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Hi, I'm Colleen-Joy, InnerLifeSkills founder, ICF-credentialed MCC, & Director of Education for our internationally accredited Online Certification Programs, taught to clients in 60+ countries.
We train, test, & certify coaches, consultants, psychologists, c-suite leaders, & service professionals in globally benchmarked coaching skills & our Big 4 Toolboxes - Life, Enneagram, Business, & Executive Coaching.
Each year we mentor small cohorts online to become go-to InnerLifeSkills Certified Master Coaches, so they can make a living making a difference.
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My journey of learning to turn my purpose-filled calling to coach into profitable abundance & guiding many to do the same.
Absolutely loved this video, Col! The refresher on viewing money as rain for our businesses, just like trees call rain to themselves in nature, is such a powerful metaphor/reminder. Also, the part about fully embracing the identity of an entrepreneur was eye-opening-I had to rewatch it three times to let it sink in. Thank you for always sharing these incredible nuggets of wisdom ❤
I saw all the episodes, the way you told and explained is wonderful. lots of clarity to follow and remain within the competency with masterful approach during the session
I'm so pleased to hear that, it's taken years to learn enough about the ICF competencies to be able to make them less complex for the coaches we serve. Happy to help.
When did you first discover enneagram philosophy and what drew you to it? Were you drawn in by promises of self discovery or self improvement? What happened that really convinced you this was a useful tool? I'm very curious about what triggers form new belief systems. Any answers or insights would be appreciated, thank you.
Hey Billy, about 20+ years ago my friend and colleague Dr Pam Roux and I were coauthoring a book on handing back family baggage, she kept referring to the enneagram types. I was highly resistant at 1st until I dreamt that she told me I was a 9. The next day I called her up to tell her "Pam I dreamt you told me I'm a 9" and she answered, "That's a very 9 way to find out you are a 9!" We laughed. I picked up Helen Palmer's book at a shop and read about 9 and was shocked at the accuracy. The rest is history, now I love helping to declutter and deeply understand the enneagram which soon became an invaluable tool.
Ah that makes my heart very happy to hear. Thanks for the comment and so glad the teaching landed for you. Let me know what other content you would love to see here.
Hi Colleen-Joy. Thank you sharing these tools and techniques. I've been struggling to find the answer to the big question of whether I want to have children or not and I haven't made much headway. I'm going to try and use this video to help me navigate this.
Ah, that is so wonderful to hear, makes the effort so worthwhile. Let me know if and how it helps, and if you hit any barriers let me know, I might do a video to help
Thank you Colleen for this powerful reminder of the great tools provided in your teachings. Being my self at a crossroad, I take it as a gold nugget ;-))
That makes me very happy to hear. The world needs more coaches offering deep real coaching. Let me know what other coaching topics you'd like me to cover, all best, Colleen-Joy
Hi! This video is one of the most informative videos I’ve seen surrounding this topic so far! But, I was wondering what exactly do you mean when you talk about how the anger of 8s is less directed at a certain thing or for a reason? Like if it isn’t for something or directed at something then where does it go?
Hi thanks so much for the kind feedback, we put a lot into our videos so it means a lot. There of course are exceptions, but what I've seen is that 8 anger is more innate, the energy of it, like a gut fire always there hardwired. And that is because of the Red Pearl - anger + impact + resistance + gut = Red Pearl (8 9 1). Whereas 6CP is a Blue Pearl, so the mind directs anger "at" an injustice, championing the underdog etc. Hope that helps
This is the best enneagram related video I’ve ever seen. I reeeally wish you would make similar ones of every enneagram type - core motivations, behaviours and thought patterns that stem from that.
Thank you so much. It's so difficult to tell what famous people are or were, because we can only see their "behavior" and guess the underlying "Reasons" for what they do, which is the enneagram type. And of course, the personality is different to mental illness, which would over ride the personality. Some folks even argue that he was a 1. My guess, and it really is a guess is not 8, because there appeared to be a lot of "thought through" motivations and ideologies etc. But clearly mental illness which makes it hard to say. I'm also not a history buff, so not positioned to guess well.
I'm more of a 6 than an 8. In reality, it is impossible to be independent of others all the time, so I have been a people pleaser at times to gain a social network. However, I cannot associate myself with 3 while disintegrating, as I always show my real face and dislike being inauthentic or wearing a mask to be accepted by someone. The idea of being fake for someone makes me uncomfortable. So this aspect of mine makes me think I'm an 8. It is too confusing.
You are not alone in the confusion, it can be difficult to distinguish for sure. It can help to trace everything back to what I call the personality pearl - Red for 8 and Blue for 6. Your sharing of "people pleaser at times to gain a social network" sounds more like blue pearl than red 8. And it's a touch into the 3, so my guess (not certain) sounds closer to 6 to me. 8 would likely not rationalize too much or share as openly here as you have. Hope that helps. I do have a small free quiz/tutorial that may help, coach.innerlifeskills.com/product/enneagram-free/
Why would type 8 side automatically with the powerful? Their entire personality profile is built around not being controlled, "the need to be against", being free to do what they want (id type). I think powerful vs powerless is too much of a culturally loaded metric to be meaningful, no one likes bullies. the reason they hate the bully is the key. Think about it. If the 8 is constantly seeking hierarchy, then it implies 8 will naturally clash with authority as well, same as a cp 6.
Thanks, great points. Appreciate the share. Any conversation about personality will have generalizations, and there are always exceptions for sure. It's difficult to find helpful teaching points to draw the line between the two, and many folks get that "aha" when they explore the nuances of power vs powerless. Not always, but 8 tends to identify more with being in power, their gut instinct and anger pearl feels like a source of innate power. CP6 tends to identify with the powerless, to champion their cause and speak for the underdog. Its a subtle but often helpful point of exploration.
Thank you Colleen for the videos. Appreciate the effort providing detailed explanation on all the ICF core competencies and the skills that the coach needs to have to demonstrate those competencies. The Video series is quite valuable to all those coaches working towards ICF credentials.
Wow, I can't thank you enough for the incredible value you provide on your RU-vid channel! Your guidance and insights as a life coach have been a game-changer for everyone. Your videos are like a beacon of positivity and motivation in life. I appreciate your dedication to empowering individuals to live their best lives. Your channel is a constant source of motivation, and I'm excited to continue learning and growing with your guidance. Keep up the fantastic work, and know that you're positively impacting so many lives!
I disagree reflective listening is a powerful tip. Never use i statement pronouns in reflective listening, trust me I study an excellent book by an FBI hostage negotiator whom successfully uses reflective listening techniques with immense success
Interesting tip about not including pronouns. Backtracking is a reflective listening method, so I'm not saying reflective listening is not useful, it is.
Extremely helpful. I love how you are making room for doubt - that I'm sure all coaches go through. This will definitely help people decide whether they want to become a Master Coach or not. Thank you so much!
