Hi - I'm Jo Banks. I'm an international executive business coach, author, trainer and entrepreneur.
For the past 15 years, I've helped thousands of people overcome fears, blockages, procrastination and a heap of other things holding them back from achieving their career and life goals.
Previous to that, I spent 20 years as a senior HR professional in a wide range of industries. So one thing I know a lot about is people!
On my channel, I'll share many of my simple but effective top tips, tools and techniques designed to help you to thrive. I’ll teach you the skills necessary to stand out from the crowd and be a happier, healthier you.
Whether you want to enhance your personal or professional life, you can learn how to manage your emotions, build your resilience/mental toughness, and elegantly deal with life's inevitable challenges here.
Interesting to note you previously worked in HR. I was a little surprised, as unfortunately my three and a half decades of work lead me to conclude that HR was the last place to go to report any workplace abuse. It would either yield no result or escalate the abuse.
@ajjudge7983 thanks for your comment. Yes, I worked in HR, but left it 15 years ago for a number of reasons, one being exactly the reason you state here, plus the fact that I was bullied by an HR Director! It's also important to note that not everyone in HR is a bad person. Most people go into HR to help people and believing they can make a difference. However, if the senior management of the organisation is not behind those ideals, nothing changes. I talk more about my experience in this video: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-e4IpfdRhjVI.html
@@JoBanks thank you so much your reply. I will watch your guide with interest and I’m glad you were able to create a more conducive environment for yourself. I found that HR in my experience could be gold medal standard gaslighters. But as you say, not everyone in that sector is a mean individual. To your continued success and happiness!
Hi Jo , I know your always looking for video ideas , our workplace has a workplace bullying management culture endorsed by the manager , it is very difficult to get them exposed to the correct agency , but one thing I didn't notice was my female team leader had her girlfriend working on the floor and there was so much nepotism/favoritism going on , that any complaint was never actioned very well because management were all looking after their own backs , but eventually she was moved then left , what I failed to notice and I may have thought it was coming from a higher person ( like cats paw principle) but I actually think a lot of it was because she was in power /position , Alpha female, so the people involved in complaining were treated to what I call "Payback Retaliation" , years and years of nasty, over monitoring . The company policy doesn't mean a thing to these people and management have so much protection so they can keep doing it . .Thanks .
Hi @Cobra427Veight I'm sorry that you've had to go through that. Unfortunately, everything you've said, is common in narcissistic type bahiours. Thank you so much for raising it ❤ Yes, I'm always looking for content ideas and I'll have a video on 'Narcissistic Payback Retaliation' in the next couple of weeks. I'll also be doing a series diving more deeply into the most common narcissistic traits. So, watch out for those!
In my case it's the HR Director who is initiating the sabotage throughout the administrative department (and likely the organization) with a boss who is completely under her spell.
That's a tough one, @DiannaKendall-y3b. That's what happened to me in my workplace bullying situation. It's very difficult to handle. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
Oh Jo, I think I am experiencing passive agressive stuff in work. My Boss at the start of meetings when ive already started a conversations with clients, when they innitiated to ask me advice. My boss openly says my name in front of people, "Thats not talking about his work again. Or Boss will say, I talk about the 'real stuff' in front of clients and myself, as if the stuff I talk about is not important or valid. Phew.
Thank you for mentioning that you are still affected 15 years later. I've been removed from the situation for a couple of years now, but have questioned myself about still being so messed up by it. It's comforting to know that other people have gone through the same thing.
@mspointyears no problem at all. Please be kind to yourself. What they did was wrong - that's important to remember - but you can heal from it. It takes time and self-kindness! I really recommend talking to someone about it or journaling. Both of those things can really help.
Put it like this: “nobody wants to work for an a-hole” The problem some managers put the company at risk for lawsuits because of their behavior. You can sue the company for harassment.
@luisriba8082 - thanks for your comment. Unfortunately, in the UK, it's not quite as easy as suing the company for harassment. We have different laws over here. But I always say to get out sooner rather than later if your company isn't willing to resolve the issue (which, in my experience, is most of the time).
