If you have a problem with someone it’s ur responsibility to tell them. It’s not ok to make someone else do ur dirty work all the time. Many of the arguments and hurt feelings I’ve had are a result of someone not being able to say how they feel in the moment. Instead they complain to their own parents or gossip with their girlfriends. The Bible has good advice about this and it’s spot on. Deal with it when it happens
What if your wife has a problem with your Mom, your Dad, your sister, your brother, her sister, her Dad, her step-mom, her step-sisters, did I make my point?
👏 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 awesome meh thanks for this message I hope millions of husbands find this it would be such a relief to us Wives.Thanks so much for making this video (p.s I hope my hubs finds this video 😁)
Planning to live like a NUN and drama free. And if all women start to live like that, celibate... this will teach them sons a lesson. Because they get depressed just by the thought of living celibate. This will make them start to think , maybe. Close the doors , all doors. Dont let them near you, hug you, kiss you not even holding hands. AVOID men. And while youre doing this there might be a man that wants to go the extra mile for you Make it as difficult as it can get
I’ve never heard so much Rott in all my days. If your wife is emotionally insecure, it is NOT your job to jump through hoops to satisfy her. Her insecurities are issues within herself, her belief systems, her up bringing, her childhood experiences. No jumping through hoops will satisfy her emotional dysfunction. She needs to seek out therapy, to help her regulate to be a healthy happy supportive wife.
I’m surprised to see most of the advice, especially when it’s coming from younger women; tends to $hit on MILs. Are they losing out because they’re not tech engaged as much. I’m a married man here but just wondering if there may be a statistical bias.
zło chce by wszyscy w rodzinach nie czuli sie za dobrze a szczególnie dzieci- po to by potem nie bylo szczesliwych lub za szczęśliwych związkow i malzenstw i kolejnych pokoleń
My mother in law, on my wedding day, told my husband to make my death look like an accident for the insurance money. It’s been a toxic relationship the entire 8 years we’ve been together.
Hell, my mother-in-law was pure hell! She use to bust in our bedroom while me and my husband were in a compromising position and use walk into the bathroom while my husband was sitting on the toilet without knocking and had the audacity to try to hold a conversation with him. It was the one of the most disgusting things I have ever seen! She never liked me and I always had to hear how great his baby mama was and that they should have been married. She use to tell me that she was the only woman in her son’s life and that I would not be her first choice to marry him. Then she went on to say that if it came down to me or her, that her son would always pick her over me. I told him about the things that she would say, of course he would always make an excuse for it. Creepy as hell!
Mother in laws can destroy a relationship for sure. It not what she says or does that's the problem. It's how the man reacts to his mother. If he's aware of how she is and doesn't give in to her, then she can run her mouth all she wants. But when you have a man who has been controlled by his mother and been the "sonsband" in the relationship, then that's different. Now any actions the man takes to put his mother in her place will be met with the mother saying "The only reason you are saying that is because of her." And then the mother will tell everyone how that girl came into her son's life and ruined his relationship with his parents. When the more likely scenario was the son never cut the apron strings with mommy before beginning a relationship with a woman. And now it's going to feel to the mother like this new woman is taking her son away or turning him against her. It's a mess. Men need to cut those strings FIRST before ever pursuing a real relationship. There is only room for one woman in a man's life.
I agree but then again, I'm the wife looking for information. Thank you for the good insight however clearly I can't bring this up to my husband. Maybe make a video on how a wife should talk to her husband about this issues please, if you haven't already. I'm knew here.
Matthew 15:11,18 KJV Bible [11] Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man. [18] But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.
My MIL constantly nit-picked at me, calling me names in her native tongue like “big butt” and “porcupine “.. I constantly complained to my husband for years… This year God helped me. He exposed my narc mil. She had been complaining that my husband wasn’t giving her enough money to my brother in law. He revealed that to my husband when hubby was visiting his sister (mil lives with) and NOW he believes everything I’ve said about her. Finally vindicated! Now, I don’t have to see her stupid face for the Holidays or put up with anymore of her name calling and sabotaging, Hallelujah, and Ameen!
Choosing your wife over your mother is what submissive emasculated boys do. Being afraid of your in laws isn't a valid excuse to dump your family. Ask God, not this dude who gets too many haircuts a year.
I have drawn boundaries between mother and wife snd they don't talk to each other but only in my presence. But now my wife feels insecure if I talk to my mother in her absence. What to do ? She does not have confidence that my mother and me don't talk about my my wife at all.
There is no way to respect a mama’s boy with no backbone. My MIL is critical and annoying. She is no longer invited to our home. She’s welcome to come to restaurants or wherever, just not our home. She made her choice, not us.
Aren’t all Americans are like this? Every Americans are very proud that in this country United States of America are mostly divorced for about 50% Hey Americans are the most stupid people I’ve ever know who are killing healthy families!
Things like this draw anger out of me. Whilst all the conversation is oh let’s prioritise the wife, let’s ask her why she’s feeling this way…men are out here committing suicide, depressed, on a much greater scale than the wives. How about (not in all cases), wives humble their selves and realise their husband is In the middle of this?!?! You put a face on when you go to work EVERY DAY, yet you won’t put a face on when you meet your in law twice a year? Selfish
My fiance mom thinks i must be her slave.. she kicked me out her home and she shouts at me all the time. My fiance always listens but thinks his tired of all the problems
My MIL told us that we have hurt her feelings enormously. Giving us the silent treatment... 🤦♀️ It turned out she thinks she is the victim instead of realizing she made mistakes and sometimes working together doesn't work out. But don't blame it on the "unwillingly" daughter in law who was the first one to speak up what was very obvious that working together wasn't going to work.
