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Starting to watch this one.. and you are talking about getting help.. The problem is many times a person with schizophrenia rarely trusts "professional help".. And when they do actually the help means whole lotta meds... That make you lose yor personality and possibly physical health. I hope someday they'll actually find the root cause and we can start treating it. The care that's been offered now is inhuman.
It’s very very hard to get someone dealing with schizophrenia the help they need. Totally agree, we lived this reality every single day, and it’s hard. Though I partially agree about meds being a risk, there are so many people living very normal lives with schizophrenia on their medication! It would be nice to find a root cause, but every case is vastly different. Here’s a really great organization that’s fighting to learn more about the disorder, and has tons of education on treatment! sczaction.org
Thank you for sharing about schizophrenia, i am currently dealing with this with my son. And i can relate. Sometimes, it feels like there is no real help. This kind of video helps me learn more about it. And it gives me some hope .
This means so much to me. Our whole idea with this video was to make at least one person feel less alone. For us, we felt so alone, and it was really difficult. So it looks like the episode served its purpose, which makes me so proud ❤️ I really wish you so much peace with your son, and I hope you’re able to get him the help he needs!
Thank you for this. I am diagnosed Schitzoaffective and you have helped me understand the Schitzo part a little more. I have always had suicidal thoughts, ideation, and have attempted multiple times. Rest In Peace Regis! You were Loved.
9 minutes in and you are discrediting my experiences with depression and anxiety. I don't believe you were intentionally dismissive, but it happened none the less. I appreciate your unique life experiences. Please do not make my life experience menial. I know that wasn't intentional, but that's the problem with texting messages and social media, isn't it?
Definitely not the intention at all! But your feelings are valid nonetheless. Every single person with any mental health struggle deserves the help that they need. Every single person with any mental health struggle deserves a happy healthy life. Thanks for pointing this out and sharing your feelings watching the episode🩶
I just watched it back to see where you’re coming from and want to add this- my point about it being cute & quirky to have depression and anxiety is NOT my opinion what so ever. To your point about social media contributing to this, I think that’s very true. what I was saying here, is that there is a notion online or in today’s perception of mental illness, that it’s “cool” to be mentally ill with a disorder that is non-psychotic by definition. But by no means do I stand by that or agree, it’s a general notion online that can prevent people from getting help because they feel invalidated. But all of this to say, I hear you, agree with you, and think that my intention with talking about that was misconstrued. But nonetheless, your feelings are valid and it’s never my intention to make someone feel invalidated. If anything my point was to say that people who have mental illness are sized up against each other, and online narratives can determine whether someone will get the help they deserve. Anyways, I wish you peace, and healing wherever you’re at in your journey. And thank you for bringing this to my attention❤️
Thank you for the discussion space on this topic. My father struggled with demons and I wasn't able to help him from 'drowning '. He sold my birth certificate, marriage license, and social security card to unlicensed citizens on the corner in Arizona. Thats after he sold all belongings in the house. He sold the couch and TV he sat on and falsely accused me of breaking and entering and the police didn't write the report because they knew he was SMI.
You two really understand schizophrenia. I have it and am now medicated and stable and functioning, but listening to you talk, I was constantly reminded of myself before medication. I was unwell and didn’t know. Everything was a million miles a minute and hard and stressful. I remember the moment I gave up with that life and accepted my situation. I cried and slept, woke up and my mind was quiet. Still not cured, but on the path through acceptance and medication. During my symptoms I tried to commit suicide as everything pointed to it being the answer, don’t blame yourself. It is just what our brain tells us when we are sick like this. And how could you know everything and what to do. Sorry for your loss but even this podcast is a homage to Regis and his suffering.
They do report hallucinations of angels in many cases! It’s so dependent on the person. It is also not an illness of newer people. The first cases were reported in the 1800s!
You are doing a great job. You should be proud of yourself for making it through these last few years. I am one of quite a few of those who love you. You are loved, you are valued. We are better because of your inspiration and example .
