Hi, my name is Julie and welcome to my channel! I'm a psychologist, coach, and author of Loved: Relationship Rules for Women Who Thought They Knew the Rules.
I help people break free from people-pleasing. I was caught in this cycle and so are most of my clients. In my videos I talk about how to get out of the cycle through better boundaries, better communication, emotional growth, and understanding yourself and others. If you get a lot out of this channel, you'll also learn how to navigate conflict better.
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I had no idea that giving someone the silent treatment was considered passive aggressive behavior. Thank you so much Dr Julie for your insights and advice. Your tip sheet is definitely worth reading, and so helpful!!
I had never heard of loving detachment before, and you explained it so well! My biggest fear is that if I practice loving detachment with my husband, that he may continue to do unhealthy things, like eat unhealthy food, and that will possibly shorten his lifespan. So because of this, I tend to nag him to get him to eat right and to take his medications. I’m on the fence about what to do.
This is a tough one and lots of people (including me) have had to confront this dilemma. The consequences of your husband not taking care of himself hurt you, not just him, and you want him to be healthy, of course! But he's an adult and can make his own decisions. In fact, he probably dislikes being nagged, which makes him more resistant to eating healthy--he doesn't want to do "what he's told." You're best bet here is to explain how you feel and what you are going to do, *one time.* And then let him decide whether he is going to follow through or not. _For example, I want you to eat healthy so you are as healthy and happy as possible because I love you. I'm going to continue to make healthy meals and offer you healthy snacks, but I'm no longer going to insist that you eat them or nag you about not eating unhealthily. It's up to you whether you decide to eat healthy or not. And if you don't eat what I make, that's great because it leaves more for me!!_
I love this video! I think it would be really helpful. If you did another video with some specific examples of common situations and how a person could set boundaries.
Having kids in a broken world, instead of adopting, knowing climate changes, possibly harm, handicaps and other miseries that this world has to offer AND THEN judge women who chose to take care of themselves, travel, enjoy their young 20s and 30s , excel in their careers is selfish. More women should learn to be selfish with their time on Earth. Nobody ever asked us to be here, so it is up to us to chose how we want to live it. As long as it is not to harm others there is nothing wrong with saying NO I won't please others so that they are comfortable.
The 'S' word. It's a tough one. I feel like we spend our whole lives undoing the indoctrination of our worthlessness. Thank you for this video, Julie. It's so needed. ❤ (And I love that shirt. 😍)
