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Back in April, I spoke my truth at work and I was outright called “selfish”. I spent 3 days mourning over my shattered good/agreeable person facade. And here I am developing my skin 😂 I would do that again!
If you want the "Truth" stay away from the mainstream media. The whole "System" is built on lies, manipulation and greed. Wouldn't it be "Wonderful" to live in a world where Truth, Honest and Integrity were actually valued in society and not seen as a weakness. The whole system is upside down.
Great video! Totally relate and the advice is helpful and makes so much sense. Thankyou - I've cut off most Narcissists or toxic people but the universe has sent me a psycho neighbour Lol 😂
When I was 9 I looked around and I Knew everyone was insane. When I was 13 I didn't mess around, I dropped the toxic relationships and felt empowered to do so. I knew it was correct to protect myself. Then somewhere between then and now I let this whole jabber about tolerance change my behavior and thoughts in ways I didn't consciously notice. Unconsciously, somewhere, I knew that if I didn't tolerate behavior that was corrosive in some way to the relationships I would have no one to be around lol. I know i recognized that eventually because I realized I was a useful tool and if i broke I'd be tossed out with the trash. So i pushed it down and tolerated almost to extinguishment. Then i broke. It was the greatest things to happen because it got me out of the cycles. I'm so glad i chose to stick around because now i have so much energy to channel into my heart path.
I needed to hear every bit of what this wonderful gentleman said. I resonated with everything. I am 32 and for all my life up to this moment right now today i tolerated entirely way to much bullshit. Especially in my marriage. The other kicks is the person I'm married to is a complete controlling manipulative narcissist and machiavelian he know exactly what he was doing getting together with me an 18yr old south a complete childhood of mood trauma than you could ever imaging and abuse of every kind. So you got a person who has no self esteem her and just wants someone to help you out of the darkness and he'll find who you really are. I was and am nothing more than his play toy his personal energy source that's the only reason he wants me around after 13 almost 14 yes of this shit. Well not only have i figured him out and exposed him also I HAVE HAD ENOUGH
@The-Heart-Guy now the next part that is crucial is getting myself out of there. One of my questions is how should one go about doing that. I'm sure the sooner the better, I just for some reason can't seem to shake the guilty feeling of leaving him with his health issues and his leg and foot issues. Even though I know he also uses that to keep me around and if he really wants to get better like he says then he would do what he needed to be doing instead of just saying words basically but also saying it in a way that sounds like it's my fault that he isn't getting better is my fault that he doesn't have his supplements and anything else that would possibly help. I've tolerated that as well for way to long what I would do is I would get him what ever he needed literally wait on him hand and foot and for a little while he would take his supplements he would do what a person would do if they wanted to atleast try and recover except he would stop. He would let the juices that I would make him just sit around and go to waste stopped taking the nerve supplements after him saying some crap as to why he doesn't want his fit and leg rubbed multiple times I just stop doing it cause I don't see the point of wasting my energy and time when there are other things that I could be doing things that I need to do for me. There's also the ungrateful aspect as well. So with all of that ofcourse there's loads more why do I have that feeling of guilt and why does it seem so difficult for me to just leave, leave in silence and not look back and move on with my life and probably even start to feel at peace for once in my life real peace not peace that was a false. Shirt for rambling just got alot of questions
How do you break the cycle? I have a narcissistic brother, that I tolerate every day, how do you forgive and continue is their behavior doesn’t change? The issue is that is a family member that doesn’t care about anyone but themselves
If you have called out the behaviour and asked him to respect you and are not living with him: cut him out of your life. If you are living with him, get out as soon as you can, and keep boundaries as much as you can in the living space.
I would need more context. But whatever it is I would say getting out is the key. Whether it's a personal relationship, living condition or workplace situation a daily 10 will kill you quickly. On that basis almost any alternative is better if you can't deal with it using reason.
Recovering from stroke over 3 years ago. admitted in to the hospital with a BP Of 266/135! Was in the hospital for 5 days. Was diagnosed with hypertrophic cardiomyopathy. That was a low point. Took my heath in my hands. Look into the causes of CVD, it’s not saturated fat and cholesterol. Complete and utter BS. Saturated fat has an inverse relation to hemorrhagic stroke. Found a cardiologist who understands this. Have stayed very low carb and lo and behold, there are no signs of HCM and my heart has now been characterized as normal and blood pressure starting to normalize. Dr. has de-prescribed one of the BP medications. The last piece of the puzzle seems to be attitude. So this is why I’m here. Adam It looks like you have some interesting ideas worth trying. I will keep you posted.