Something i battle daily. The thought of my sons used to keep me going, but the scary thing is now i feel it doesn't matter, theyll be better off. My dad died a few weeks ago and the thought of hanging wont leave my head no matter how i try to ignore it, the thought gets stronger and stronger. My therapist just tells me to meditate... Wtf!!! I cant even pay someone to care and help me!! It doesn't even matter anymore
Hi Kerry! Thanks so so much for being vulnerable and sharing this ❤️ I totally understand what you’re feeling, and I have to agree… meditation didn’t do shit for me! It literally felt like an insult when people would tell me to meditate. you are totally valid in feeling that way 😅 I know there is no magic fix and nothing I can say that will “help.” But what I can tell you is that I am a year and a half into my grief experience, and I used to feel suicidal every single day. Somehow, for some very mind boggling reason, that feeling has left me. How did I survive it? Well, I just took every day minute by minute. And I truly can say I fought for my life every minute along the way. And somehow, it was worth it. I want you to know that you aren’t alone in this feeling, and somehow, sticking around will be worth it in the long run. You deserve a life of healing and happiness, and I know you’ll get there one day. It’s a fight, but you are so strong and so worth that fight. I have an episode about surviving grief, and tips to help in those early days. I really recommend watching it, and I hope it helps you stick around for just another day❤️ sending you the most love, and reminding you that you can do it!
Kerry, as a woman who loads her brother to suicide, I can tell you that your life matters to those who love you. I don’t know you, but you matter to me. I hope you will stick around to use your story to help others in the future. Sending love your way.
Gosh. My MIL lost her partner. He called her. Told her he was going to hang him self & did it. It spent 6-7 mins trying to get ES there but they kept telling her that it wasn’t their jurisdiction & it didn’t help that she was across the country. They got him but by the time came, he was brain dead. I am so sorry for your loss. It is definitely traumatizing. I hope you find happiness & joy.
Oh my god. First, thank you for sharing this with me, as much as it’s so hard to hear these stories and know that other people have been through similar experiences, I’m so thankful for people like you who are willing to share. I hope you and your family have found some sort of peace and healing in this experience. I know the feeling too well, but everyday I’m working towards finding happiness again❤️
Complicated grief follows the death of a loved one. I'm not here to speak on political matters, as this podcast follows my journey after the suicide of my ex-partner. But for clarity on what complicated grief is- an individual with prolonged grief disorder may experience intense longing for the person who has died or preoccupation with thoughts of that person. In children and adolescents, the preoccupation may focus on the circumstances around the death. Additionally, the individual may experience significant distress or problems performing daily activities at home, work, or other important areas. The persistent grief is disabling and affects everyday functioning in a way that typical grieving does not. For more info: www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/prolonged-grief-disorder
Brava! Madison! Bringing your podcast home is such a great evolve. This safe space calming vibe matches the show's theme perfectly. The best caring and sharing moments come from friends on a couch. As for this episode, it couldn't be more timely for me. My grief has become most complicated, even 2 years later. My quality of life is low. My difficult ability to function hampers my day to day. The heavy sadness is alienating . You explaining then commenting on each point one by one is so helpful. Written verbal narrative gets so jumbled during grief. So, thank you for that format. You have a way of presenting intimidating and triggering information as safe and absorbable. Keep doing what you're doing. ❤
I am crying with you two. This couldn't be more real. The grief that you could never imagine that comes with losing someone you love so much. Thank you for this story.
This podcast episode is beautiful. I'm grateful that you shared Regis' story. My brother Ben was diagnosed with schizophrenia at age 18, and it was a roller coaster of a journey. On April 27th, he took his own life at age 29. As his younger sister, currently 27, I tried to be involved but never fully understood the extent of what he was going through. This year was the hardest for him; he was in and out of the behavioral center and never felt safe. I couldn't quite understand. I just knew I had to be around. The voices were extremely present and only seemed to worsen. Eventually it seemed to be too much. I regret a lot and still work through the blame but I just want to remember him and how pure and genuine of a person he was and always will be. He tried so hard and I really see just how much he wanted to have a normal life. Love you bro. I wish you could of known other stories and maybe if you could of gotten the proper help you needed you would still be here today.
