"Everyone's going wrong, so I should...what?" The Socratic method makes sense. Map out the logic, facilitate discussion and assemble the pieces of the logic...in other words, take people on a journey to an end you see/desire, but be ready to patiently and excitedly lead people there.
Thank you for this wonderful video For each key point, I have put a heading making it useful for people to refer to. These are my favourite headings: Friends. Beautiful mess effect. Secret = boost the positive = top point. Love Maps. Video released 12th May 2022. Watched 24th April 2023. 11 months later. Key points Funny 00:20 I am working on a book. Get lost Loneliness 3:06 It is a narrative thing. It’s the story u tell yourself about your relations, not the truth about them. [But it is your truth] Social media 7:15 It goes into your social budget. Ease of access 08:33 we moved away from meeting people due to the ease of staying at home. Friends 10:30 Aristotle = a friend is another self. [Same point mentioned in How to be perfect by Mike Schur. A person is a person through other people] 12:25 friends make us happier than any other relation. 13:13 friendship’s fragility proves its purity. No institution for it. Don’t show up to work? You get fired by your boss. Don’t pay attention to your partner? You get divorced. There is no institution for friends hence they get less respect. It is a choice. It is not in a contract because there is not one. Beautiful mess effect 17:10 When others tell us of their weaknesses, we are accepting. Hence we can be less judgemental. Heart Attack 18:10 not opening up increases your chance of a heart attack but also it being lethal. 18:18 oh my gosh. Funny 20:00 historical era = help-me-not-die marriage 22:35 sunk cost fallacy 23:03 Eric waves his hand to the left. Looks like he just brushed off Stever Gottman’s 4 horsemen 23:23 same 4 mistakes Secret = boost the positive = top point 25:00 Don’t just fix the negatives. Must boost the positives. This is more important than just fixing negatives. Love Maps 28:35 Ask your partner the big Q’s. What does love mean to you? [ Big Q for me is what is fulfilment?] 29:09 now I know why they are upset because doing household chores is an act of love. A bad thing to happen is negative sentiment override. You just assume your partner is bad. 30:22 Stever sees cleaning the kitchen is an act of love. Thank you for this wonderful video.
1:50: Elevator Pitch to Elevator connection. 4:45: Employee: Elevator connection. 6:20: Job hunting: Elevator connection 8:28: 'Did you know' technique
@@SteverRobbins no a problem 😁. I believe as the content creator if you use time stamps in your video description it will create a catalogue time stamp feature for you / your viewers
I think the interviewer didn't quite understand the issue of loneliness. It's not about narrative or storytelling but the depth, meaning and significance of the relationships. It's not about numbers but depth and meaning.
By addressing the underlying concern, you were up front and able to address the concern. Well done. How can one plan to do this ahead of time? I would give the wrong answer because it takes me time to come up with the right answer.
Before going into a negotiation, I would list out on a piece of paper all the objections I expect the other side to have. Then for each objection, ask, "what are all the underlying concerns that could lead to this objection?" You'll be surprised that you can usually figure out more than you think you know. Price objections, for example, may come down to: they don't understand the value of what I'm bringing to the situation, or they can't afford the price out of the current budget (but there may be other budgets they can pay from), etc.
I always wondered about the “work hard” advice. I worked hard. It didn’t exactly get me where I wanted to go. Thank you gor declaring this a pernicious myth.
This one drives me absolutely crazy, because people accept it so unquestioningly. First of all, most people work hard, but most people aren't rich. So clearly there's not a direct relationship. Then you have the Fortune 500 CEOs who also sit on four Boards of Directors, attend conferences, give media interviews ... and if they have the time to do all those things, are they really working that hard at their CEO job?
That was brilliant! What a great host, you asked all the right questions to get to the heart of the matter quickly and finished it perfectly with your own self discovery. What awareness, thank you!
+ 10:55 - 13:46 : 🔥Friend (all about friendship) Friend as Another self. + 16:08 : Time, Vulnerability, + 21:04 : About Marriage, Winner Take All Marriages , best marriage. + 23:19 : John Gotman's Four horseman of Marriage, 25:33 : You fell in love because you do all kind of fun stuff together. 26:12 : Emotional Contagion - Whatever is happening in the environment we associate them with the person. + 28:20 : Just Ask to get to know partner.
The whole book is full of surprising advice and science about relationships. Friendship being the most happiness-producing form of relationship, along with being the -least- studied, was a big surprise to me.
I have been digging and learning about the company lately and I believe this interview helped me understand what are the values and the different aspects on which Darrell and the whole company are focusing on. Great work!
Darrell is a gem of a human being. One of the things I find especially admirable is that he's managed to succeed at making Logitech successful -both- as a business -and- in terms of its environmental and social impact. He's the only CEO I know of who is proving that it's possible to bring our businesses substantially in line with social good.
ARGH. My apologies. I don't know what happened to the feed. My streaming platform recorded the two individual video feeds. I'll try to edit them together and post them
It was great to be with you for this discussion, Stever. I loved your questions and they really help us to think about what "Live andLet Live" really means --- and doesn't mean. Thank you for the honor to be with you.
This interview brings the concepts to life and makes them easier to understand (more difficult to treat as "something interesting in a book to put on the task list"). Thanks for doing the interview.
It's funny ... I had read the book before doing the interview, but the interview brought out different points. In the months since, I've adopted Time Boxing as a major part of my life. Still working on making it perfect, but I'm much closer than I was before.
This is true legally. In practice, however, the shareholders only exercise oversight through valuation and/or share price. Unlike everyone else in a company, a CEO has no manager. No one holds them accountable for their daily behavior.
@@SteverRobbins When the CEO has no manager and no one holds them accountable for their daily behavior, that is when the company is privet and is not being traded in any market. Once the company becomes public, the CEO can get voted out by the board of shareholders if that CEO does a lot of bad stuff.
After you listen, we're going to be counting on you to help further the cause of building great businesses that do great things for the world, as well. Using Logitech equipment, of course!
Mixed feelings on the cartoon. I like how you see yourself as having a playful bent, but these cartoons don't fit your brand of playfulness. I wouldn't say they undermine you - more like a missed opportunity to build a self-resonant storytelling style. I do like the use of visuals in the videos so I'd continue to experiment.
No, the cartoons didn't undermine it. I'm also trying to figure out what I want to do next in my consulting business, and I have the same reaction to the idea of coaching coaches/consultants-that it seems like mlm, and I get them coming out of the woodwork to cold-call me.
It's being on the receiving end that makes me feel squeamish about being on the soliciting end. It seems like there are just too many people claiming to help coaches market themselves.
You're a pilot in the plane, but not quite a bird in the hand? That makes me fear that you're a bird in the propeller, which is NOT part of the methodology!
