We're Tenaj & Tino and although we travel full time New Orleans will always be home. However, our love for new experiences has taken us beyond the Big Easy. Six years ago we said Goodbye to our lives in America and moved to Malaysia. Selling our home and buying one way tickets jumpstarted our New Life of adventure.
This Channel takes you on an unconventional journey as we vlog our travels and show you how it's possible for two kids from the city to see the world 🌎
🧿 Stick around as we try to retrieve our van from Mexico.
As a local and practicing Real Estate / HOA attorney, Tulum is a complicated beast. The cost of owning decent property is absolutely ridiculous and artificially induced by the market’s blatant abuse of foreign investor capital while simultaneously degrading the quality of life for the Mexican workforce. It’s a great environment for professionals such as myself who are just riding that wave until the next great buy-out of our lands by Mexican shell corps privately owned by foreigners & set up to bypass the constitutional prohibition on allowing foreigners to own our land so close to the beachfront. It’s sick though unavoidable reality of capitalism. Eventually all this will implode on itself but kudos to the vacationers who won’t be here when that happens, I guess.
You said it perfectly! I tried it one time when I lived in the NC for a year. I was pissed off because I bought several items to give them all a fair chance. It was plain and literally just boring food I can make on my own.
👍🙏💝 Hi Fam, sending prayers, hugs and love. Thank you for sharing this with us. That’s a lot to deal with. Both of my parents are deceased but if they were still there isn’t anything I wouldn’t do for them. Do whatever is on your heart to do. Wishing praying for healing for your parents.🙏💝
You only feel guilty when you know in your heart that you are not doing what you know you are supposed to do. Your mother will not always be here. Your activities will always be there. Do you have to? No Most kids nowadays only think about themselves and their needs and the parents come last. Let your heart be your guide BUT I’m telling you, your mother needs you and wants you to be with her. Abuse happens in hospitals and nursing homes and they need you to speak up for them.
Thank you for your thoughtful perspective. It's clear you have a deep sense of duty and care for family, especially for our elders. Every situation is unique, and sometimes difficult decisions must be made with the best intentions. It can be a delicate balance between caring for a loved one and managing other responsibilities.
We know exactly what you mean! We are in a motorhome full time. My mother was supposed to go on a trip across the US with us. She's 90 as of yesterday. Well the trip went good but my mom didn't come with. She got a little scared and was doing all kinds of weird things instead of just saying "I don't feel like going or I don't think I can make it" or something. Anyway it got bad to where we had to just leave her with another sister. I was so sad because I know she loves to travel also. My time with my mom means everything to me. I just hope she forgives us for leaving her because she has lived with us for over 20 yrs. And right now I don't think she wants to be where she's at. Very sad....😥
It's truly heartwarming how much love and care you have for your mom. It must have been a tough decision to make. Sometimes, as our loved ones age, their fears and anxieties can surface in unexpected ways. It sounds like you made the best decision you could under the circumstances.Your mom's had the comfort of living with you for over two decades, and that bond won't be easily broken. I hope that with time, understanding, and continued love, she'll come to see that the choice was made out of concern for her well-being. Sending you strength and positive thoughts during this difficult time. Your dedication to family is truly inspiring.
@@TenajTino Thank you for the kind words! And.... Wishing you all the best and blessings to all you do! Praying all goes well in your endeavors.🙏 Take one day at a time because nothing is promised. And for your VAN...If you feel in your heart that you should still pursue it. Do it!! It was your blood sweat n tears that went into it. I'm like you, If there's any kind of chance of getting it back do it. I thought that was a little shady how they did that. Id like to tell a story on what happened to us when we went into mx once. But it would be long and drawn out story. It ended well should I say.👍 But we had to put the effort into it. Until the next time.....love n peace ✌️ ❤️ Be safe out there!😎
Hello Tenaj & Tino for be me it was a blessing for me taking care of my ma ma until she transitioned yes I needed help I never ever complain to my siblings that i needed help but it’s okay because when she left it was sad but yet a relief she out of pain etc. oh yes I too called my ma ma every day as well just do your best it is a blessing to take care of your love ones. ❤❤❤
She need you know don’t worry about who do and don’t I take care of my mother for 10 years it was hard but with god he gave me what I needed to take care of her and then care for my husband for 3 years while taking care of my mother.i got help so I have a break.i do have 9 brothers and sisters.take care.put god first
You just DO IT PERIOD. They took care of us, so NOW it's time to take care of them. I gave up my life for almost 9yrs. And took care of my mom. Because I was the one who had the flexible schedule to do it, out of three kids. It was me for all of it. One sister did the finance, and I did everything else. Just do it, or your guilt will kill you later. Get cameras to watch them if you're not there. It will give you peace of mind (if able to be left alone). Good luck. No one told us that when we get older, we would have to take care of our parents.