Ah yes thanks for reminding me :-) I've been doing a meditation before and after sleeping where I take 25 breaths, and take my time. Knowing it has a deadline keeps me focused.
Great video! And very much needed for people who are "too nice". I actually wrote down all the painful things my brother had done to me before confronting him. I also told him that I had to talk to him about our relationship because it was making me "Really" Ill and I was afraid this internal hurt and anger was going to cause a serious illness like cancer! He still didn't want to hear what i had to say! His ego couldn't handle the truth of the hurt he had caused me. I "knew" spirituality or instinctively that i had to address our relationship, because if i didn't, not only would I hate myself for not being brave, but I felt my mental and physical health would continue to get worse. I think your inner voice will keep on bothering you until you confront the person that is causing you pain. Once I cut ties with my brother 2 years ago, that inner voice stopped pestering me because the source of my pain was no longer in my life and I had dealt with the issue.
@ashleystyles6888 I think all too many people have reached this point. The danger of it is that you channel your frustration disproportionately in the wrong direction, and miss the foundation/root cause of it.
Thank you for your video definitely hit home what you said relates to me that caring for yourself just that bit more can be helpful to your inner self :) Thank you
One side effect of statins is that with long-term use, there's a possibility of dementia. I will not take pharmaceuticals. Had high blood pressure for a while but with a better diet and a little exercise it went back to normal.
Yep. I'm your age, more or less. It blows my mind how much society currently demands that we accept the unacceptable. Often, women are expected to be natural diplomats. I'm not abrasive, but I'm not a doormat, either. All of the pressure that you mention is really making people sick both mentally and physically. I won't lie, there have been some repercussions for my standing up and saying "no, I won't accept that." But I have to respect myself at the end of the day, don't I?
Well done for standing your ground. I can say for certain that the ripples formed from doing it are far more desirable than sucking it up and waiting for the far more serious consequences down the line.
Is it possible that if you removed all the over 7 behaviors but at work and in society you notice all the little narcissistic pokes, looks or comments etc because it’s so ubiquitous in modern self gratuitous society and it bugs you should you remove to ?
@johnnylovessheki waking up to narcissistic behaviour, and calling it out as it arises is a superpower. Once you get in the habit of calling it out/disarming it with a smile on your face, your world changes.
Tolerance: From late Middle English denoting the action of bearing hardship or the ability to bear pain and hardship. Who told you differently? That is the question. ❤
@@The-Heart-Guy No, that sounds like too broad of a statement. Not all intolerance is percieved as unjust, although you always have someone arguing for their side... But in general we tend to emotionally prefer an intolerance towards unnecessary interference in the lives of others. We also uphold the general principle of self-defense. The problem is understanding the truth behind each case because the propaganda can get it twisted: whether or not someone is actually defending themselves or is, in fact, the aggressor, and whether or not other people wishing to live their lives actually infringes on others. I don't like people getting indignant and crying "You can't tell me what to do!" as they suppress another group, when in actuality the other group just wants to exist openly and peacefully.
@CrescentUmbreon I'm not saying all causes of intolerance are unjust but they are perceived that way by the person experiencing it. That is the energy of intolerance. Intolerance is not necessarily always right or justified. But it is always perceived that way. When it isn't it becomes something else.
Thank you so much!!! 💎💙🙏 I feel I found your wisdom at such a right moment of my life.. Very true..I have ended up with a heart condition, which is healing ❤️ I'm learning🎼🎶🎵🎶
@The-Heart-Guy Thank you so much again, i am building my back bone and it is strong bones now, vertebrae by vertebrae, step by step, occasionally embraicing honey badger medicines 😉🤍 I'm so greatful you coming here speaking your wisdom and experiences!! Jedi 🌌🌀💎🩵🙏
Yep. The wisdom is to dicern when, how much and to know the difference. Absolutely! Unfortunately we will be at risk : 💥 7:08 💥 BUT definetly, once you just reached your limit: NO F^{]π°∆~NG MORE!!!! (I did survive one cancer. No f~ing more abuse!)
