Dr. Mark Schillinger’s work has been featured on the CNN show “This is Life with Lisa Ling.” These videos are designed to help parents more effectively “challenge” or motivate their teenage sons to become more responsible and resilient. These videos offer straightforward advice so parents can minimize conflict and maximize cooperation with their sons - especially those young men who are distracted by their digital devices. For more information, visit www.challengingteenagesons.com
Isn’t one of the issues, that teenagers are more likely to respond well to a non-parent. How do parents undo years of muddled and ineffective parenting?
The only way that parents can undo years of ineffective parenting is to have a method, or a Way, to navigate themselves and their children through all of the distractions (social media, video games, weed & alcohol, etc) that confront families. Let me know if you'd like to talk more. cts.drmarkmentor.com/
I had a few reservations throughout the video but I'm glad you eventually circled back at the end to address the responsibility of the system and how many problems it causes for young and older people alike. In my opinion, what we as a society need more of is cross-generational socialization.
You create a slightly intimidating yet super safe atmosphere. Everyone is experiencing a completely new situation for the first time together. You encourage open honesty so that the participants trust and rely on each other. Deep neural paths are created that incorporate techniques similar to cognitive behavioral therapy. The practice of taking control of your mind and using your brain as the interface it was built to be. You start seeing your emotions as the chemical responses they are and practice disregarding their effects and begin analyzing them for the information they convey. Like anger letting you know something is not right and to search for the direct cause. Like for instance: I'm stuck behind a slow moving vehicle. I am experiencing anger because I have the expectation of getting home quickly and this person is preventing that. I am now able to recognize other aspects of the situation like the person's need to drive safely. Or the opportunity to sit back and enjoy the view. There are endless perspectives to consider.
Hi Dorothy - While your son is attending the YMUW, we highly recommend that all parents participate in a live event and on an online course. We have a free, informational Zoom call for parents on July 13th. Feel free to message us on our Facebook page for the Zoom link, facebook.com/YMUW16. We also have more information on this page: go.ymuw.org/registration-2022
Is the YMUW ever held in other parts of the US? Our challenge is that we live in Georgia and I'm a single mom. I see the value of this program and trust that there will be means for me to gift this experience to my son , myself, or family for the future. Maybe there is a scholarship or partial scholarship I could apply for? In the meantime, I'll be listening to your videos. My son is worth it.
This was a great piece! Hats off to you both from a man who's worked with you both, and will again, I'm sure. For readers, you can visit the YMAW website at ymaw.com/.
I was just spending time with my friend’s two step-daughters, and they really bonded with me in just one day because I actually spent time with them and asked them questions about their life. I think many parents forget how important just listening and being interested is. All you have to do is make your kids feel like they’re really important and be interested in their lives. A great way to bond is by learning together too… here’s a cool site: www.preparemykid.com
I adopted a teen and I really need advice, I can't keep arguing with him. I explain everything and respect and love him- but it never sticks. Years of trying.
Tea Just , you have got to realize that everyone has different views of what is right and what is wrong, so if the arguments are about what you or your son is doing wrong, then realize that there is no way to change someone’s morals. I would just listen to him, understand him, keep calm. Then just know that everyone views things a different way and if there is not an agreement, then that’s fine. You also have to realize that it’s also you in this situation, not just the son.
My son is not socially awkward but stays in and still wants friends. I have tried everything. How do I get friends for my son under normal, natural conditions?
Renee Beauchamp I'm in my late 20's, a guy and was socially awkward and even bullied/shunned a bit till college. Social withdrawal is a normal part of growing up, however obviously if you are asking about it, there might be an issue. I'm not judging you whatsoever however the way you phrased your question was quite interesting. Sadly you can't really in most cases get him friends, it's a skill that he has to learn. One of my problems was that I had a hard time reading people. I was given a fantastic book called How to Read People Like a Book and it really showed me how to gauge my classmates/future friends and how to better interact with them. I don't know if that is an issue with your son, but I read your comment and didn't want to leave such an important question completely addressed or unanswered. :) I wish you and your family the BEST of luck, and a lifetime of great friends and love together. :)
Renee Beauchamp it must be the new era of video game ADDICTION. Do you have family near by? If you are isolated or new in town it may be difficult at first. How old is your son?
Do you have a teenager who you think would benefit from doing a study exchange year abroad? If so, please reply back and I will tell you about my experiences as a Rotary Youth Exchange student in Europe, and the extensive question and answer book I have written about the process of becoming a RYE student.
Do you have a teenager who you think would benefit from doing a study exchange year abroad? If so, please reply back and I will tell you about my experiences as a Rotary Youth Exchange student in Europe, and the extensive question and answer book I have written about the process of becoming a RYE student.
