Blessed to live in the middle of a botanical garden, but Tasmania has been my dream from across the globe since I was young! So glad to meet you today, thank you for this personal entry. 🙏🕊️🪶

I awoke this morning overwhelmed on the eve of my 65th this summer. 43 years marriage, raised three productive and wonderful kids. Now a Grammy to two Joys five and seven. Moved cross country fifteen years ago. It’s been busy. Now it’s time for this. Love the idea of at least taking a year! Thank you for the encouragement just when I needed it! Yup I was left with my parents messes. Lord willing 😅 won’t do that to my kids!

I love your Video. Wondering if I’m autistic myself ❤thank you

Dear Rini, I just found this and I think you have summarised and explained the idea very succinctly. I have moved around a bit and have gradually gotten my stuff pared down to most essential items and a few sentimental keepsakes. Last is sorting a life time of photos into albums. I think this decluttering and organising becomes a progressive lifestyle of good habits that allows us to move on and enjoy the journey and, as you said, it is much easier to find things when you have less things. Thanks 🇦🇺

I started downsizing in 2017. The hardest part is knowing what to do with gifts I’d been given. People expect us to value those gifts, and when they don’t see them displayed or being used or worn, it’s a bit deflating for them. I did explain why I’m getting rid of some of these things, still….🥺

I just got my late autism diagnosis on the 22nd of may 2024. Just 8 days ago. I'm 43 years old. I'm forever grateful for autistic youtubers like you. It means the world to me. Thank you. 🏆❤

Wonderful video❤

Seriously? This changed your life? Helpful, yes. People all over the world make preparations at the end of life. The Swedish decided to call it “death cleaning”, so very in your face. So Swedish. Tired of this phrase being used for everything from shampoo to how to crack an egg. But it works, I clicked here to comment on the clickbait.

Too many antiwhites in it, otherwise it would have been good. Why all the antiwhitism?😞

❤immensely cute😅

This is helpful in so many ways for all ages. Thank you for posting this on RU-vid.

Yes, it’s a huge practical and emotional process!!😮 We had 3 processes like that with in one and a half years! My grand parents died, my husbands father died, and my parents moved from our childhood home. It was a way too big job, every time!

Lots of rational well voiced replies - beautifully voiced succinctly by the diverse Miss Rini. Did I expect anything else - absolutely not. Thank you for bringing comprehension to our world.

You are so cute and sweet! 🥰 This was very informative. My son was diagnosed on the spectrum when he was 16 (about 8 years ago)- it took years to finally get that clear diagnosis since he also had a seizure condition that he thankfully "grew out of" when he hit puberty. It was actually a relief when we learned he was mildly autistic. By that time, after he went through puberty he was like a completely different kid! Before he was very agitated, he did horribly all throughout his school years, communication was really tough. But in the last couple years of high school, it was almost like a switch flipped, he was learning, he found topics of interest that intrigued him, teachers were stopping me in the halls and telling me he's a totally different student now! and WOW can he tell you a thing or two about any time point in history on just about any country in the world! LOL! His older brother (who is very close and protective of him) coined a phrase that he is "autistically smart" - not meant to make fun of him but just to keep things light. It works. My son is doing well in life. It's been hard for me to let him stretch his wings, because I've always had to be the protector, but he has a job, got his drivers license last year, bought his own car and he will be starting a new job in construction this summer. It's been quite a journey so far! I'm VERY proud of him! 💖 It's really nice to hear you talk about your experiences too! Thank you for this video!

I love your magnetic personality and the love and kindness with which you tackled the subject of... well... essentially burdening the kids with the trash accumulated. Really really worthwhile video!

Great video on the topic of Swedish Death Cleaning. Thank you. I was also glad to see the book "Goodbye, Things" in your book recommendations. I've been on a minimizing journey for about five years now, and have read many books on the subject, but that book in particular is my favorite and the one I found most inspiring. Take care.

I try to declutter ongoing, have said, this is my gift to my son when I'm gone. It's not fair to them, they have families, working, etc.

