PhD-grade videos on self-improvement, career growth, and soft skills for ages 24-45.
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haha don't know what this is, a stick or something. It looks like you're getting very looked after and don't need the AG1 Ithink I'll just stick to adding more greens to my diet At that price unless I could see a huge difference I won't be bothering
Yep, she definitely takes good care of me. I also lean into the carnivore diet, which is pretty easy hassle free since I just need to figure out how to cook a mean steak with salt and pepper and repeat it every time so it’s easy if she’s too busy. Kids got used to occasionally eating only meats too.
i'm currently doing a bachelor's degree in chemistry and process engineering, i just started a week ago but i already HATE IT i cry and cry and cry because i don't know what else to do and if i drop out i have absolutly no idea of what to do, i'm only 18 i still haven't figured out what i wanna do when i'll get older :/ i feel so stupid i hate myself and i can't even study cause i have 0 motivation to do so :(
Found this saying and thought of your situation "If you get on the wrong train, get off at the nearest station, the longer it takes you to get off, the more expensive the return trip will be." Another thing you want to consider is spinning off this degree. So, for example, I know someone who graduated with a computer engineering degree who moved into operations. These things are definitely possible.
Found this saying and thought of your situation "If you get on the wrong train, get off at the nearest station, the longer it takes you to get off, the more expensive the return trip will be."
I have fibromyalgia and ADHD. Not a great combo. Brain fog or simple inattention/distraction makes it easy for me to forget to eat or take pills. The constant feeling of exhaustion makes it challenging to cook the nutritious meals id like. Thats not to mention all the dietary restrictions due to the digestive issues so a lot of times I have to find the energy to cook one thing for me and something else for my family. With my condition, there are more unknowns than knowns. However, some supplements have been shown to be helpful for pain and/or things that can increase pain so I incorporate those. For example, vitamin d has been shown to reduce fibro pain. I also take ashwagandha to help with stress and Tumeric for inflammation, both can trigger pain. Magnesium to help with sleep. I’ve found quite a few supplements helpful after a lot of research and AG1 helps reduce the number of pills down to 6 a day. Plus I don’t have to worry about my nutrition as much. Bonus: no more nerve pain meds and the aching in my legs was gone. That said, the price is a lot and I might need to find a cheaper option.
Super helpful and practical tips, thank you! So many emotions come up for me, fear of losing my job, fear of conflict/disrespecting my boss, a strong desire to prove my worth at a new job, that boundaries I have learned to set in my personal life feel useless in this area. Luckily my boss is somewhat aware of her issues (she’s lost other employees from this behavior) and my coworkers and her peers are also always openly joking about her being first and last at the office. So I don’t feel so alone in my perspective. But I still feel myself slipping into people pleasing tendencies so this direct and concise content was just what I needed to feel in control again.
Brilliant, thanks for addressing this and speaking the truth about this subject. I am horrified that the media is actually trying to encourage Westerners to adopt this damaging and outdated approach. We don't need to go backwards!
It sucks because I'm in the middle of it, I can't afford to back out now because my parents are the ones paying my tuition. I feel like I'm far behind my peers who are really passionate about this degree.
This was very helpful to watch. I’m 7mo postpartum and my immunity has gone seriously down during this time. I was looking to see if there was anything on the market that I could just add to my routine for immunity boosting. Your point about Chinese medicinal soups and their ingredients has me thinking it’s familiar, tasty, and effective. I’ll just to stick with that. Plus I’d rather spend my coin on a Chinese small business or mom n’ pop.
Thanks for tackling the "experience paradox," which is a practical but realistic issue in the job search! Volunteer work and internships would be helpful.
I have to admit that I didn't realize that I have transfereable skills on display on both my resumé and my LinkedIn profile. Looking through the profiles of others, I was able to get an idea why I can get through a career change either returning to the academia or starting again in the IT industry. But then as time goes by during my job search, I realized that working again in the academia will make it better for me to leverage the hard skills and soft skills I got from my previous work at a nonprofit. Looking forward to my new job! ^_^
Nah for me I’ve been working hard doing by myself with stuff when it would be nice for my coworkers to help me out. My manager asking me to stay more hours but I want to say no to her cuz why should I stay longer if I’m putting more work for myself while everyone else stays on their phone and our managers would just sit around in the office.
Honest,y, all this IB or AP nonsense makes my head hurt. I’m always second guessing if I shouldn’t have transferred highschools to do IB. I felt liek it was the right decision, but yet again, was it not? Guess we’ll figure that out first year of highschool. (Send help)
Thank you for the insights! The reasons you shared are really spot on, and journalling and planning had helped me out in finding out which career path to go next.
Absolutely. It's imperative to have clarity on what your career goals are before committing to such a huge investment in your education. There are far cheaper ways to achieve that than going to college and hoping you'll "figure it out."
I’m having this trouble, all the jobs I’ve had haven’t worked out and I get burned out in school. Just trying to enjoy my life and not struggle or hate the job I have.