I am in tears reading this comment. First, thank you so much for being open and vulnerable and sharing you and your brothers experiences. Second, I’m so beyond sorry for the loss of your brother. I know exactly how you’re feeling as one of the many survivors of this sort of tragedy. It’s heartbreaking. But the fact that this episode resonated with you truly means more than I could ever say. Thank you so so much. If you ever need to talk, don’t hesitate to DM me on Instagram❤️ rest in peace Ben, I hope you have found peace ❤️☀️
My Dad was paranoid schizophrenic and he shot and killed himself at 51 years old. He would think the radio was talking about him and other things. I miss him so much he had a troubled mind.
I am so sorry for your fathers passing.. I know the feeling, and it's just such a difficult thing to grapple with everyday. Schizophrenia is such an intense illness, and there are so many nuances and things that many people don't understand. I just hope you are able to find moments of peace, and walk with your grief in way that supports you. sending you so much love and healing, and thank you again for sharing your story❤️
@@andalsopodcast Thank you, I was 14 am now 65 and i understand that he felt he had to go. It was his choice so i have to respect that. I will never know what he was going through.
Just watched the episode of schizophrenia and suicide, and can relate so much in so many ways involving my son’s death because of his 1:01:42 insidious mental illness with schizophrenia. Regis’s was so blessed to have you and his mom there for him. My son suffered for at least 15 years in torment, and inevitably took his own life. I believe, God, ( the universe) decided enough suffering. Grief walks beside me, along with some joy. You both are so brave to keep going with one another’s support!!! 🙏 Blessings
your comment means so much to me, so thank you so so much for sharing such a vulnerable, real story with me❤️ Schizophrenia is a beast, and it can leave us so hopeless. watching our loved ones suffer the way they did was so much to bear, and so much to cope with in the aftermath of this. I am so beyond sorry that your son faced a similar battle. we both share that pain with you. I have found that community helps a ton, so hearing your story today just makes it all feel less lonely. we have to stand with each other! I hope you are finding some sense of peace and healing with your son's death. We are here for you!
I am so sorry to hear this. Janice shared such a similar story, having older siblings that just got so much more time with her father before he passed. She was only 22. It’s so heartbreaking to lose a parent so young. I hope you are finding peace and comfort in this loss!😓❤️
@@andalsopodcast I truly appreciate your kind words of condolence. Actually my older siblings had the version of Dad who played Guitar in the clubs way back in the day. He would get drunk and act a fool from what I heard. My Mama was a good woman...who worked so hard to take care of her family. By the time I came along Dad was in bad health and slowed way down because of it. I had a better relationship with him and than the older 5.
This is very helpful. Thank you guys for being open. I have been struggling with schizophrenia for about 5 years, and was just recently told that it was actually a mental illness two months ago. It's quite a lot to take in...
thank YOU so much for sharing this with me. I am really thankful that this was helpful for you, because thats why we share such vulnerable stuff like this. I am really proud of you for how far you have come, and I would love to hear more about your story if you are open to it! wishing you so much light and peace in your journey. we are always here for you!❤️
@@andalsopodcast Thanks so much! I am very sorry for your loss. That is very heartbreaking. I wish you light and peace as well. Yea, it is mostly the medicine that is very intense right now. I am now at 0 delusions and hallucinations after 2 months of medicine.
