I'm with Lily on this, if OP didn't like the Overshadong they should have brough it up with the girl before they got this exasperated with her bs and just said what she said to her. It doesn't take a lot to not be an asshole.
I personally knew someone like this so I am a little biased in my answer. The individual I knew refused to listen when I told them I’m uncomfortable and was a disgusting human being. They openly spoke about abortions like it was birth control (I’m not against abortions but I do find a problem with people who use it as birth control when they could easily use condoms or actual birth control). The individual I knew even threw little hangouts with cakes that said “No baby” on it. So if the individual in the story is similar in that way - meaning they are self-centered to the point they refuse to leave OP alone after they discussed it before, then I don’t see OP as wrong. However, if the discussion never occurred and this is their first time addressing it, then they could have been more mature but I don’t blame them for reacting the way they did. When people are uncomfortable, especially over long periods of time, they lash out. I don’t blame their reaction but it does demonstrate the maturity of the individual if they never discussed their uncomfortable feelings beforehand. If they did discuss it, then it’s fair game.
😢😢 It’s ok everyone will eventually be done and there is nothing we can do about it. At least she will be doing something that she loves and she will have a great time. GOOD FOR LILY
Is she saying "miscarriage" like actual miscarriages or like a form of "contraception" because if she has real miscarriages is crazy that she is still sleeping around with no feelings of her lost children. But I got a feeling is more the second one, using ab0rtion as a form of contraception and that is also sick on ita own way.... she needs help mental and re-connect with her parents so she wont be so lost and have the need to trauma dumping on strangers...
definitely the way how she tells her is kind of an asshole way but in the context of how it happened, we can say that it’s well deserved. sure the girl wasn’t trying to get answers or advice from OP, nor did the OP ask about it anyway and could not care less of the decision making of the girl. so expecting for the OP to be nice about the response is kinda saying that the girl has not been grounded to reality.
While the girl thought she was becoming friends with her so that’s why she overshared. I think it should have been communicated at first that she didn’t want to hear about this kind of stuff.
Not an asshole, just self-preserving and boundary-setting. But not helping either. To help there you'd need to be able to convey that same message ("be more responsible, change your behavior"), with empathy and without making them feel judged, which is incredibly hard. People usually have to train for it, it doesnt come natural to most
Lily doesn’t get that they aren’t friends and OP didn’t ask the girl anything… suddenly being cornered by someone to hear their problems is exhausting, sometimes you don’t have the energy to deal with it bc you have your own problems. Yes trying to be polite and empathetic by default is great, but no one can be polite and empathetic to every human being every time, and that’s why you ASK people if you can talk to them about things such as a fucking miscarriage.
No, you have to be blunt with these weirdos like there’s only two genders. You cannot play women face, and going into women’s sports. All these liberal policies are ruining America. Soft on crime is destroying liberal cities, and they won’t accept that their policies are making it worse.
Sometimes I hate how female brain works which in this case Lily, instead of thinking logically first they think with their feelings first instead... like come on, it's already the third times... eventually you need to learn from your mistakes right?
"But in all seriousness, this is my final school project for the science fair." [Proceeds in ripping the banner off and reveals the true name: How gullible is our school throughout the school year]
I don't think that response was even rude. It was pretty blunt, sure, but I think it was necessary. Also the girl sounds like she needs proper attention from her parents. May be a form of acting out because she doesn't get enough love at home, just my guess though
Reminds me of the time I had to do state testing in school, but it wasn't required to graduate and essentially I was taking it for no reason. So I answered "C" for every answer and proceeded to score "Advanced". They made me retake it. Answered "C" for ever question again. Still scored "Advanced".
I took some oranges, put a cage on them to keep flies from eating them, and then just took a picture every week. I was supposed to weigh them for water content, but I forgot, so I just made it up. I ended up coming in third place in the science fair 🤷🏽♂️
I got more pissed off at her just saying asshole than anything else but than I realized well duh it’s a woman saying it so her opinion is completely invalid as I can tell she’s just emotional because her gender is being called out for having options and always trying to blame the man for something he didn’t do
