They’re trying to guilt Op so they don’t take accountability for their actions. It’s manipulative and I hope op doesn’t give in and chooses to walk away.
I can’t blame you but you definitely handled it all wrong, you should have completed the divorce and disowned your son, given your daughter her money and taken the rest then disappeared.
YTA. It isn't unreasonable for you to have expected that his dad would be included. But when he wasn't, you chose not to say anything. And that makes you the a-hole.
That's no friend, she's a spiteful self-righteous troublemaker. She sat on that secret until she could use it to cause maximum damage and distress. Not nice!
Dude…this exact thing happened with my aunt (dad’s sister) and uncle. They had gotten together right after they graduated high school and had been together for I don’t even know how many years and then my aunt’s biological dad ended up hooking up with my uncle’s mom. Whenever they’d go out with my parents, my uncle would give my dad shit and ask if they were going out as step-brothers or BILs.
Nope. You mom made you the unpaid babysitter, and apparently also the chief cook and bottle washer for the reunion. Then she got a little sloppy and started in on you about having kids. I think you had held onto your temper long enough at that point, and you weren't particularly nasty when you told her how you felt. About what SHE had done. Plus she's the one who drank too much, not you. You don't owe anyone an apology.
This woman is literally deranged. And I agree with the other posters; YOU:RE the one who needs to file for an order of Protection. She should have no contact with you or your daughter, and shouldn’t be allowed on your property.
Women just can’t be counted on to act like adults. They have the temperament of teenagers. Fickle and moody. Almost like an extra child the man has to handle.
MESSAGE TO EVERYONE THAT HATE THEIR STEPMOTHER/STEPFATHER, YOU PARENT ALLOW ALL OF THIS AND PUT THEIR VAGINAL/D1CK ABOVE YOU, HATE YOUR ACTUAL PARENT. Why everything a hear a story about horrible stepfamily i hear nothing bad the actual parent? Why she still wants her mother around? This man could have done nothing of this if he was gone the moment he showed his true colors, but mommy love to bounce and suck the stepdad d1ck much more she ever loved op.
If that's what her husband is like, I wouldn't leave the child with him either. What I would do is give him an ultimatum: get a job, or we're done. And the judge WILL order him to pay child support. This woman's problem is that she has a useless man and she sees OP's better situation as a possible solution to her problem. OP stood her ground, as she should.
OP needs to stop blaming themselves for their bad behaviour as a child, which is probably a result of her parents gaslighting. His step-dad’s abuse is to blame for him acting out, any child or even adult would under those circumstances! His mum is almost as bad for enabling it.
0:24 I assume “my parents ashes” was supposed to be “my father’s (parent’s)” and “she passed” was supposed to be “he passed” because otherwise that would mean both of OP’s parents died. 1:35 “stepmother” should be “stepfather” too.
When a "therapist" limits your contact to 30 mins a week to see a parent if behaviour is appropriate, it's either a fake therapist or a really bad one. OP finally realized too late.
That has to be improper practise because that’s horribly bad advice! It’s also completely biased towards the step father despite the fact that he is abusive and the one at fault for OP’s behaviour.
NAH, sure she's trying to protect her daughter, but she seems really stubborn on this. But since she only does this around Chris, who isn't romantically interested, this is no big deal and is probably a phase.
After a while since I first came across this Post, I started developing a theory that perhaps the neighbors were probably workaholics who couldn't afford the time of taking their own kids out somewhere that would have amused them. That daughter's birthday party was probably seen as "most convenient" on their behalf because the parents assumed they could keep working while the kids can be entertained right next door. After the husband escorted them back home, the neighbors probably tried finishing their work as much as possible so they can actually walk with their kids back to the party, thinking it would be a chance for all of them to be entertained as well. They most likely left that handwritten letter out of frustration regarding how they actually had to do something with their kids, especially since they were whining for who knows how long.
NTA OP should've pressed charges and fight for sole custody saying she'll be a unfit parent for resorting to deadly force in a argument after a paternity test I bet she cheated and is angry at OP for not realising it
Your sister is blood. That mean family you DONT get to choose. You best friend is family, not blood. That means the family you GET to choose. Always go with the family YOU chose. They are the ones you WANT in your life, not the one you got STUCK WITH in this life.
What auntie did was a felony. She should have gone to prison. OP's mom is just as bad as auntie, since she agrees with the pervert. OP needs to disinvite his mom, and any family members that agree with those 2 b_tches can just not attend the wedding. It would be like inviting rats into your pantry. Sorry, no sympathy at all.
Yes your wrong your worries about what she does is unfounded her health is more important! abandoned his mother !who gave him life ,your wrong for asking him to do that because if it was your mom you would be mad at him for asking you to do something like that if you love him you would make it work until she is not here anymore he would love you more, your putting to much pressure on him to choose
Did you guys listen to the ENTIRE video? She admitted that HALFWAY through the meal, she would change her mind about the water. Her husband said ordering the water now would save the waiter a trip. So, YES, you are the idiot!