Wow, that is incredible! I’m so glad the medication has helped in these areas. This is amazing to hear. Can I ask what the medication is called? I’d love to research more about it and learn about treatment options for schizophrenia 💗
@@andalsopodcast Abilify. Sure, this is a google drive folder I recently came across that has tons of research data in it if you are curious: drive.google.com/drive/folders/0B3eX0nlkVBRReXFXN2VpT0stQW8?resourcekey=0-CEtehUe4GjpOQ6KoVCLTqw&usp=sharing
@@andalsopodcast it was many many years ago (2007) but when my grandmother died I inherited their house and I can still feel them both here =] so that makes me happy!
I don't want to come across as critical of you, or like I'm trolling. But since you're holding up the book and talking about reading it if we want to be educated on the topic, you may want to go back and edit that part because you are mispronouncing the title. If you want to do a deep dive into an illness, you should know that the word "Malady" means an ailment or illness. It is not pronounced as if you are referring to the wife of Milord. It has a short a in the first syllable, like "sal" in salad, or "Cal" in California. The word is pronounced, mal-uh-dee. not muh-lay-dee.
Good to know, thanks for letting me know how it’s pronounced. It’s definitely not worth reshooting this entire segment, re-editing and reuploading over a mispronounced word. It doesn’t take away from the message, and the book is always listed in the description if someone wants to find it! Mispronouncing something doesn’t mean I’m uneducated- it means I mispronounced it. I know what it means, I’ve lived it and deeply understand it. But I said it incorrectly. That’s it!
I’m so sorry for your loss and experience with the mental health system. I work in a dual diagnosis treatment center and I want you two to know that most workers are just as frustrated with the rules about hospitalizing the mentally ill. Most people don’t pick a job in mental health if they don’t have a serious passion to help and have had a personal experience with mental health impacting their life in some way. We have to go by the same rules a parent does.. they’re adults and have to consent to treatment UNLESS they are a danger to themself or others. But how do you prove they are a danger when they are up and down and don’t believe they are mentally ill. We’ve had multiple patients say they are having SI but will tell the actual hospital they are fine or won’t say anything at all. I understand we all have different experiences and perceptions of those experiences although I don’t think it’s best idea to tell people that they won’t receive help or will struggle to if they reach out. We all have room for growth, this all is just my opinion so you do you, share your stories and continue learning and growing. Thank you for sharing 💜
Hey! Thank you for sharing this with me and for sharing your experience working in a treatment center. I wanted to clarify that we are not blanketly stating that reaching out for help inherently means you will not receive it. But we are saying that in Regis's experience, this was the standard, as well as many schizophrenic patients. As you said, it's not entirely at the fault of the system; instead, the illness creates a lot of struggle and dissonance for that patient. I am a huge advocate for getting mental health help and reaching out when you need it! I think when it comes to schizophrenia, though, it's so much more complicated. My guest may feel differently about her son's experience reaching out for help, but ultimately, my personal sentiment and what I share across platforms is always advocacy for getting help! That being said, thank you for your work in the field, supporting those who need help, and doing your absolute best to get that help for them. I know how frustrating the system can be, and how many circumstances MH workers are put in where they want to help, but legally cannot. Anyway, I hope this clarifies my stance that getting help should always be an option and that it's incredibly important!❤️ Thank you for watching and laving some feedback.
_Schizophrenia is stigmatized because our social media links it with crime. Then there's Dr Phil and all the Armchair Psychologists on Social Media who are not in a position to be diagnosing people. Also you should know Police are not trained or educated in the U.S in the same way my country Canada does to handle violent people with Mental Illness. That doesn't make them "Disgusting" for being ill-equiped. Being a Police Officer is a much harder job then working on youtube. Imagine being spit on and constantly have to deal with low-life people who could be carrying a gun and could kill you at any moment. They are people not robots. It's your Government that is at fault for Police not being Properly trained._
9:22 Body Mass Index is very racist and mysonginistic? Duhfuk? Bro BMI is just a baseline average of peoples height and weight. It's not that deep. How is that racist or sexist? I don't know what Anti-Scientific woke brainrot you've been reading online. But This makes you look like some Far-Left Woke nutjob like Hasan Piker or Keffals.
