A podcast for the modern day Asian American woman hosted by Melody Cheng, Helen Wu, and Janet Wang.
We started this podcast as an outlet for topics we are interested in, and for sharing stories we have as 20-30 something yr. old Asian American women working, dating, and living in Los Angeles.
It's no secret that Asian women are lacking in almost all media outlets. As three women working in finance, technology, and media who balance careers, life aspirations, and eventful social lives (we have our fair share of 5am returns from the club), we hope our perspectives can help, inform, and entertain those girls (and guys) with similar backgrounds or an interest in our backgrounds.
We like to think of this as our invitation for you to join our once private girl talk sessions! So grab a glass of wine and let's get this show started ;)
My Korean mother is a nars. Through years of therapy untangled the messy controlling. Now I see her true colors, our relationship has changed a lot through avoidance. When I experience a bossy woman I find it annoying.
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To people who don’t know anything about toisan or hoisian 台山is city in the Guangdong area where they less money than an average person in New Yorker grownup it isn’t the Same as other cities
Very good episode. I only wish you three had this nearly 35 years ago. It would have been helpful back then. For the three ladies, having individual careers that are important, it's something that are big factors. I'm curious about the 4 levels of the couple, one being professional-career and one not so career driven. One might be level 2 and the other being level 4. One not sure if they are level 3 and the other thinking they are 3. All three ladies give valuable input for being couples. Mahalo.
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Resonate alot with Helen's parents way of parenting. Immigrant parents did whatever they could so that their kids could study hard and be active members in school and society while giving us the value of always having your families back regardless of anything!
32 year old here who still feels like theyre in their 20s. Loved this episode as a reflection springboard on how I've also changed over time and the growing I still need to do emotionally. As a chronically independent girlie having just moved in with a partner, I'm reminded that life isn't all about just taking care of myself, it's also about caring for the people around you, making sure you feed others even if you're not hungry, thinking about their needs. Here's to all of us growing up in beautiful ways. ❤
28:15 gave me goosebumps because i feel I'm still on the path to find out. Just turned 27 and I'm only at the beginning, trying to figure out what I want. But to actually hear Helen validate my thought of "everything I do or don't do will make sense eventually" makes me feel so peaceful. To see how different all of your paths were, and still not actually regretting anything shows how many paths there are and that no matter what way you go, you'll get there. It's the journey that counts🥰🥰
I’m about to enter my 30s and really starting to think about if I’m where I want to be in terms of adulting and values. So I looooved this video and insight shared
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I relate so much to Janet and her journey. Really appreciate the vulnerability and having someone articulate and reflect my own experiences so clearly! Thank you ladies - love your work
extremely relatable! eldest daughter to 2 sisters (6 & 12yr age gap) and to last born-parents! for a long time, it was a personality trait being the eldest and practically 2nd mom. i've attributed people pleasing tendencies. had to become hyper independent early on learning how to figure things out on my own, the default caretaker for my family, always following the rules, etc. makes sense why i married my husband who's an eldest child too lol
I've only ever seen compassion and sympathy for people who've lost a child. Anyone who'd shame you for something that is out of your control, is pretty awful. Maybe it's more common in certain cultures? Either way, that's no bueno! It's hard enough to lose a child (I have friends and family who've lost babies) but to have some plank blame you! Wow. Even if the parents did something risky to cause a fall and lose the baby...they definitely feel bad enough already - our only job should be to comfort them
How about having a different political stand or preferences within siblings? My younger brother (8 years gap) is sooo confident in being wrong about his immaturity in politics. Little did he know that he is actually rooting for a very corrupt political party and then later on complain about rampant corruption in our country (we are not Americans btw!) 😂 then blame the good ones who are actually doing a job well done. He is too busy with work to do his own research on who to vote for, know the good guys etc. It saddens me cuz we have always been so close and we agreed upon almost every thing, but not politics. He is 28.
Great episode! Wish Annie was a guest on this episode, would love to hear her experience as an eldest daughter. Now, you need to do the youngest daughter episode :)
Hi! I’m an oldest sibling with a younger brother by around two years. I felt that I could relate a lot to many of the topics involved, like feeling like I want to take care of my brother, the heavy responsibilities as the eldest, especially in academics, and my parents experimenting with my experiences. I do think that with heavy pressure, it can be stifling depending on how you were raised and in school, I always felt a mental weight on my shoulders that only lifted once I graduated college and then got a full time job. And eventually had to find ways to give myself some legroom to forgive myself when I could not meet the expectations set out for me. But it all comes from learning and making mistakes like anything else. Thanks for sharing your thoughts as listening in was enjoyable for sure.
I'm the eldest daughter, with a brother younger by 2 years. So much of this episode resonated with me. Mel's story about needing to feel strong in front of her brother, and always being nurturing and taking care of him. And learning now that we're older, how to have a more friendly relationship as peers, rather than older vs younger. Thanks so much for this episode!!
Hi~ I’m not the eldest child, but I am technically the eldest daughter. (Middle child, only girl of 3 siblings.) My dad was the first child in his family so I did feel a lot of responsibility as the oldest girl granddaughter / cousin. I’m close to the adults and do kinda put on a mask around the younger cousins. I have a lot of the eldest daughter traits but I feel like it’s more self inflicted because I gave myself so much pressure to do things right vs getting pressured to do anything. Now my older brother lives in China and I’m the closest to my parents so it’s a little different than you guys, but I do feel like the eldest daughter.
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In my growing up, my eldest sister calls it bossy older sister. The list that was mentioned about resentment might depend on the number of younger siblings/sex of siblings and relationship. In some families, if the eldest daughter is put greater accountability on the younger siblings, which if there is restriction on the eldest and less on the younger siblings, as well as whether the younger siblings takes advantage of the accountability of the eldest by the parent and there are more advantages given to the younger sibling then the eldest had. For both ladies, there are only one sibling. I recently was talking to a friend, about another friend, who was one of ten children, and that friend was one of the younger ones. With more siblings, there is more stress, responsibility of the eldest daughter versus the first son of an Asian couple.
Hey guys. I'm a younger Asian brother with an older sister by 8 yrs. So I feel you guys. But I have to say the most important point is that no one says you have to be the responsible put together one. As a younger sibling I would have rather had you not be perfect so we can work together on solving stuff. Girls seem to put unnecessary pressure on yourselves. I know it's hard but try to shrug it off and ignore any haters. Especially parents. They chose to have you and you don't owe them.
To compare themselves to Dropout or Nebula is LAUGHABLE. Are they really willfully ignorant to acknowledge how little content they put out? Watcher doesn’t have a reliable upload schedule, they don’t have extra shows, or new on screen talent. They’ve even REMOVED content from Watcher!!! Now they’ve gone on Tour and put most things on hold AGAIN. They haven’t learned anything it seems.
