Welcome to Parenting Aging Parents! We all get to the point when the kids are in high school or college. You're about to be empty nesters. But now you have a new role. Aging parents that you're taking care of. Helping them with medical problems, financial situations, life insurance, health insurance, Covid, Alzheimer's and more. On this channel, Kim & Mike Barnes will share interviews with experts to help you know what questions to ask and where to turn for help.
We have a website with resources, including The Caregiver's Key - A Guide for Gathering Essential Information (parentingagingparents.com/the-caregivers-key/). There's also a private Facebook community where you can go to ask questions, share your experiences and get ideas and support from others. You can go to everything at: parentingagingparents.com
We didn't discuss that in the interview but according to the Texas Health & Human Services website it's an agreement to release your facts so that staff can check eligibility. Here's a link to the website. www.hhs.texas.gov/regulations/forms/0-999/form-h0003-agreement-release-your-facts
@@parentingagingparents these people are trying to drive me crazy, I did sign those papers in my application. However they are saying I didn’t which then states I don’t qualify for Medicaid. Ridiculous… Thank you for replying.
My mom was at rehab for several weeks and I was told she could walk 100 feet with a walker and transfer independently. My observation was that she wasn’t as strong as they thought. Even the OT said, “It’s precarious.” She lives with me and they discharged her home with home health for more PT a few days a week. On my own, I decided to get a caregiver full time during the day while I was at work. She came home Friday evening. It took all she had to get from the car to the door (about 20 feet) and had to sit in a chair at the door before she could get up and go inside. Couldn’t walk more than 15 feet with walker and me holding her gate belt. She kept saying “I can’t go any farther.” And by then end of the first day was only going like 5 feet at a time. Back to hospital next day because she was too weak to even get to her bedside toilet. She was NOT safe at home even with me (I’m a nurse!) there to help her and definitely wasn’t going to be fine without full time care. How did she lose strength so fast at home? Back at hospital couldn’t find anything wrong with her except she was weak. So frustrating and so sad. She felt like she had failed somehow.
I live in Harris county, is there some one I can contact here. What if I just want to look for what my options are on my own without my sons having too? Where do I go for advice? I just need some help now but not long term care, I'm 81 now and I can't do everything for myself now. I live alone so these thing don't get done. I'm just can't doing these things. I don't understand where to go and who to ask for help. Not everyone want our children to do all the work to care for them.
If you just need a little help around the house, you can look for a private caregiver or a Home Care company that can provide caregivers to help on hourly basis. I'd ask for referrals from friends, church, neighborhood, etc. Senior care advisors in your area are also a wealth of knowledge, especially if you think you might want to move from home into an independent living community. They know a lot of resources. Also, the Area Agency on Aging is a great resource in most every major city. You can do a search for "Area Agency on Aging" and your city/county to find the location in your area. Here's the one for Harris County: txregionalcouncil.org/agencies-on-aging/harris-area-agency-on-aging/ Hope this helps,
@@OfficiallySusan This is about Medicaid - the federal/state program that can provide nursing care for someone who qualifies to need 24/7 care and meets the financial criteria - generally low-income. (There are also Medicaid programs that help people who are pregnant, kids with disabilities, etc.) Where Medicare is basically health insurance program for people 65+. We have videos about Medicare, too.
I think the work you do is remarkable. You really put your heart into your work. I work for a tech startup, along with my team. We're building a platform to support caretakers. We have some people based in Austin, TX. We'd love if we could have an intro with you guys.
If you already have Medicaid, and get an Inheritance, you have to pay back any assistance or use lose tge following months until are back to where you were?
That's an interesting question. Here's info from a free service provided by the American Council on Aging. www.medicaidplanningassistance.org/inheritance/ Hope this helps.
What if your parent is in acute care for 3 months and your just applying for Medicaid he receives 1700 a month from social security but because hes been in the accute care for 3 month his account is over 2000 due to each months payment from social security payments building up. i have not touched his account because i didn't no if i had the ability to do that to pay his bills like rent and phone he was staying with me im his only living daughter but he cant return to the place we were staying it was temporary until we found a bigger place which im trying to work and save towards to get a place big enough for us both so i can care for him but i don't no if i can legally touch his income to pay for the cost of living im the person who makes decisions for him but i dont have guardianship or poa over him . Hes incompetent im new to this and was in the process of trying to plan for our future before his accident this put us in a horrible situation im only one person with 3 children id like to care for him but i dont no if he will even get Medicaid and if i can get a place fast enough for us all i dont make alot of money at all struggling to servive i dont no what services are available for people like us its alot to take on as a single mother but hes my dad im already working as a inhome care taker if he qualify for Medicaid and i get a place thats safe and appropriate for us will they only have me caring for him or will i be able to receive some help so i can have a break i just dont no what path i should take
Adult Protective Services are corrupt in Norfolk, VA and Kansas City, MO!! I called them for help to protect my husband from his abusive daughter. When they learned we had millions, they had GAL file false report. The corruption was a well oiled machine including judges who ignored DPOA and my husband's own testimony. They put him in a nursing home with NO MEDICAL ISSUES AGAINST HIS WILL. They stole almost 4million by selling all our 4 homes for quick cash then within days, they drugged him to death. DO NOT TRUST THESE PEOPLE. THEY LIE. THEYRE EVIL.
I'm told from the nursing home who is applying for Medicaid for my sister,she was married five times but never changed her social security card to her new name.this is what is stopping her from being approved.HUH ?
