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Unfortunately...not everyone can just up and leave 🤨 Its not as simple as saying Just Leave 🙄 Some ppl have to make an exit strategy that requires careful detailed planning and time. Its complicated. If you can quickly exit then consider yourself lucky and hightail it out there. If you're trapped for one reason or another then plan your escape safely & surely 🙏🏼🕊️
My (STBX) wife's favorite new things to tell me is, "I need you to write it down precisely" and then she will inevitably pick it apart like a lawyer trying to find loopholes while still adhering to the letter of the law, while blatantly violating the spirit of the law.
Thank you very much for another important reminder and you know that this type of scenario happens with family members, so-called friends, among others, as well! ❤
They want compliance, not complaints. Being with mine it became very clear my job was to put up with being ignored, let down, used and lied to. If I said I said I was upset about something, I'd get a passive aggressive explosion of why I'm expecting too much and being too demanding, and then invariably given the silent treatment or blocked.
That is not me, I have never been down on myself, or anyone I have always stayed positive for being the person I am, this is totally not me, whoever saying this are lies.
Heck no I try not to be scared you know I pray to God that I'll be safe and sound but God got me enough to get out of me in that situation so I'm very satisfied and I appreciate God and you know and myself that you know at the end of the day God know what he was doing make me afraid of the dark try not to but I'm not and you know how afraid of GOD!!!
dear narcissist, no contact or silent treatment has zero affect on someone who doesn’t give a sh!t about the person that’s going no contact/giving the silent treatment lol. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
Believe this woman!! She is spot on! The longer you stay with these psychopaths the worse it gets. I've been married to one for 13 years now. I choose to stay because I have 3 children with the a$$hole, and I don't want my children coming from a broken home. 💔 Just yesterday, he told me that he is going to purchase another $30,000 motorcycle because the one he has is now paid off. He got angry at me because I questioned his motives. We have 3 children we need to feed, clothe, & shelter. He only cares about himself!!
They don't CARE and will punish you for having feelings, thoughts, emotions that are your own. How dare you be yourself and think for yourself, speak for yourself or have independent thougts 🤯
Why does everyone speak about narcissists as if it’s a partner or husband or wife? What if it is a so-called friend that is the narcissist or a sister or a brother? Not enough people address that.
If you are female then they are silently but constantly scanning and scamming you... comparing you to everyone such as their best friends wife, gf, sister, work spouse, co workers, the cashier 👀 acquantances even strangers. Constantly cycling ongoing limerance type projections impossible to achieve and then punish you for not living up to their unrealistic deluded expectations 🤯
We as victims have to get self esteem and believe in are selves and quit blaming other people regardless what they are we latch on to a relationship then we cry oh I’m been abused good luck it seems like 99 percent of everyone is a narcissist stay single get laid have no kids and no drama there problem solved oh no maybe not until we latch on to some one else that smiles and us cmon get a backbone and quit blaming others it starts with our own self confidence
After you get out of a narcissistic relationship (either by discard or reverse discard), I HIGHLY recommend taking time away from dating for awhile. Spend time in solitude healing and reflecting, and hopefully praying (most important thing we can do). Also spend some time with close friends, but it's good to limit that because it can help us shut off the pain (that's good sometimes but we have to face it as well). Reflect on what kind of person they really are (we often have a disconnect between what our head knows and our heart). Also reflect on why we didn't see them for what they were, any red flags we missed, and why. I went 1 year without dating and then it was just a Dave and Busters's type arcade place on a double date. It was another year and I finally started seeing a woman romantically on actual dates. And you know what? I'm starting to see some red flags in her, so the boundaries are up and I'm backing off. Without that time to heal and reflect I might have pushed through because she seems so amazing and is beautiful and wants to be with me (maybe the biggest reason to ignore the red flags).
