5 weeks ( my therapist is amazing) but still having Levator ani pain. I had a hysterectomy for uterine and bladder prolapse that included a sacral ligament repair and mid urethral sling. All done by a Urogynecologist. Thank you for your posts.
Yes! And they’re good there, but they’ll likely end up hanging on the table for space later, and when baby gets busy, that beautiful accent piece will get broken. My wild one broke the mobile that’s over her table just last night, but at least it took her 14 months 🤦♀️🤷🏼♀️🤣