Although, the advice is this video is reasonable, often times you cannot approach a boss who is unreasonable. What to do? Approach a state agency or attorney because HR protects the company's interest first and foremost. Working outside the company's reach will get them to pay attention to your situation. 🎯
I completely agree @Save 657 - I always say that you should try and tackle the issue internally, but always advise to get out sooner rather than later if the company isn't willing to resolve things. Unfortunately, in the UK we have extremely strict employment laws so it isn't as easy to just 'sue your employer'.
Thanks for commenting @anksmish90 - I was brought up in a chaotic household and it can be hard to break free. My advice, take it one day at a time! It's definitely a marathon not a sprint! Take care of you. ❤
Thanks Jo. I have felt really upset and confused recently why I have not been enjoying my job - I realise after watching this that I am actually quiet quitting, but have been blaming it on my disabilities and menopause. It's due to issues with my current line manager's lack of interest in actually managing me. He skips our one-to-ones (often booking in other meetings), treats a male colleague differently to me (such as ringing him to discuss stuff we are both working on and then expecting him to tell me) and avoids having any engagement with me at all where he can help it. I had a better line manager previously and we were moved to a different team. My dealbreaker has been having been overlooked in favour of my male colleague, being told I talk too much and that I overtalk/overshadow others (I have ADHD - no offer of support to deal with this has been offered, just criticism), being the last to find out things, having my work criticised in front of others and being made feel I am a nuisance with what is going on with my menopause. I realise I am actually feeling quite depressed and anxious about going to work and have considered speaking with my GP to sign me off so I can work through all this :( xx
Oh my goodness, @inyourelementtherapies6808 I'm so sorry that you're going through all this - I too have ADHD (only diagnosed at 53) and am going through menopause AND I've had a bullying boss, so I'm very well aware of the challenges you're facing. I would definitely recommend speaking to your doctor to get some professional advice. I can only speak for myself, but HRT has been an absolute life-saver for me. Also, I recommend checking out my other videos, I have ones on ADHD and Managing the Menopause. You may find some useful tips in there. Please take care of you. Remember, you can't pour from an empty cup! Lots of love ❤️
@monterreymxisfun3627 I can imagine that and I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Please make sure that you're filling your 'down time' with stuff that you enjoy; hobbies and interests, etc. It's very easy to slip into functional freeze when you're in an environment that doesn't support you. Take care of yourself and thanks for supporting my channel. I appreciate you.
Hi @emmamcgowan9249 thanks for your feedback. No sooner said than done! I've just recorded one and will get it out over the weekend. I've also recorded one on Imposter Syndrome. If you have any other topics you'd like me to cover, just let me know. It's really helpful for me 😁 Can you also ask your students to like, comment and subscribe please? It really does make a huge difference to the algorithms! Thanks so much. x
@JoBanks can you do one for women's adhd? That wouod be incredible. I locked my self in the change room t work the other day between surgeries when I felt overwhelmed and watched your video. Felt so much better afterwards and the dog got my full attention for it's anaesthesia.
@emmamcgowan9249 following the fabulous feedback from my tapping videos, I've decided to start a new channel (which will be launching next week - 1 July!) which will be focussed on tapping, self-hypnosis, breath work, etc. The algorithms didn't like that I mixed workplace topics with holistic therapies (it got all confused), so watch out for that. I'll definitely be doing some videos on ADHD. Can you tell me exactly what you struggle with or what you would like to see a tapping video on precisely - there are so many things I could cover. Your help would be very appreciated and as soon as the new channel is live, I'll post it in this thread.
@@kevinkevin-ug9po thanks for your message. I decided against the new channel - it was too much work to handle two and a full-time job, so I've been slowly adding videos to this channel. I'll also be including some self-hypnosis audios in the next few weeks.
