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Mr Taylor Klaus have ever live in a house for one or two days in a row with one or two or even 3 ADHD people without pre-scheduled activities? I am really sorry, but it seems you do not have a clear idea of the chaos.
What a wonderful interview, thank you, ladies! I’m one of those “high performers “ I had no idea I had ADHD until my daughter got diagnosed. I thought there’s no way I have ADHD because of my laser focus ability and achieving goals was my super power. ADHD explains my burnout, zero attention to people, family & the world when I focused on something, impulses, desperation for novelty ( I got depressed when there’s no novelty) , anxiety, emotion, craving for growth, crazing for constant stimulation, addictive personality, etc
I have ADD and I had to work harder in school than someone without it. Elementary school was the toughest. By middle school and high school, it was more the structure of it. Having six classes to take care of at once was overwhelming for my brain. I did summer school once though and only had two classes to worry about. With that I passed with an A and a B.
I was very happy to watch this….then I see she/her what can be more destructive then to confuse young minds about gender. Turned off and I’ll look somewhere else. There’s 2 genders and that’s it….this is the problem with teachers.
At my first rebound. Man, it sucks. I'm 37 yo, though. 😂 I was diagnosed not so long ago and we're still adjusting my medication. Will talk to my psychiatrist about it. Still helps just listening to you talking about it. Thanks.
1:15 great way to start out this interview. “Well enough?” Please don’t do that. If nothing else, request that they introduce themselves or, better yet, confirm the pronunciations of their names before beginning. This just furthers the image of white people in the West as being disrespectful of other cultures. It’s not good.
I have taken Sanity School especially for my youngest kids, but am now realizing how I need to figure this out for myself and some of my adult kids....yup...I high achieved in being a parent!
Elaine, are there any side effects to the medication you take? I have resisted the idea of needing meds for years as I do not have an official diagnosis and I felt that the goal ought to be to cover all the basis: sleep well, drink water, exercise, rest, pray, strengthen relationships and routines..THEN if I still need help,,, THEN I can consider meds. What is the name of the med that you are on. Can so relate to trying to get everything right at work so that I can enjoy life after that..exhausting!
We do online school which is best for my son. He needed something different, he is a smart kid, (I actually believe all ADD/ADHD kids are smart.) At the end of the school, I asked for an IEP for my son. The Asst. Principal said my son was doing so well and didn't understand why. She didn't see what was happening. My son had to stand for part of his recess for his Kindergarten and 1st-grade years because he couldn't sit still. In our first year of online school, (my son was 8,) the teacher sent me a video with ideas for helping wiggly kids. I got my son a ball chair to sit on and he used it to sit on for two years. It really helped. Fast forward, he doesn't sit on the ball chair, or the frame, (he would zoom around on it.) We are haven't trouble getting school started. I have been tickling him, and getting mad when we just can't get started. I think now I will do more with him. I knitted him a blanket and it is heavy, (he liked the yarn so instead of saying no, I bought more and made him a blanket. Thank you.
So glad to be in your group, Ellen! Thanks for sharing your story! I feel like I'm just behind you in our journey, so you're inspiring me to keep doing the work! Love that Elaine and Diane have created this for all of us who have been struggling!
As a former student of Ms.Foster I am immensely thankful for her talking to me as a real person and assisting with everything she did. Keeping up with her students and just fully making sure they are doing the best they can. Everyone needs a teacher like her in their corner
My 16-year-old is adamant he shouldn't need help for anything and that getting accommodations for his ADHD and autism is somehow a cheat code. Feels like there's no winning with that kid sometimes. What I find more difficult, though, is how to offer/provide less help so they take over the task themselves. It's the all-or-nothing thing, probably, and it translates really quickly to learned helplessness and our 12-year-old is especially guilty with this. Sadly, it's become "you need to do all this by yourself" because if we do anything to assist, somehow that becomes we're expected to do everything. Finding that middle is difficult.
Always so nice to hear professionals who not only get it, but can articulate it so clearly. I'm glad I stumbled onto this. I like the idea of teaching the kids to be self-scientists. Great interview!
How do I seek help if I don't even know what's wrong with me or why I feel the way I do, I just constantly feel terrible like I can't stop beating myself up and doing the same things everyday, I have 0 drive to do anything after coming home from job corps (almost died of a tooth infection that they wouldn't sign transportation forms and I lived 6 hours away and only was given 60 dollars every 2 weeks so I had to wait until I had 300 dollars to have my mom come get me. Who would I even call?
Dr. Hallowell does not mention that the lack of perseverance in people with ADHD means that we start things and rarely follow through or complete them. We are only the idea innovators, not necessarily the producers. To say otherwise, mischaracterizes the disorder. The strength-based model is flawed as it assumes that you know or can access gifts that are not related to ADHD. ADHD is not a gift in itself for most people and in most situations. In terms of comorbidities, what about the LDs that can delay or impede educational success, anxiety, depression, etc. Addiction is just one negative comorbidity. Some of us have dysthymia and always have. To say it is not true depression is to deemphasize the harm that the depression causes. What about the combination of ADHD and ASD? He always goes for the low-hanging fruit to push his blessing mantra. We need more Barkley and less Hallowell. The god language was unprofessional and ridiculous.
I was wondering when i first saw this and i was curious about it ontill i gave it a try because my daughter was diagnosed with authism for a very long time and dr bante helped me cure it thamkfull for everything dr bante God bless you for you for everything you have done for me
I was wondering when i first saw this and i was curious about it ontill i gave it a try because my daughter was diagnosed with authism for a very long time and dr bante helped me cure it thamkfull for everything dr bante God bless you for you for everything you have done for me
Sorry it has taken us so long to reply! With my 5 year old, I approach it two different ways. If she is watching a video and it is short, I will say that she has to get off at the end of the video. If the video is long, I tell her that she needs to get off in 5 minutes and set a timer. If "the timer" is telling her to get off, it seems to help a ton -- plus the preparation, I've told her the expectations and that she will need to get off in 5 minutes.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for saying that we need to teach kids to have a responsible relationship with technology because it is not going away!! . I have been saying this to all of my friends. They are so into control over their kids and parents know best! And telling me that I need to have total parental control over my kids screen. I believe that I need to work WITH my two boys, that both have ADHD and one has Asperger‘s, to help them understand how screens affect them. My friends tell me that I just need to set down the rule for them. I believe that we need to work with our children to understand how to take self responsibility (we won’t always be there to tell them to turn a screen off). I am doing your program Digital Sanity Summit 2020 and it is so refreshing to hear that more people are finally starting to realize how screens affect all of us, but especially young developing minds of kids. And that power struggles can be so much less when we cooperate. Our kids are not OURS, they are little humans with amazing individual spirits for us to help GUIDE in life, not control. Thank you again for doing this summit during this coronavirus 2020 international shut down when so many kids will be on screens so much more than usual. Maybe when we come out of this we can all have a new understanding of screen time and health.
Thanks, Therese, for those kind words! We're so glad we've been able to provide you with some support -- especially during this challenging time! And thank you for attending the Digital Sanity Summit! We're so glad you found it helpful. Please let us know if we can do anything else to help you!
