Sakina Counseling is the private practice of Noha Alshugairi, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. Sakina Counseling's mission is to help the global Muslim Ummah integrate culture and faith thus living Islam authentically in the 21st Century.
The notion that the men are not listening and that it is they who are emotionally unavailable is unfounded. I gave up on a female therapist because of this very reason. The material is helpful JAK but alienating men will not help. It will most likely drive away the few who might be curious.
Thank you for your interest. Positive Discipline courses to be able to teach others are called Teaching Parenting the Positive Discipline Way and are offered at the following website: positivediscipline.org/Training Insha Allah I am planning to offer a course online in the fall of this year.
You do your love through your actions (mawaddah) and you have an understanding and empathy for the shortcomings of your spouse (rahma) If you do these two you will have sakina ( tranquility) in your marriage
Excellent talk sister Nouha! Going to look up your book now. As a side note to the last topic you discussed, using sentences like Amir's "If you don't go to bed, I'll be sad/angry," can also leave a young child feeling too powerful and that can lead to worry and fear. I follow Janet Lansbury and Magda Gerber's parenting philosophy, and I learned that using words that mean, in essence, you are causing me to lose emotional control is very unsettling for a young kid. We have to do our best to be their rock, even if we don't always feel so confident. They need to feel our strength, our leadership. Having a preschooler or toddler hear you say that their actions are affecting you to the extreme (e.g. you are making me sad/mad) is giving them too much unwanted power. Like the CEO of your company saying to the new employee, OK you take over my meetings and budgets for the day. Can you imagine the fear and worry? Be their rock as much as you can. Hold firm to your boundaries with respect and if you make a mistake or change your mind on a rule/boundary, then let them know and move on.
Mashaallah tabarakkallah I watch both of you differently in ur you tube channels, never knew u r related....soo beautiful mashaallah. I feel so humble to know u both.