@TenajTino get this camera wyze the best camera. My whole family has these several of them. Even in our business. It is reliable always. No monthly fee.(only if you record) and that's function is under 5.00 dollars. Always connects and works for years. Very easy to connect. And guess what I'm the baby of the family too. The guilt killed me to think of her in a nursing home....HELL NO. not the way they treat them. Only if you have no choice.
Be blessed u have your parents, you are a bum to not even realize that shit y’all doing is really not that important, u don’t know what it will be when their gone, wake the fuck up and be glad you still have them here a-hole
This is a good one. I don't have parents but my daughter is the only child and she will be responsible for me and her dad as we get older. People have told me its not her responsibility to take care of us she needs to leave her life. I feel its a blessing to be able to take of your aging parents. I would love to hear other views that do have parents and take care of them.
Well, if you still had your RV what or where would you guys be? Would you guys be out of state traveling still? Is the only reason you are with the family due to the loss of the van? Would you guys have cut.your trip short and visited the family and stayed to help out? Just saying its a hard position to be in. Hang in there you two.
Great question. If we were in the van we would most likely have been on the road. However two years ago we were in Baja and I got a call that my Mom was in the hospital, I immediately dropped everything and headed home.
My mother dedicated the first part of her life to me. And I wanted to be there for her when she needed me. She never took any medicine but developed something on a foot. I had already been studying about natural remedies and applied castor oil which worked but worked slowly. And was healing, one of my siblings talked her into going to see a specialist concerning it and he used a knife to open it up and made it worse so I began to apply aloe vera plant and it healed. She lived to be 99 and she was my best friend.
The same way responsible parents care for their children, sacrifice, love, provide etc is the exact same when these parents age and or become disabled…it’s called family
Well, I guess this is the (only) positive thing about having a toxic narcissistic parent or two! Complex PTSD as a result. No contact since 2008, and I'm 61. Both are in their 80's.
August 29th will be 9 years since I lost my mother and I totally understand what you are going through, I was the primary caregiver even though I was the baby of the family and my two sisters were estranged. Mom had visiting Nurses and Home aid services through Medicaid, and child it was they were nonexistent. I did all the scheduling for doctors and transportation treatments for her iron & blood transfusion and sat with her for hours during the treatment in fear that something may go wrong I wanted to be there just in case with no regrets towards the end I can tell my mother wanted me to have a life other than being her caregiver, but that was my mom she gave me life and raised me I would not have any other way and still this day I feel I did not do enough because if I could have done more she still me here. Enjoy all the time you can with your mom or dad, say thank you, and appreciate them, love them, and say we're going to overcome this obstacle in life because we are a family of love & strength. Your mom & dad are in my prayers NOLA will be free Safe Travels Peace & Blessings
Do you hear yourselves? You two are loyal to each other AND your family. Especially when you come back home. That is commendable!!!!My father never came to see me anytime or anywhere in all my life. When he passed away a few years ago, I didn't shed a tear, nor go to his funeral. I felt nothing. Life is lifing for you... my goodness...There's only so much you can do. You come from a loving, supportive family, that's more than many people even have.
Thank you for your heartfelt comment and for recognizing our efforts. We're truly grateful for our loving and supportive family, and we understand how fortunate we are. We’re sorry to hear about your experience with your father. Everyone’s family dynamics and experiences are unique, and it’s deeply personal how one navigates those relationships and feelings. It takes a lot of strength to share such personal stories, and we appreciate your honesty. You’re absolutely right-there's only so much we can do, and sometimes just doing our best is enough. Your perspective is a powerful reminder of the importance of family support, and the different ways we all process and handle life's challenges.