@@The-Heart-Guy I am getting my validation through RU-vid. I just have to hear that it is not OK. Even when you don't feel that it matters, it matters and I do find videos that are reflecting my experience, my thoughts and my conclusions. A couple of more years and I will be 60. How much I wish these videos and knowledge were out much earlier! Validation is so important!!! Literally: life changing! I do believe that this mental health "revolution" and knowledge about narcissistic abuse is evolutionary. We need it to survive as a species.
"I like to see if people have sense of humor". in context, and the story you gave as example, are totally passive aggressive behavior..... This is what I have to tolerate. Everyone I know is this delusional. peace
*(In my opinion)* Tolerance is the act of resistance towards reacting over a non-beneficial situation. And then that suppressed emotional charge goes within, damaging oneself Basically you take it personally and then do nothing bout it. This is a part of no attaching nor reacting to anything in order to be able to "control reality". But to complete this, you must do not react inside as outside. I swear this is no bs, but in conclusion do not hurt yourself.
I am absolutely going through this right now. Although I don’t have any problems communicating concerns with people and seek resolution, I have two close family members in my life who cannot hear anything I have to say, and steadfastly refuse to change anything because they believe I am the problem. I have done much introspection , and have approached the problems from multiple angles, but have come to the realization that any further discussion is futile. I have no other family so this is very difficult.
Totally agree with you. Dr Gabor Mate has written a couple of books about the effects of stress and repressed trauma about this, namely, 'when the body says no' and 'the myth of normal' . I'm 62 and my women friends and my sister are on blood pressure tablets and statins. Im not joining them. My hubby who has chronic fatigue has come off statins to avoid any possible muscle soreness side effects and no blood pressure tabs either. Stress managment and living a life with as little inner conflict as possible is the way to go. A friend of mine has just been diagnosed with lung cancer and kidney cancer pretty much out of the blue...ie no symptoms to speak of. She's has a lot of stress when looking after other relatives in the past , a very caring person, maybe too caring. Im going on a bit, so ill leave it there. 😊
@lynnehendersonfisher well done for avoiding meds. They simply suppress the symptoms but don't address the true cause...which is suppressed/unresolved/persistent stress. Just my opinion. Not medical advice. Which I have to say for legal reasons!
damn I actually thought tolerance had a positive meaning to it as well, but I couldn't find it in the dictionary. so all this time when they were talking about being tolerant instead of being racist, they meant staying racist but not letting it show? 😮 oh I looked up the word in my native language and that's where the positive meaning comes from. so in Estonian it basically means acceptance of differences. so confusing when it's literally the same word in 2 languages but has slightly different meanings.
@@rongike thank you for that insight. I'm sure different words have subtle differences in every language. Though the English version definitely holds a very different energy to alternatives like acceptance or forgiveness.
Thank you! Spot on! I had to cut ties with my brother 2 years ago because of his behaviour towards me over several decades. I calmly asked him if I could talk to him about his behaviour and how his behaviour had affected me and he got very defensive and angry. I wouldn't say he is a narcissist but he definitely has some narcissistic traits. Anyway, I told him that if he couldn't talk about the pain he had caused me I'd have to cut ties with him, and i did. I wished him all the best for the future and it ended like that. My ego wanted to hurt him like he had hurt me by telling him everything he had done to me but I know if I did that he would of gotten really angry and denied everything. So I think I handled it as well as I could of. Can I just say it takes extreme BRAVERY to tell someone how much they have hurt you. So well done to those people who stood up for themselves.
@BecomeConsciousNow well done. The way you dealt with your brother took bravery and a very level head. Most people will never reach that degree of self-awareness and strength.
Well i just LOVE stories with lots of detail .. who's to judge if it's nonsense & drama ? Sorry for disagreeing on this one, it even makes me feel irritated because it reminds me of the reason i don't have intense conversations with anyone anymore eversince 2020 This technique silenced my dad, my brother and me our whole life
@MielaMaze there is a huge gulf between a great story and an endless drama with a lot of detail. Let's not mix up the context here. Anyone that pattern interupts a great story is either an idiot or on the spectrum.