@Nekonnaa Fantastic. 🙌🏼 I'll be uploading three more this week on 'reducing fear and panic right now', 'calming feelings of overwhelm' and overcoming procrastination - so watch out for those! ❤️
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In tech you can wait until the system crashes and let the credit snatcher twist in the wind with a broken system for a few weeks. A key system being down quickly catches the attention of senior management. You wanted to be highly visible? Enjoy failure while under the spotlight.
Just quit not worth giving them your time anymore , I just did, felt great to see them being shocked to be honest. NOW i get 20% more pay and 2 steps up in my career
@frufrubb45 - I have to agree, but some people, for whatever reason, just can't do that, but it definitely worked out for me. Sometimes, it is a process though! I'm thrilled that it's all worked out for you and thank you so much for commenting. Comments like yours really do help others. 🙌🏼😁
Thank you for your video! I have ADHD and it is really draining to drive 4 times a day with the bus and train. When I'm at home, there is often no energy left. I feel so bad about it, but I have no control over it. Do you have a idea, how can I help myself after getting home? It is not really easy for me to get a few minutes alone, because I have a beautiful family. But I don't wanna be emotionally drained, when we are together. Thank you! 🌞
@divineLight1215 I hear you! What I would recommend to anyone in your position is to make use of your travel time. Listen to uplifting/calming music (depending on your mood) or inspiring podcasts when you're in the car and do some deep breathing exercises. If you're on a train or bus, try some mindfulness practices, including breathwork or even journalling. All of these things will help you manage your nervous system and help you feel calmer and more in control. I cover some of these practices in these two videos: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-wHZJx86SrQw.html ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-wHZJx86SrQw.html I hope that's helpful. 😁
Excludate , spreading rumors , favoritism, raising voices, withholding information, passive aggressive behavior, gaslighting , bullying all these going on in my work place. Now I m the target, cos I spoke up
Goodness, I'm so sorry you're having to go through that. I have lots of videos on my channel that can help you. Here's a playlist covering this type of content: ru-vid.com/group/PLDNJr70wG7Ke8Yvgwye5IywalSigcbO4G
Thank you for the video. My question is, when HR or a mediator gets involved, the manipulation/ gaslighting/DARVO will continue. What is your advise on dealing with this during mediation sessions? How can you make HR/mediator not fall for the manipulation of the bully.
Hey @MamaKwebbelkop thanks for your message. I would always suggest sticking to the facts and the evidence. That's why I discuss keeping detailed notes of the abuse in pretty much every video I do on this topic. Dates, times, witnesses, physical evidence such as emails, text messages etc are crucial. If they try to gaslight you by bringing in irrelevant things, always bring it back to the evidence and what you are discussing right now. Hope that helps. Of course, as always, this information is generalised and not in any way personalised to any particular instance. You use this advice and anything I discuss in my videos at your own risk.
@daynagonzalez-hj8jw thank you so much for your comment. It actually came at a really good time. Over the weekend, I was considering stopping doing my videos because they take so much work and so few people interact with me that I was wondering if it was really worth it. Then I got your comment... ❤️
Oh gosh, Jo i just realised I've been under this for the past 10yrs now. No wonder i suddenly started feeling very depressed, anxious, sick. My cortisol levels and insulin resistance has been extremely high in the past 10yrs and I've suffered depression, suicidal, heart attacks, slipped disk, falling episodes etc, etc... At work, no recognition, no promotion, isolation, lack of authentification, not being kept in the know, being made to feel useless etc, etc. My head of department once told me to find something more relaxing where i just stand around a shop floor! Every job I've applied for i never get...feels like they give negative references on me. I feel so stuck Jo😢😢😢 I want to leave but goy no support...manager, hr and union are all colluding with each other. I feel terribly alone. Who will employ a 61yr old today?😢😢
Hi @mercyln6646 sorry to hear you're going through a tough time. I have lots of videos on stress and managing your emotions together with how to handle difficult work situations. Have a look through some of those. I know they will help. They are designed specifically for people, such as yourself, who are going through a tough time.
