This brings back memories from my own childhood.😅 My mother was NOT a gentle parent. She told me what needed to be done and did it. No depating or questions. If it was gonna hurt, she told me and that was that. How ever I have a little brother (14years younger) he is more sensitive and doughtful. So sometimes he comes to me or I step in if my mom looses her temper. She is super caring and loving but also super bossy. So I find that at 24 years old. Im already parenting my parents🙈🙈 Going at it strong worked on me pretty well but it is the oppisite when the kid has strong fears or trauma. Many people say I would be a good foster parent bc my parenting style depends on the child and I have the longest patiance of anyone I know.
I LOVE the idea of showing younger kids what will happen through play. Doctor's visits can be scary, especially since a little kid doesn't have so many under their belt. They'll be infinitely more comfortable if they have an idea of what's happening, and they know that their stuffed animal was ok, so they will be too! I don't have kids myself, but I'd imagine if there was a kid with a love for a specific show you could also get the same results by showing them "Peppa Pig Goes to the Doctor" or whatever. (Plus I just find the idea of a doctor saying "Ok, so we're gonna give you this medicine-" and the kid excitedly going "just like what Bunny had!!" EXTREMELY adorable)
Don't they sometimes end up not letting the foster parents adopt the child/children after it's been talked about? Like out of no where they decide the parent(s) can have the child/children back and foster parents get their hopes up and hearts broken when the court changes the ruling?
Or allow them to experience a safe man who also speaks with a loud voice sometimes, to lessen the trigger over time, as they learn to normalize innocuous events and not associate them with their past trauma. I do appreciate keeping hands visible in those situations though.
Honestly. I don’t have intention to be a foster parent or even have kids, and I had loving parents all growing up. But I have immense amounts of gratitude and respect for any good foster parent. I don’t know what I believe in, but I believe good foster parents will be repaid one way or another for all they do in this life.
Are there jobs I can’t have because they’ll take up too much of my time? (ie, I’ve been working towards being a history professor for a while and I don’t know how much of my time that’ll take up but I want to be able to spend time with the kids)
