Michele Lee Nieves is a Certified Professional Coach, author, speaker, content creator and trauma informed specialist who dedicates her life to helping individuals heal from childhood trauma, dysfunctional family dynamics, narcissistic abuse, codependency and complex ptsd.
Her favorite topics of discussion are:
COMPLEX PTSD RECOVERY CHILDHOOD PTSD RECOVERY HOW TO TRUST YOUR GUT ENFORCE BOUNDARIES HOW TO RAISE YOUR SELF ESTEEM OVERCOME SOCIAL ANXIETY RAISE YOUR VIBRATION LEARN SELF CARE LIVE AS YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF HOW TO STOP RUMINATING LIVE MINDFULLY PRESENT HEAL CHILDHOOD TRAUMA OVERCOME EMOTIONAL ABUSE HOW TO HAVE HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS W/ SELF AND OTHERS HOW TO DEAL WITH TOXIC PEOPLE HEAL NARCISSISTIC ABUSE SYNDROME OVERCOME CODEPENDENCY OVERCOME SELF LOVE DEFICIT If you would like personal assistance with any of the above topics - please check out my website for face to face coaching: w
I cant leave anything in the past but i comsciousky dont let it go bcoz i hold this belief that if something happenned it could happen again thus i must find a way i wont get hurt next time.a solution ,and thats a big MUST
Nothing worse than that. That is hard to understand and b legitimised to properly defend myself is what f@ks me up.its like someone beating you while at the same time sweet talking and smiling and saying they care but keep beating u or taking your salary
So true Michele about pathological loneliness and shame. I have been realizing that and this just affirms it. Feeling like because I have been doing all of the inner healing work and have had 'losses' (like my pup, for example) and am not in partnership that something is 'wrong' with me/defective, etc. because 'i have no one' and just this awful shame that I continually clear. Is getting better and better but man, still comes up. Hard to be alone on holidays since my brother and his family relocated to another state a few years ago, too. Have to really watch and stay in my heart and body so that I don't enter into something negative because of this aspect. And have to say - am succeeding quite well in that regard now, so I'll take that victory and celebrate. Thanks for this and so nice to 'see'' you. (Just did breathwork today "empower your heart" by Into the Deep ... thanks for teaching me this!!!) Sending love and gratitude.
Just wanted to stop by and thank you. Your videos started my awakening to narcissism in 2018... I finally left my 23 year abusive marriage to a malignant narc. It took a lot of learning to understand it wasn't me. I ended going out the door saying I was taking the dog out and never came back. My life is amazing although I know I have a lot of unlearning to do. Thanks for being there along the way 🙏🏼
This is so valuable and true and neuroscientific, and you can actually feel it in your body as well how trauma wreaks havoc on you body. Too bad this video has less views than it deserves!!! I wish more people were aware how their brain works. It would be more easy to understand themselves and others.
This happened to my wife. She was sexually abused as a child for years. As an adult she was raped by her boss a few times not feeling like her self and could not remember. It’s like she went back to a child and he had control over her like a kid. She would shut down when he got her alone. She would get stuck in freezer for a long period of time. She suffered from Stockholm syndrome as a young adult. Stockholm syndrome is also called trauma bland.
That is why it drives me mad when religion tries to force this step and pushes people to forgive while they still suffer from the “broken leg” in the present… it sounds like shaming and gaslighting. Religion Is great and wise on so many levels but it has so little knowledge on how trauma actually works… I suffered some additional religious trauma while trying to heal and built positive relationships. Could you consider make a video on the subject trauma & religion in the future? If the topic draws your attention
Would like to join the zooms but cannot afford currently. I just found you, ive been stuck for many years and work everyday to better myself. Thank you for your kind words.
To point out that I don’t speak the language my body needs to hear is a huge breakthrough. At 71, I keep repeating to myself I’m safe to stop the awful sensations of body anxiety. It’s debilitating and so frightening. Being anxious is not a word that means I’m upset, it’s an overwhelming whole body sensation that makes you afraid of dying and wanting to die at the same time to make it stop. I went to the front of my thighs cause my heart, head, back, hands arms fingers knees feet and abdomen are lit up. Thank you for this new tool.