Hi! Here’s a little history on the BMI- The Body Mass Index (BMI) has been criticized for its association with racism and sexism due to its origins, limitations, and societal implications. Critics argue that BMI was developed using predominantly white male populations, making it less applicable to other demographic groups. Additionally, BMI fails to consider variations in body composition, such as muscle mass versus fat mass, which can result in misclassifying individuals, particularly athletes and people of different ethnicities. This misclassification can perpetuate stereotypes and discrimination, as certain racial and gender groups may be unfairly labeled as unhealthy or overweight based solely on BMI measurements. Furthermore, the emphasis on BMI in healthcare and public health policies can contribute to discriminatory practices and neglect the unique health needs of marginalized communities. Hope this helps!
Thank you so much for having me!❤ i absolutely loved talking about my experiences with motherhood. I hope someone can relate and know they are not alone in this!🩷
Loss my wife april of 13 yrs to cervix cancer tumor 8 1 23 thinking it was just menopause with butt pain within 3 mths just turned 50 - we helped with my mom at 82 we were the 3 musketeers..as caregivers n lived together, no friends, now she helps n worries about me, and we struggle together, we orbited each other 24/7 did everything together, we were together 17 yrs prior for 3 yrs in the early 90's n left me for another guy thinkin i didnt want to marry her, i did but wanted a nice wedding n not a corthouse wedding, come to find out she didnt care n got married, he beat her etc n they broke up later n, and we had an abortion, that tore me/us apart ..- so i got married to another for 12 yrs trying to help her get her kids, that wasn't mine, but to make up for not having kids with her n marring her, never did because o her mom having custody, then she met someone online and left me, out of the blue on Valentine's Day of all days, n messed around n forgave her during the last 3 yrs trying to keep us together etc, then left me for good... but she did call my x after all those yrs ago, and told her if you want him back here is his # .. She/april called n 3 mths later i married her this time and was like she never left, I always loved her n never forgot about her and 13 wonderful yrs, she was there when my dad died my step dad died my brothers wife died then he had a stroke, n esp when my grandma died in 2017 n was sent home from hospice care, I was in depression after that and was just coming out of it when she started overly bleeding thinking it was menopause, then the pain, then to the hospitals bounced around to oncology n gave us hope to passing within 3 mths n bleed out on the op table, after getting blood clots in her leg having a kidney bag attached to her, to remove the clots - her leg was so painful n she constantly urinated having to wear pads, n even more, so horrible..never made it to the 1st chemo session, so yeah, no sleep for days, the holidays, my cat had to be put down I had for 15 yrs, the winter through grief was the worst… Just now able to take melatona n sleep now 6 mths later... was taking 50 mg sominex at 1st till they quit working - tried antidepressants but quit …another story, n omg the withdraws from them to top it with grief, almost a book already, but yeah, loosing a spouse is imho the worse :(... sorry about your loss, omg loosing ur spouse n dealing with suicide grief.. sheesh, may the lord help and give us both, peace beyond understanding 😇
thank you so much for sharing such a vulnerable story with me! I am so beyond sorry for the loss of your wife. grief is so isolating and difficult, that all we can do is try to cope in ways that are safe and healthy, and find community in it. it can be so unbearable at times, but what I try to do is just find small moments of peace and love in my life, that remind me why sticking it out is worth it. its not easy, but we deserve a breath of fresh air every now and again! I hope you are finding moments of peace and healing in your journey. we are always here for you on this podcast!❤️
Oye!! I am thin, tall, blue eyes, and blonde. You gotta problem with that? We can take this outside. Ok... Maybe i am not THAT thin any more and my eyes are sometimes greyish...
Gracias por semejante demostración de amor. Desde Argentina, compartimos el dolor de la perdida de Jake y estamos dispuestos a ayudar en lo que sea necesario ❤. Los amamos.
