Welcome to my channel, I'm Martin! On this channel, I am sharing my insights that I have gathered through my own experience over the last 10 years about psychology, trauma healing, personal development, and everything related to mental health. Maybe some information in the videos do not apply to your situtation. Take what resonates with you, and feel free to leave the rest.
The information on this channel is only for educational purposes. It is not meant to be a substitute for in-person professional medical advice.
Narcissists and their flying monkeys will always act bigger, better, superior, and more entitled than you. Narcissists are delusional and will blame you for everything including things they imagine. Narcissists love to hurt, punish, and intimidate others to gain control. Don't fall for the narcissists' con games. Hold onto you and your self worth. Let the offenses of narcissists roll off of you. Never internalize narcissistic abuse. It takes constant work and lots of determination and the strong belief that you are right.
Many narcissists were treated too well as children. They were catered to, spoiled, loved, indulged, never corrected, rewarded for bad behavior, and given an unearned sense of authority and self importance. These people often become narcissists. When people do not cater to narcissists' needs and demands, they can become targets. Never cave to narcissists. Never pity them. Never fall for their brutal tactics, games, and love and charm offensives. Learn to protect yourself and minimize their damage. Ignore them and focus on much more important things. Let their abuse roll off. Hold on to yourself and who you are despite narcissistic abuse. Let narcissistic mistreatment make your stronger. Ignore them. Dismiss them. Know you are right. Learn to survive and prosper despite narcissists. That will drive them crazy and may eventually make them seek better targets to exploit.
A Narcissist in my experience is a weak personality unable to be anything other than a bully who has a masking of his actions and uses his false personality as a shield and a weapon. They will do this not only do this to their targets (people they abuse, strangers) but will apply in an even harsher way to their partners or children. This I am observing in real time in a real situation , it is nauseous in the extreme, but I read or watch advice saying never inform a narcissist face to face, well I disagree, I did so and the response from them was ,and I quote,(someone has been calling me names and I would like to talk to you.) My reply was straight and firmly put, Any time . Result , steps were taken by him to isolate his family from my influence and from myself, I spoke openly of my situation to them ,reaffirmed my support for them and they replied in a positive way but felt financially and emotionally trapped in their circumstances. For myself I stay available to them but to him I am polite but non involving. I have witnessed such blatantly played out lies claiming injury's in such a child like way that it was laughable , how could you take such childish behaviour from an adult and maintain respect for that person is unreal.I have faced many real dangers in life ,stood my ground with honesty and openness and always found that fear is the greatest enemy anyone can have.
They choose hate over love , period. They are too self absorbed and self centered to care for anyone else. It’s a choice to be hateful and abusive. The core issue is envy and jealousy. Face reality and repent of your sins. I’m sick of these gross narcissistic manipulators.
I’m Dutch, not a native English speaker and you tube is watched from all over the world. The content (about narcissism) is not only “difficult” but also must be digested by people who maybe are not in very good mental condition after abuse. Therefore I’d say that the -spoken content- should be central. Because of the music that content/the voice has to be filtered out a lot of “noice” / the music. It makes me and possibly more non native speakers tired and I miss parts of what is said. You can help bij lowering the volume so that the voice is clearer. Besides (serieus topic, possibly harmed people listening) the music at some parts makes nervous; the staccato strings. I guess you want to help and comfort people. Considering the mentioned above might improve that. The reason I reacted.
Thank you for the feedback. :) I'll take it into consideration in the next video. Out of curiosity, are you talking about the start and the end, or did you find the middle part too loud as well?
Thanks for the comment. I'm glad you found value in it, and I appreciate the feedback. I have also noticed that some of the videos I've made may be too loud. I'll take it into account in future videos :)
I'm not suggesting that you have to feel sorry for the ones that abuse. I think the value of understanding the why is to see that their brains work in a different way than ours. It can help to stop projecting one's own goodness onto them and accept that they NEED narcissistic supply and they also need to devalue and hurt others. Kind of like seeing objectively that a lion needs to hunt and kill prey. This understanding makes staying away from them a logical choice.
Positive the wall you build in love is contagious don’t build anything in life NEGATIVELY project ur selfless self be the things you never had and always deserved needed and wanted there are no threats only weaknesses needed to be fulfilled with genuine love and purpose If you have an evil upbringing don’t give that back to anyone!!!!!!!!!
Its their choice. Ours is to put ourselves in a place where we dont "need" them for anything, then walk away. Time to let the narcs play only with other narcs, that should be fun
In my experience my narc father and sister stick together, they are very street wise. When my late mother was alive my narc father would complain about my sister's mayhem, when she passed, he went to her side, so it was 2-1. They stole everything from me, claiming I had caused my mother's liver failure, basically everything and anything...they enjoyed the physical and emotional abuse. When I questioned him about budding up to her, he said she was strong so he was 'looking out for himself'..my sister was my parents Golden child, my father was his mother's, she was her narc father's, my sister's children hate me, and her youngest is her Golden child. 100 years of dysfunctional, child and wife abuse. No trauma, it's euphoric for them. The betrayal is hard to get over.
Absolutely. Don't feed them. That is hard to learn and maintain but people learn to do it. Develop a strong ability to ignore narcissists. Focusing on work, study also helps. Anything that takes your mind away from the offenses of narcissists.
They hate themselves and hate you if they think you are happier and more confident and successful than them, and they will hate you even more if you are quite popular with people where they can see that everybody you know loves and respect you. I know because my ex hated it if i was talking to friends,having a laugh, and talking about the good old days, it somehow irritated him.
@@zeenuf00 Agreed. I think the value of understanding the why is to see that their brains work in a different way than ours. It can help to stop projecting one's own goodness onto them and accept that they NEED narcissistic supply and they also need to devalue and hurt others. Kind of like a lion needs to hunt and kill prey. So this understanding makes staying away from them a logical choice.
I'm glad you enjoy the videos! What do you mean exactly with slides? Something like bullet points of what I'm talking about in a segment like "Re-Parenting"? There is always a video transcript of everything I've said in the video, if that is helpful to you :)
I don't think past truma can be blamed for everything. I can recognise some of these traits in me but definitely haven't experienced any truma. What's the explanation for that?
Thanks for the comment :) Trauma is often hidden from conscious awareness because it was too much to bear when someone experienced it. Additionally, trauma, like emotional neglect, is VERY hard to see because it is not something done to you but rather the absence of emotional nurturing. That being said, if you know you were not traumatized, please don't let a dude on RU-vid tell you otherwise. You know your own history the best. Maybe there is another explanation that I am not aware of. Hope this helps :)
this is the second video that I've watched and I'm very grateful Mr Martin. I subscribed to your channel when i watched your video for the first time because I see the value in what you're doing and I really understand what you're teaching on this particular topic.Thank you so much
Try using a calmer music or turning the volume of it a bit down, makes it really hard to focus on the actual content of the video and what is being said.
Yes, it's indeed a lengthy process, in my experience and from what I've seen and read. It involves getting rid of years of (psychological) poison from within you, and you'll probably end up with some scars... quite painful.