@@TenajTino Additionally, your sons are grown with lives of their own. You two Beautifuls have lives of your own, as well. It's not as if you left your sons in their formative, minor years to travel the world. We ultimately have to live for ourselves, when it comes down to it. Both sides of my family are "every man for himself", yet expected me to pretend they aren't. It's all fake; I call a Spade a Spade- and everyone knows it....Lol ...You don't even look as if you have grown children!!! You're blessed!!!! Still praying you receive NOLA back. YOUR PROPERTY!!!!!!! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
My family is complicated. But I do have parent-guilt when it comes to my son. Usually kids grow up and move out - my son stayed and I moved to NOLA. After 15 years of moving and grooving - I'm finally stable. I missed out on a lot. It's really challenging to make up for lost time.
Thank you for sharing your story. Family dynamics can indeed be complicated, and it's completely normal to feel parent-guilt, especially when circumstances lead to such significant changes. It's understandable to feel like you've missed out on a lot and to find it challenging to make up for lost time. What's important is that you're now in a stable place and can focus on rebuilding and strengthening your relationship with your son. It's never too late to create new memories and deepen your connection.
I'm happy you made this video. I often wonder how people who permanently move out of the country to another hemisphere can leave their aging parents. I go to New Orleans as much as possible to see my mother. If she has a hospital stay, I spend the days and the nights with her. All the best to your parents. Temaj's eyes are MESMERIZING.
Thank you for your kind words and for sharing your perspective. It's wonderful to hear how dedicated you are to being there for your mother. Balancing our lives while ensuring our parents receive the care and attention they need can be challenging, especially when there's distance involved. It's heartening to know that you're making such an effort to be present for your mother.
I live in Mississippi and my father lived in North Carolina. My three brothers live close to my father and were always there for him day to day. In July 2022 my father got COVID and was hospitalized and later had to spend several months in a rehab facility. He was diagnosed with long COVID and dementia. I’m retired so I made the decision to stay in NC with him so my brothers didn’t have to miss work and my father was never alone. I lived with and took care of my father until he passed away in May 2023. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done but it was also the most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. The day my father was admitted into the hospital in July 2022 was the last day my father knew who I was. That was difficult for me but two days before he passed he knew my name and he knew I was his daughter. That was such a blessing. My brothers and I all came together as a family to care for our father and I am so thankful that we have the relationship we have and we were able to make some beautiful memories during a difficult time.
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story. It’s incredibly moving to hear about the dedication and love you showed in caring for your father. Your decision to stay with him so he would never be alone is a testament to the deep bond you shared. The journey you described, from his diagnosis to his passing, must have been emotionally and physically taxing. Yet, your words also reflect the profound blessings and meaningful moments you experienced along the way. It’s heartwarming to know that, despite the challenges, you and your brothers came together as a family to support each other and your father. The moment when your father recognized you before he passed is truly touching. It’s a reminder of how important and impactful those final moments with our loved ones can be. Your story is a beautiful example of love, resilience, and family unity. Thank you for sharing, and may the memories you created with your father continue to bring you comfort.
girl you are preaching to the choir!!! I am the baby of 9 and I am the one who has to take care of everything. I am about to talk about the same thing in my video. but mine is more geared towards living in Mexico and leaving. Just do your end of life plans IT'S SOMETHING WE DON'T DO THEN THE FIGHTING STARTS
Hey Fam..!..Thank you... It sounds like you have a lot on your plate as the youngest of nine, taking on so many responsibilities. Your experience is definitely relatable, and it's so important to have these conversations. We're glad you're planning to address this in your video, especially from the unique perspective of living in Mexico and managing end-of-life plans.
