Pretty much. It’s not that hard to know when or if you have something scheduled. What’s hard for them is “oh but what if something else I want to do more come sup.” Which is the whole problem with the culture right now just like dating. It’s best to stay happy and just do what you know feels to be right.
I've been on both sides of this. I've been working on my own flakiness, and for now I just don't commit to like 90% of things I'm invited to lol. Not being an a-hole about it, I just really don't want to flake out on people anymore
I totally understand how you feel mate, I am sick of people doing it to me. If someone does it to me I never arrange things again unless they arrange something to prove they care.
"Everybody has problems, shut the **** up and show up on time!" Dude, omg. Thank you so much for saying this...! My friends flaked out on me so, so, sooo many times, its always something! I used to feel bad for getting upset but after a while, its like why do I even bother trying! Hearing someone else say this just feels so liberating.
These shitheads never think about the people on the other side. I cleared my fucking calendar for you and you can't even bother to say you aren't coming until i ask?
Its the gaslighting when you call these people out thats the most annoying. They act like you are the ahole like its come outta no where ?!?!? Like why are you making out like you are sooooo busy, only to then get tagged in pictures or post shit clearly you are not. Im in my mid 30s and after a certain point I guess im just not liked enough for my friends to make the effort anymore. I get it times march stops for no one and once you get a job, bills and a gf/wife ya time is short but if they really wanted to see you, follow thru on plans, start that project, etc they would. Some people i guess just suddenly or overtime simply stop caring. Im too old for this one sided friendship crap. And once I stopped ive never heard from some of these people for years.
I have an old 'friend' whose a long term repeat offender at doing this > she's an opportunist. I agree once you committ to something(unless there's a very valid reason), you follow through otherwise you're basically full of sh#t(a liar)
Found this late, but preach!! I’m a guy in my mid thirties. I’ve been dealing with this kind of 💩 since I was a teenager. Not from the same people… but a number of people over the years. I’ve literally just had 2 last minute cancellations over the weekend and 2 guys who when we last met up said that we should meet up for a bbq. Found out on social media that they had the bbq with their partners and didn’t invite me. If I ever vocalise this to anyone though I am seen as insecure and the bad guy. My wife can’t believe how common this sort of stuff is in the U.K. (she isn’t from there). I have very low trust for people outside of family and my wife. They are my only real friends.
Bro its the foooooking worst. While brooding after getting flaked on I realized id been trying to get a mates trip to amsterdam for my birthday for a DECADE. And they would always flake when it came time to book. And as you know from the UK flights are CHEAP. But yea, I guess after a certain point some people just stop being your friend and phase you out.
the internet is weirdly perfect for our minds to comprehend. it was designed to simulate infinity and were here to observe. eerily similar to the 7 deadly sins with how it simulates infinity
Now where are you guys? There’s like 3 other videos you’ve missed and 11 minute live performances video, I’ve been waiting!! I never realized how much I needed grown men fangirling over oliva rodrigo
It’s been an epidemic in my lifetime. I just had a friend call tell me she would be coming to live with me so I spend two weeks emptying the room, cleaning and preparing. She never showed, never answered texts or calls. I get a call from her niece today almost 3 weeks later saying they’re getting a place. No apology, no explanation just total oblivion on how to treat people. There’s the fake friends who call once or twice a year or maybe see them at the store. “Oh we should get together” then they talk about themselves for 5 minutes and when you try to interject something about yourself they barely listen. They never want to do anything. They were lying to get attention and appear nice. The few who actually come by only want to “on the fly” spontaneously never planned just pop in out of nowhere. If they “plan” to come by it’s about a 95% chance they don’t show, don’t call and act like it’s no big deal they didn’t. People today seem to have no manners or consideration for others. It’s literally an epidemic.
I once had a party planned and all 12 people who said they’d come didn’t and all had excuses. It was me and my co-host. We had food, drinks everything.
Me too.. I quit having parties because the favor was never returned. I spent weeks of time and thousands of dollars and no one ever invited me to their gathering or home in return. The only way I could see them is to invite myself to come by or run into them at the store. When I quit doing all the legwork and putting on the puppet show the relationships were over. Now it seems fake or self degrading to invest time in trying to “make friends”. You can’t make gold out of a turd.
Flaky people are one of my biggest pet peeves. I HATE when people waste my time. And then when you tell them I’m not available for them anymore and then they ask why??? One that’s not your business and two WHY ELSE?!?! LOOK AT YOUR TRACK RECORD 🙄