We placed our daughters in an excellent pre-school/kindergarten run by nuns. The nuns were strict but never pushed the girls beyond their abilities. At the parent introduction to the school meeting, the Mother Superior (Principal) made a very profound statement which we took to heart. She said we do not know God's path for our children. If we insist on our way only, we may be interfering with the path God has chosen for them. WOW!
From what I have seen and heard, extreme examples of so-called tiger parenting tend to be based on narcissism or emotional insecurities that stem from the parents' traumatic experiences although the worst worst cases of child abuse, such as the subjects in The Misery Machine's videos, involve illicit substances. I was raised in a conflicted parenting style between a distant German American father who was an airline captain who was very condescending, but attentive to my grades while my Mexican American mother was a bilingual teacher who was mostly apathetic about my grades even though she raised my older brother and me by herself and $200 monthly child support payments as my parents divorced when I was a year-old. I try to teach my nieces and nephews as much as I can about life lessons and even give them mathematical formulas for engineering as many of them study mechanical engineering, chemistry, and medicine. One thing that Obama got right was education reform and telling parents to get personally involved in their children's educations as well as signing the Gainful Employment Act of 2016 into law, which forced dishonest for-profit private colleges such as ITT Tech to shutdown by starving them of Federal student financial aid, which accounted for over 80% of their income. I myself am trying to go back to school on a Pell Grant, but as a church volunteer, I have to go through lots of disclosures with my superiors as we get audited by the IRS and have financial reports to fill out.
No. Biggest rip off on tge market. The owner of the company was done for fraudulent practices in NZ, and skipped the country to grift greens powder in the States where supplement legals are not very stringent.
I was just pushed out of a job by an employer because I got too personal and didn't set boundaries. I shared too much with a troublemaker. Lesson learned: I have to set boundaries with employers next time: personal has to be separate from professional.
As someone who has been fired from three jobs in one year just for being there only for 90 days or less....This video has made me feel better. It does not mean that I am going to get comfortable job hopping, but it is very reassuring that I am not the only one suffering in this
I think if you are already healthy and doing well it may not be as apparent. I am 61 and have health challenges and AG1 made all the difference in the world to me. Plus it offers a lot more than what I was already doing including the mushrooms.
I’m stuck between two degrees one that I don’t particularly enjoy but it’s ok to survive and have it as an undergrad or changing to one I do have a passion for (subject wise) and will lead me to the same masters but a year later
I hate the field I'm studying, even thinking about it makes me cry... I'm an Iranian studying nursing, when I tell my family and other people that I don't want to work in a hospital, they tell me that I'm stupid and that this is the best way to live. to continue my studies because in Iran, working in a hospital is the best job. The reason is that Iran is sanctioned. A sanctioned country is not economically strong. For example, if I study engineering, there is no factory where I want to work. My existence will fail because of the sanctions! I hate my major, but if I leave it, there is nothing else I can do... When I think that in the next 30 years I will have to do a job that I hate, and in 3 years I will just graduate from university, and I will have to study for three years to get to a place I don't like. Do you hate him?
Omg we are the same I am going to go to college that I got accept to and I don't like it I don't like serving others like getting up and stuff work I don't like working under pressure and I don't like dealing and with rude people who think they have the right to humilate u either doctors or even patients and the pays in Lebanon idk about Iran aren't that highs like a nurse imagine after 22 years could have a salary before the economical crisis of 1700$ like I kinda would feel sad but the problem is that for one year I tried to think of major in want to do in highschool and I didn't know I ma feeling very hopeless about knowing what I want to do I am doing nursing but thinking of every job to do other than nursing like maybe work in uni or assurance idk if I will travel and having a family while working 4 daya a week each day 12 hours is making me hate having a family
@@lausannewehbe4071 i understand... In my country incomes are low and due to the small number of nurses they will force us to work overtime with very low salaries that's why many nurses in Western countries and Persian Gulf countries are Iranians... Of course my reason for not the interest in nursing was not only low salaries... there were many issues that you mentioned... Our situation today is sad, but let's hope I am learning new things and trying to gain new experiences...This will help me find my true interests and find my way in life now i feel maybe programming and software engineering is what i have to do as an introverted person... As an introverted i hate that i have to communicate with alot of people...
@@lausannewehbe4071bro we are in the same situation my parents are not understanding me and they forced me to go for nursing They took admission fr nursing but still i cant accept the fact all day im draining in tears im really helpless . Im feeling like giving up.
Your English seems to be very good. So maybe you try to get into a Masters in Germany once you got a Bachelor degree. You will very easily get into civil engineering and most Masters can be done in English. A friend of mine is from Iran and he first got a BA in Iran in Computer Science before transferring to a Masters here. Another option is to come over here as a nurse once you are finished if you don't want to drop it and then to pursue a secondary degree. That's how a friend from Russia is doing it now. He is working in a retirement home and studying geoinfromation part-time. There aren't high student fees here. I am here because I don't even know what my passion is, despite having all the options, which feels so stupid. I have a Bachelor's degree but want to do a Masters in something I truly enjoy...