I moved my mother in the last year of her life along with another family member that I thought would be more helpful, she had a lot of health problems, eventually became bed bound and needed total care, I personally would have put her in a nursing home if I was the only sibling to have people who get paid to care for her 23/7, but other siblings would have taken her out just to get her social security check knowing they wasn't going to properly care for her, didn't know I would experience so much pain when she finally passed, all I say now, "I can never go home again" because she is gone permanently from this earth, my biggest cheerleader in life is gone😔
Thank you for sharing your deeply personal experience. We can't imagine how difficult it must have been to navigate such a challenging and emotional time. It's clear how much you cared for your mother and the effort you put into ensuring she received the best care possible. Healing takes time, and it’s important to give yourself grace and space to grieve. Remember, your mother's spirit and the love she had for you will always be part of you.
My parents have passed. But my older sister, who lived in a distant state, recently passed away. I felt guilty for not knowing how ill she was. I had no idea how sick she actually was, and by the time the family knew she was so sick she passed a few days later. NOLA.
We all experience guilt because we want to be there for everyone but sometimes you get pulled in different directions. It can get overwhelming. But take it one day at a time.
Hi Tenaj and Tino. I'm caring for my mom and I'm not dealing well with this situation at all. I just completed almost four years of school to become a Nutrition Consultant, and a Health and Wellness Coach. I took a month off after graduation for a break and reset so I could start preparing for my national exam. My brother decided to move my mom out here with him. It lasted less than a week, she moved in with me. Now my life and my kid's life are altered. My studying for the exam is on a back burner, my kids are helping me with my mom, our house is so chaotic because it's small and were trying to empty a bedroom for her. My mom has some memory loss, I've had to take her to multiple appointments, she wants her own place, and she can't live by herself. It's a lot. My brother did this and now he's nowhere around because he's working all the time, they created this huge situation now my household is upside down. I'm just taking it one day, one hour, one minute and second at a time.
We’re so sorry to hear about what you’re going through. It sounds incredibly challenging, especially after dedicating so much time and effort to your studies. Caring for a loved one can be overwhelming, and it’s understandable to feel the way you do.
As an older person in and out of hospitals last 6 months please stay with your mother. That saying when the cat is away the mice will play. Too many older people afraid to speak up and/or can not. Want to get on the nurse hit list, just question or correct them!
Hello, I had a son whom was a Quadriplegic for 10 years. From his age of 17-27. He needed full around the clock care he was full alert and able to make his own decisions. I already had 2.small children , a full time carrer, and i at first froze in time and sat there inside the hospital after his injury. I had family support to take my small kids temp. But in time i had to still pay my bills be a mother and learn a balance of my injured sons needs , healthcare and so much more with his new changes and incorporate it all in my daily routine. He came home from the hospital and AUTOPILOT mom kicked in, its what i called her after the 10 years hos joirney. In time you'll find a routine , a balance and a support system between your loved ones will fall in place believe it it will happen. Then youll get a comfort to make some time for your regular lifestyle. Dont drain yourself with the hospital stuff. Its not in your hamds its up to the man upstairs. Just be aware and make time to breath. It will.all be.ok.
Thank you so much for sharing your powerful story. It's truly inspiring how you managed to balance caring for your son, raising your other children, and maintaining your career. It's comforting to hear about your journey and how you found a way to make everything work despite the overwhelming responsibilities. Your advice about finding a routine, balance, and support system is invaluable and can provide hope to others in similar situations. Your perspective on giving oneself time to breathe and trusting that things will fall into place is a beautiful reminder that it's okay to take a step back and care for oneself amidst the chaos. We appreciate your encouraging words and the strength you have shown. It reminds us that even in the most challenging times, there is a way forward.
@@TenajTino Thank you. 💫💫💫I'm sending Healing love and light your ways with understanding, and helping hands 💫💫💫 at this time with your loved one. MOTE IT BE
Hey Tanaj, I pick number two so far, but if you have time to look find something you will feel comfortable going home to. Praying for Nola, I hope you get her back
The first note of the audio I already knew it was “this is what falling in love feels like” by JVKE without looking at the audio. Cuz I’m a huge fan of JVKE and I love all his songs!!
NOLA. You do you and keep shining your light! ✌🏽💛✨☺️ Haters are always gonna find something to hate about. But thank you for sharing your story, as always.
