Your story is my story man! I am 42 and an ACE. I found out about asexuality when I was in my mid-thirties. Like you, it was empowering learning the term so I could understand myself in context.
First of all, I have to admit I didn't expect being mentioned by name when I started watching this video. And in case you were wondering why I've been following your videos, RU-vid probably decided to recommend your channel since I've been following videos surrounding the Finnish education system. (I used to work as a teacher myself, and studied education in the university of Turku. And even though I've moved to a different line of work I still like reading and watching videos about the subject.)