@@Savio8342 yes same since i applied to nursing in uni everyday I wake up my heart start beating and have this weird feeling and everytime I remember my major or imagine myself working as a nurse I start crying because even before entering I know this is not the best for me and I am like I can choose another option which is less draining and stressful as work and I actually don't think that's my passion in life and I like something more like peaceful and I don't like to serve other , everyone says it's like u are helping others but I don't see how much it's important what I do like I am just giving them the medications described and taking their blood or pressure count and writing their symptoms like if it wasn't wit money yeah maybe I am doing charity work but like how an I helping them the doctors yeah maybe they are treating them to ease their pain and I get every job has interactions with rude patients but It's more with nursing and I get sad I am putting myself in a situation where I can be made inferior some not all doctors are mean and they make u feel like u are inferior and stupid while in the first place I could be in a job where non of this exist and they talk about nurses being mean to u too because they don't want u to be better than them like I prefer having my own office working alone patients coming to me and not 12 hours a day I want a life and a family I truly want to live happy I really do understand u and it help me feel less alone that somewhere in the world someone is dealing with something just like me if I knew other options I liked it's would be better I would hoped to change but the problem is I have no other options
Hi @DrJonTam thanks for a great video. I found you from Spotify and finding your videos very informative. Is the personality test still available? Where can I find it?
One thing that is often never openly discussed is that being attractive opens exponential opportunities for a socially awkward person to develop soft skills. Physical fitness, hygiene, and fashion goes hand in hand with social success.
The general opinion I gather online about AI is that it will decimate most average jobs and make life harder for the average folk. A lot of fearmongering. But if embracing AI means a higher demand for people skills in newly created jobs, this gives me peace of mind bc most of my female friends are school teachers.
Never had an issue with interviews telling them what they want to hear for an interview seems to be second nature for me and it works. The other thing is that between 2-5 minutes in an interview the decision will be already made so its really important to start strong in an interview.
Last office I couldn’t say no. I left with burn out that I’ve never really come back from. I associated it with unreliable co workers that were young but lazy; unmotivated; and didn’t care about the business. The owners were so hands off they didn’t care either. There was one practitioner that was so incredibly needy; that the admin staff all started looking for other jobs. ( the lazy ones). I was looking as well and not lazy a never say no people pleaser. We all thought she needed two personal assistants along with admins. Never on time; running behind by half hour every day; adding patients in to the end of day ; so we never knew what time we would be off; messaging 45 messages before even getting to work. Then throughout the day non stop. After 4.5 years I went on stress leave when Covid hit. The weight of the business was on my shoulders and I was very open and honest with owners when I turned down the management position for many reasons. Main one being I’m a single mom of 3 and worked two other jobs as well. They pushed me into that role anyway. I stayed friends with two; and 4 years later; they opened their own business and asked me to come work for them. I was excited; but hesitant as I know how needy one is. I did a lot of growing those years I took a break from working as the burnout I had again really was concerning. I hashed out this really unreasonable contract and had very clear conversations as to never wanting to work in a place like the last. They too hated it there and assured me it wouldn’t be anything like the last. I went over all the expectations and explained what if this ; what if that; and I’m not killing myself for any job. They insisted all I had to do was deal with computer and patients. I explained I have no problem helping with laundry if I’m caught up. The patients asked them if they would be bringing me back to work with them which was so nice to hear. So I took it. I thought maybe she will be different having some control over her day; work environment etc as it’s her business now. First day; the needy one starts. By day 5; I’m in tears after she left. Three billing portals were down the week ; she was aware ; which made billing impossible and had me running all day which affected the main part of my job. It’s worse because now I’m doing her laundry and all the practitioners laundry 😳( admins never did laundry in any of these clinics I’ve ever been in the RMT ‘s do )and cleaning; on top of everything else. They expect us to check our work too and message at end of day what we did and what couldn’t be done and remind them of what they need to do . 🤦🏼♀️ I had a pregnant woman almost faint; and trying to answer phones; laundry that had to be dealt with every 15 min; emails; respond to her messaging every 1-3 minutes. It was chaos. Building going on in next door and she’s messaging me to go tell them to stop. Lol She left but I couldn’t leave; I was too busy being her personal assistant and was waiting for patients to come out to explain her billing situation. As my boss was leaving said I should be on top of that billing 🤷🏼♀️ Can’t exactly force benefit companies to have their websites running properly. Most days we have to keep trying and put it through next day or two. She is so high strung and incredibly anxious she projects and will blame and protect herself. I feel she needs to be on top of her job and she’s not. Other owner saw me ( I was there an hour after I was supposed to be off and no I won’t be paid for that hour ) and was so kind and said we don’t want you crying leaving work. She knew it was her business partner and said she’s too needy and I’ve told her admins aren’t your personal assistants. I just felt I wasn’t cut out for this anymore. When actually a boss like that will make you feel that way. I am cut out for the job ; she’s unreasonable. I know her partner talked to her because next work day she didn’t ask for much. Next day after a bit more. We will see if she stops this ridiculousness or I’m not staying. I know many admins in same discipline and they love going to work. It’s not chaos and it’s calm and they aren’t over worked. I don’t care if they are my friends I will leave if this continues as I have had several job offers and know a lot of people.