Trauma memories get stored in our implicit memory.... and it's not about willpower to heal or update the emotional learning that's stored there!!! BUT .... that doesn't mean we can't heal - it's just that we have to learn the layer of trauma and work WITH how it affects us instead of trying to strong arm our way to recovery!! Does that resonate??? Let me know below! And on a side note, if you are enjoying my videos and feel ready to dive deeper on your cptsd recovery journey - remember to check out my live weekly zoom meetings where I meet together LIVE with survivors of emotional trauma (emotional abuse, sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect etc.) from all over the world and we DO the inner work to come back home into our bodies TOGETHER! Monthly members - doors are only open the 1st seven days of each month - yearly members can join at any time!!! Here's a link to learn more about the School of Transformation: www.micheleleenieves.com/school-of-transformation
Do you resonate with not feeling 'allowed to be happy'????? Let me know below in the comments section!!! And on a side note, if you are enjoying my videos and feel ready to dive deeper on your cptsd recovery journey - remember to check out my live weekly zoom meetings where I meet together LIVE with survivors of emotional trauma (emotional abuse, sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect etc.) from all over the world and we DO the inner work to come back home into our bodies TOGETHER! Monthly members - doors are only open the 1st seven days of each month - yearly members can join at any time!!! Here's a link to learn more about the School of Transformation: www.micheleleenieves.com/school-of-transformation
Can you relate to how anger and resentment make it seemingly impossible to let go of the past and move on???? I'd love to hear if the tips presented were helpful for you!! (comment below) And on a side note, if you are enjoying my videos and feel ready to dive deeper on your cptsd recovery journey - remember to check out my live weekly zoom meetings where I meet together LIVE with survivors of emotional trauma (emotional abuse, sexual abuse, narcissistic abuse, emotional neglect etc.) from all over the world and we DO the inner work to come back home into our bodies TOGETHER! Monthly members - doors are only open the 1st seven days of each month - yearly members can join at any time!!! Here's a link to learn more about the School of Transformation: www.micheleleenieves.com/school-of-transformation
If I were there, I would really return your kindness and compassion by giving you a hug and pulling your cheeks. Because not only you are sweet and cute but you're the kindest person I have ever met. Your methods are the most effective ones. I enjoyed this video, answering the questions and doing this sweet meditation. I enjoy clay modelling. I made clay models of deities like Shiva and snakes and other statues out of clay when I was 8 years old. I remember that time when I was a little boy practicing my bow and arrow, drawing sketching and painting using paint brushes and sketch pens. And studying science encyclopedias. Making weapons out of foil papers. I used to achieve a flow state sitting on the ground. So thanks for this video. Keep doing the good work. Will a avail your paid services in the future.
🥰 thank you for your kind words!! Sooo glad you enjoyed the video - and if you ever decide to join us live in the School of Transformation - I look forward to getting to know you better in our live meetings!!!! That flow state that you experienced sounds awesome!!! I hope you still experience it in your life!
My 13 years old Yorkie with us since 2011 was in a severe breathing problem !? Last month the Vet. told us to begin putting Pearl out of her misery ! My wife and I decided that we don't want our baby girl dog to be lifeless in our house ! We were both devastated to give our baby to the Vet's arms ! Before that I spoke to my darling companion of 13 years close to her to please visit me in my room and bring me a sign that tells me she is Well in dog's heaven ! I was constantly crying alone in my bedroom and put a memorial picture on the wall with her hairbrush , her Collar and all her vaccination chaps by her Vet. !!! One week ago I woke up at 3:30am and stayed put to fall asleep again ! My bond with Pearl connected and I was amazed of what occurred ! I heard her distinguished barking over my home ! The next day I searched my surveillance system recorder for that hour and Yes It Was Real ! I'm still grieving but know she Is Well !💔🐕🕊😣.............
I'm 35 & struggling with self identification. Was raised by my grandma while my mother was working. I only found out later that my grandma is a narcissist & was always emotionally abusing me. Life is hard...
Thank You🌹🌹🌹 Its not an easy journey .I am workiing well though when triggers hit by doing deep breathing ,Taking a walk or any exercise changing my thoughts which serve me 😊🥰🥰🥰 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕
The way I heard Thias gibson talk about fearful avoidants was she said that as a general rule that FA’s have had the freeze response conditioned out of us because in chaos you can’t freeze, we tend to have e strong ever present fight response or as I think it kinda was fight to fawn and when you can’t do that shut down
Yes our brains created an association between happiness and danger because this was the literal reality of the world around us. What frustrates me is that you automatically assume that this reality isn’t true anymore. The world is inherently unsafe. It’s cruel and unkind and unfair. We barely have to take any risks at all to find situations that will reinforce the very real need for this association. Happiness IS dangerous.
I’m having trouble with this at work with an u stable manager and a company that threatens layoffs all the time. Feels totally unsafe. If I don’t fawn and act stressed then it’s taken that I’m not part of the team. I have built up my savings in case and that’s made me feel stronger. But how do I survive this until I find another opportunity? Would love advice/resources
If your highly intellectual analytical and like relentlessly questioning type person, it’s very possible I would think that you can learn to associate things with those emotional flashbacks.
