On my channel I want my viewers to feel like I'm someone they can relate to. So many people these days seem to watch RU-vidrs' Channels and feel as though they will never be able to live the lives we do as RU-vidrs. I'm here to prove to you that I'm just as normal and weird as all of you out there watching my videos. I hope to make you laugh and also I hope to inspire you all to go out into the world and become the best you the world will ever know. We all have a part to play in this big world and I hope that my part will be to inspire you to go out and do all that you've dreamed about doing. My granddad always told me there are no limits and that's what I hope to pass onto you all.
Im a closeted boy who is currently seeing someone but ive begun feeling ashamed of not being out because everytime i search smt like couples with a closeted boyfriend its mostly, "why we dont date closeted men" and "DONT DATE CLOSETED GUY!" it feels wierd seeing these videos basically telling people not to date someone like me. I do plan on coming out when i feel the time is right and if i would get called out or anyone figures out i wouldn't deny it. My boyfriend knows im not out and that my parents cant know yet but im feel like im a bad person for doing this because i see so many telling people that closeted guys arent worth it. (Srry for no commas but my language and English comma system is different so i wont attempt)
VT has great outdoors, mountains, no cities, and very much embracing of us... so you know there are options other than cities. Stay safe and keep speaking up!
Yeah it's always nice to hear about more accepting places that exist. But that also requires us to move far away from our friends and families. Vermont is definitely too far from the people I care about. I've lived in different states before that were more accepting but when it comes to only being able to come home to see my family once to twice a year and having to spend a fortune to travel to see them it makes those options less appealing.
Ben I’m filled with tears when I watch your videos 🥹 your words are so powerful. They deeply touch my soul and all the parts of me that I was afraid to share for so many years. I appreciate you and applaud who you are ❤
I just discovered your channel within the last month but this is my first time leaving a comment! I am 39, gay and live in VA. You seem like the kind of guy I would love to have as a friend. I deal with a lot of social anxiety (and also OCD), and even though I have been out to myself for almost 20 years and a few family members and my best friend, I have yet to make contacts within the gay community in the Northern VA/D.C. area. Anyway, just wanted to leave you a comment and to let you know I have been enjoying your channel. ☺
I know this is from 7 years ago, but I just came across your channel and had to subscribe. This helps me more than I can put into words right now. I am also in Virginia. Thank you, Ben.
I just found your channel and subscribed. Really enjoying your content and vibe so far. I can identify so much with what you talk about regarding coming out. I am almost 40 and grew up in a pretty conservative family, but my parents and brother have been very accepting and I think always had a feeling that I'm gay. Sadly both my parents have passed away within the last 7 years... my mom in 2017 and my dad last year. I feel like the security and acceptance that they gave me is now something that has been lost with them and I don't feel like I can be as authentic with my family that is still living. I don't mean to make this reply so depressing, but watching your video just brought up a lot for me and it feels good to get this off my chest. I have yet to have my first in-person sexual experience with another guy, but like a lot of the things that have happened in my life, it will when the time is right. Thanks for reading. 🙂
Drummond, Very moved by your video. You are quite a brave individual. My story is very similar to yours. My childhood was wrecked, unhappy and filled with emotional, mental, psychological abuse. This let to bullying from a child all the way through high school. The sexual abuse started in seventh grade by my own father and later by an uncle. The abuse continued to age 19. I avoided my father my first year of college and then left my hometown. He was a poor excuse of a father, stole my innocence, betrayal, and a coward. I despised him and my uncle was no better. My world was one of no love and I didn't accept myself. Struggled with inner self, my gayness and despised God for all the pain and trauma. I too suffer from PTSD and never had anything to smile or be happy about. Felt my world and will to live was gone therefore I was attracted to people who abused me and put me down. I have been fondled, and caped in a YMCA, twice in Chattanooga, TN. I don't trust hardly anybody, shy. My belief in people did not and I felt there was no goodness left in the world. Relationships failed since my days at UT and my weekends were spent with alcohol plus the wrong types of people in the bars. One relationship with an abusive alcoholic nearly cost me my life. I went into therapy and have been in therapy for nearly 40 years. Getting better and now have a significant other for nearly 26 and a half years. He keeps me emotionally grounded, and he is affectionate bringing out my playful impish streak. We met through a mutual friend just before Halloween 1997. Our anniversary is in December, and we are very happy. He calls me "Sugarbear". I call him "Furry Monkey". His friends are affirming, the family welcoming. Would love to keep in touch by email and/or Facebook. Email is rra.sugarbear@gmail.com. Facebook picture is from Florida. (Robert Andrews) Send friend request and ID yourself!
Thank you Drummond for putting yourself out there. I doubt if there is one gay Christian who can't relate to your struggles with your faith. Your kindness toward former partners is beautiful and healing. It is not easy working through the pain of loss.
I can identify with so much of this -- the needless self-doubt and the cautious forays forward. I'm glad there are reasonable voices like yours out there. Screaming and waving banners doesn't help individuals much; straightforward talks like yours do.
All the best to you in 2024. Thank you for sharing your year through the many photos. It has been a long time since I posted on your videos, but a lot has changed for you and for the better in many ways. All the best to you and happiness and joy to you in 2024.
Interesting suit... be very interested in seeing how this works out. On a side note though lol I misread the title and thought it said "Trying out Zoloft" XD.
