I can't focus on the video, no matter how hard I try. I'm sick and fucking tired of suffering on this planet. I LOATHE it here. I wish for death, and nothing else.
Are we meant to be totally detached or totally attentive? Ajahn Amaro says: - Both are needed. You need to balance both. - right word and action based on the situation -middle path is needed -wasnt identified with his body, people, scenarios, but was attuned to every situation and every action was appropriate and harmless - fully present and detached at the same time
I think most 'normal' people realise that close attachments can be a source of both happiness and suffering, but they think the happiness is worth the suffering, or worth the risk of suffering at least. In other words they would say that "it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." Maybe for others however their fear of suffering is stronger than their desire to experience the happiness that can come from those kinds of attachments, so they avoid them altogether and become monks. Don't know if you can say one way is right and the other way is wrong, just different personal preferences maybe? But I can also see that if you view everything as one, and a product of causes and conditions, and view all outcomes as ultimately equal then it wouldn't make sense to form passionate attachments to things or particular people.
The thinking is that “happiness” can come not only from sense pleasures (what “normal” people call happiness) which inevitably leads to suffering when the sense pleasure ceases but also from spiritual pleasure. The cessation of attachment is said to feel better than any sense pleasure