Two years ago, I'd finally had enough and went no contact with mil and sil. I had to set a boundary with my husband because he was playing into their games, not understanding what he was doing to our relationship. I cut off all contact with them and told him that I no longer want to know what she's bitching about, financial problems caused by his sister, anything and everything that had to do with them. I told him not to talk about me at all with them and not to mention anything about them or their problems. According to his mother, I was the cause of her anger and hatred. I wasn't doing this or I was doing that. She complained about my cooking being too good. She's a horrible cook. She complained about my intelligence and said I have a freak brain because nobody in HER family learned the way me and my children do. She complained that I asked her for money then pitched an entire fit because I refused to take her money. She said I cleaned too thoroughly and it wasn't necessary. I stopped cleaning her kitchen and she complained that I didn't do enough. This went on for 26 years before I walked out and bolted that door shut. Now he gets frustrated because all of the problems she said I was causing, all of her anger and vitriol are still there. He still has to put up with her anger and bitterness. None of it has gone away, as a matter of fact, she's gotten worse. Our bil is now saying the exact same words I told my husband that she was doing to me: Anger, he feels attacked, everything he does is wrong, on and on. Imagine that! Right after I went no contact, I told husband that I'd remove myself from the situation and the problems should stop. They didn't stop. I knew they wouldn't because I wasn't the problem. So now he has to deal with her and all of the problems she created without a listening ear from me. It's been two years and I can see the strain on him. Sorry, not sorry.
i can only warn people to not fear God because you think you have a higher moral standart than God! you havent .. you just have a hybris thinking that if YOU being in charge you would do so much better than him .. but .. if you would be in charge .. this world would be a living hell! look how much worse this world got since the world has abandoned God. i was an atheistiv leftist my whole life .. i was raised by a single mother (my dad died so i hold nothing against her) without a father and a atheistic mother i had to get 36 .. until i found God. by then i build nothing .. for my life and starting you life at 36 is very bad! there was no room for error .. but the error came with a unfaithful and evil wife (she lied and stole my money and other stuff and ofcourse cheated on my with a couple of guys .. once on a holiday trip i payed for her .. her son (which i treated like my own and provided for him) and her mother .. while i was at home working my ass off to pay for the complete renovation of the old house her mother gave us. the renovation did cost more than a new house would. i think me wanting this family after realizing the lies ive believed and lived all of my life so much that it made me blind for all the red flags! i thought trusting God would be enough. which it wasnt. God wont act against your own free will. and she did what she wanted! it doesnt help that she wants me back now. things are to broken and satan won again like he does so often in our time. he took another family down! now im 46 and i think im done. i wount be able to start a family anymore! im to broken! all of this .. because i believed the left anti God agenda and that cost me a good life with a family which i wanted more than anything else! still im so happy that i found God .. i just wish i would have been raised in his spirit! life would have been so much better! i think i had it in me when i was young! i had it in me to start a big family and be a good provider for them. and i had it in me to be a good member of society who really achieved something .. but im empty now! the lies of satan cost me everything .. i feel so bad and i think i cant trust a female ever again! im not suicidal or such ;) and to be honest i dont even know why im writing this comment under this video! .. God bless
Listen up guys (married men). Don't worry about ruining your relationship with your mother in order to prioritize your wife. Your mother has also been another man's wife and she expected to be put first. She already had her day in the sun. Now she is ALSO expecting to be put first by her son? Selfish! Tell your mother that she is being selfish. Don't be afraid to rock the boat. Your mother will get over it. If you are more concerned about being a good son than a good husband, you are violating your marriage contract. Do you want to lose your wife? Do you want to end up in divorce court? Then keep on being "confused" as to which woman to prioritize. Your father was not confused. Your mother sure got to enjoy being your fathers top priority and being the queen of her castle. Let your wife enjoy the same sense of comfort and security now. Don't deny her that. It is her marital right. Put your mother firmly in her place and set solid boundaries. She may kick and scream. She may lash out and become a crazy lunatic. Surely she will blame your wife and not you. Don't let these toxic antics from your mother faze you. Do you want to remain married? Your mother will have to get over it and if she chooses NOT to get over it, then you must cut your losses and move on to enjoy your marriage without her negative influence in your lives.
It difficult in my situation. My mother in law has Dementia and my husband moved her in with us. We have a teenager and this has not been easy at all. I feel like there is no room for me, I feel like an outsider in my own house 😞
The trait that made me want to marry my husband was the way he treated his mother. I'd always been taught that you can tell the measure of a man if he treats his mother with respect that will also mean he'll be respectful to his wife. I never dreamed in a million years we'd be sharing a house with his mom, but we are. In the five years we've lived here, she has done everything in her power to paint me as a thoughtless, selfish woman and belittle me in every possible way. I'm going to have my husband watch this. Hopefully it will help our relationship.
Your husband needs to tell his mother to shut the * up. Excuse my Japanese. As long as you're respectful and not instigating, this is how it should be. You are the mother of his children and take priority. His mother doesn't mean apricot one as her usefulness is over. Just my opinion.
Husbands have it made! A wife's mother and even father will hardly EVER treat their son in law like dirt. All of the "in law" problems of this world are almost ALWAYS caused by the mother of the ;husband. Wimpy, weak husbands who are afraid to stand up to their mothers and protect their wives are an abomination to marriage. They are NOT marriage material and should not have gotten married in the first place.