I'd reach out to the Ombudsman's office in your area. They help resolve disputes and concerns in assisted living, memory care, skilled nursing or nursing homes. You can find one in all 50 states. Do a google search for "Area Agency on Aging" and your city. They should be able to tell you how to find the ombudsman's office. If it's an emergency you can also report complaints to the state agency in your state that oversees those facilities. In Texas, it's Health and Human Services and their hotline number is 800-458-9858. If you're in another state, do google search for "complaint hotline" for whatever type treatment facility you're concerned with. Here's an interview we did about what an Ombudsman does, if helpful. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7YM8TMLxCS4.htmlsi=8AlBuSiJyivDPZuD
I'd check with the Centers for Medicare & Medicaid Services www.usa.gov/agencies/centers-for-medicare-and-medicaid-services. There's also a link there to find your state Medicaid office since benefits vary by state.
Sorry you're having trouble. Maybe the Illinois Dept of Aging can point you in the right direction. Look for the office that's close to where you need help. ilaging.illinois.gov/forprofessionals/areaagenciesonaging.html
Interesting when attorneys in general never want to give the fee range that they charge. Obviously people want to decrease the amount of expense because the fees are high. Anyway, I thoroughly am enjoying your videos as they are informative. Thank you!
Glad you're finding the interviews helpful. Many attorneys offer a free consult so they can get a better idea of your needs. There are so many variables that can make a situation more or less complicated and time consuming, it's hard for any professional to guess how long it will take which determines the cost.
@@parentingagingparents My dad is in his 90's and I see him really slowing down. I will probably be there when he passes and the anxiety of this is something I've been feeling more and more. I'm sharing this video with my siblings because we really need to talk about this stage in my concerns. Just get that out there .
If I quit my job do I still qualify for Medicaid if I was previously getting healthcare through my employer? 19 and 16 weeks pregnant. Don’t know if that would make a difference located in IL
Medicaid is a joint federal and state program that can you apply for if you meet certain income requirements. You apply through your state. Here's a website for IL: hfs.illinois.gov/medicalclients/medicaidguide/applying.html
I’m only 5 minutes in so far so apologies if you go into this more. Yes everybody please consider password complexity and uniqueness and age - but OMG NO don’t write yours or else’s passwords down - in a book or on paper - in any chaotic or even organized fashion - in pencil OR pen. Unless this physical notebook or papers-in-folders will only sit static in a sturdy locked physical safe all the time. Passwords are more powerful now than they were when our parents had to come up with them. Treat them like you would money in the bank and put them in a secure vault.
In general you are not incorrect, however, it can be done safely. Keep it in a designated password protector and then lock it in a cabinet or safe. Sometimes it's a necessity and better than no online access.
With some less tech savvy people, using password managers and online vaults just isn't really an option. They can keep written passwords safe. Or like with my mom, we've just limited what can be accessed on her computer at all.. no bank accounts or other financial accounts so there's not much anyone could get to.
Thanks to all of you! I am in anticipatory grief alot because 10 days ago my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer....16 months ago he had a tumor inside the esophagus and now its spread to lymph nodes. I have been grieving this since the day we found out 16 months ago. Mr. Colwell I am so sorry for your loss and I so get it...about the wanting to travel and how the diagnosis changed everything! I feel like you described what we feel better then anyone I have heard so far. Thank you!
From what I've learned there are some documents that do similar things but might be called something different in different states. I'd check with an attorney in your state to make sure you have what you need for your specific situation.
This old man says starting on July 5, 2024 Fiduciary Security Elder Law Inheritance Administration will reward RE agents to Financial Advisors $1500.00 for each forgery proof NICER 837PC interdiction Gold Whoopi Bird another name for Lady Bird deeds so no one can steal our homes.
Super helpful, working with APS in FL currently. So far, they have been on top of it. I feel that they are advocating for my grandma (the client) AND me!
I will be meticulous when it comes to Medicaid qualifications. They do not tell you that this program can take your home as a pay-back. Both the federal and the county will collect their money somehow somewhere
It is all so confusing and every person's situation is definitely different. Finding a person who can advise you and your situation can help you decide what's the best plan of action for you.
They can't touch your home if it has a homestead exemption attached to it. Also if you quit claim deed the home to someone or leave it to them in a will the home cannot be touched.
I'm currently going thru the same thing, my mom has Pulmonary fibrosis and currently she gotten worst . She's really having a had time breathing and it hurts me so much so see her suffer
How do they qualify? Oh let us count the ways! And then once they 'qualify' Medicaid will take their home and all their assets. How family wealth gets financialized.
I’ve been anticipating this in waves since childhood 🤦🏽♀️ think it’s due to growing as at an only child and your parents often become like your best friends
interesting. what if the husband & wife are co-owners on the deed and the husband has passed away? can the Lady Bird Deed be done in that scenario? in Texas btw
That could make it more complicated but I'm not an attorney. I would ask an attorney to be sure. If you're in Texas, Barnett & Leuty would be a good place to start!
We have Nicer Fiduciary Security Legals and Paralegals to install Forgery Proof Interdiction Living Trust Title Deeds. So we avoid probate and quit claim jumping equity elder abusing Lady Bird Title Deed Thieves.
Sorry for slow reply. It's going to totally depend on how much needs to be done. Some law firms will give you a free consultation so you'll know what you're facing.