Been doing this & giving things that I love to people that I thought would enjoy them as much as me instead of leaving them in a will.

Thank you, Miss Rini. This video was very helpful and motivating for me. Thank you for sharing.

Thank you for the insight. At 53 I have 2 m3 of all belongings, not considering the bed, fridge and washing machine. Quite extreme.

Just asking, is there something here about this focus meaning you are not really living your life though? That you have one foot in the grave? Just wondering

I've had occasion where two beloved people have passed and although I suggested their doing just what Miss Rini talks about they did not. Sorry to say that I did not have the time, strength nor emotional fortitude to go through each and every thing they possessed. Must was given away that may have meant something to relatives but I had no clue; much was thrown away that may have been valuable but again I did not know. My take away from such experiences was to never, ever let my partner or kids have to go through that. I am not quite where this video is, but I am doing much to downsize and feel the freedom of a more simple life and the knowledge that relatives will not be burdened like I was.

I think what you said about easing the burden on your loved ones is a measure of your love for those who will personally have to deal with your decline and death. Thank you for expressing the reality with gentle honesty.

Yummy, you need some Greek yoghurt with it

Looks like he rules the roost!

Sweetie

Great presentation on this subject. Thank you.

We need to do this, our small house is stuffed with mostly unnecessary things. My partner won't let go of anything, though. He even goes through the bin when my back's turned and "rescues" most of what I've thrown. Ugh.

My parents downsized and gave various items to my daughter. My mum was delighted to visit her for a meal and sit at her old table covered with her old tablecloth.

How do you get time off like that?

I just found your channel and this is the best video I’ve seen on decluttering and Swedish death cleaning. Some of us get the impression that we don’t have much time left and we want to ease the burden on our loved ones. 😊

Thank you Miss Rini - I'm 62, small house, Autistic too, the kids left home years ago - and I had started to 'declutter' our home about 6 months ago. Hubby is just now getting on board with it and is going through all the accumulated stuff in his workshop. It's so good to get a sort of 'validation' for going through this process.

Would it be wrong to buy the book for my mother in law? She’s such a hoarder literally picking up junk other people put outside for collections. She’s 84 and I can’t understand what she thinks she’s saving it all for.

I've heard of Swedish death cleaning, probably about 10 years ago when this book came out. But I've never had the urge to do that kind of cleaning. My parents died in 2021 and I'm still sorting through their stuff. I think I have a very different mentality from the Swedes. I can't usually find unnecessary things in the house. All things are necessary for me. So I don't understand how you can throw away 90 per cent of things. But 10% of the old worn out stuff I want to throw away during the regular spring cleaning.

I started this about 8 months ago. A little here, a little there, to not be overwhelmed. What a joy it is to know I’m decluttering, making more “clean space” for our family to live in. Most importantly, not leaving all these “decisions of what to do with that item and that item” for our children, if something should happen to my husband and I.

Despite never having heard of Swedish death cleaning my mother has lived this way for the last 40 years. Yes it can make life simpler, but you need to be careful not to fall in the traps- you said it became a compulsion once you got to a certain stage, this is how it is with my mother-she is 86 years old but has nothing in her flat much over 2 years old. When I give her something or make her a garment, even if it is very useful it is a good bet by the time I go back to see her it has landed up in the charity shop. She finished up with many of my possessions when I went to university because she emigrated while I was away. When she came back from abroad she sent my stuff to the charity shop, because throwing things away or giving them away makes her feel good- not because they weren't useful or because I didn't want them back, she had already done this with most of her own possessions, so to get the buzz my stuff had to go. Often it is the act of getting rid of thigs that feels good-not the state they leave behind-so caution is indicated, because that is no more psychologically healthy than the clutter.

Super video, but being a highly sensitive person, please can we not have the background music. I know it is very faint, but it just being there is so unnecessary, and it makes it hard for me - and others I would think - to concentrate on what you are saying. Thank you for all the tips, and for the video though. xxx

Great ideas. Thanks so much!

I have been on a similar journey in California and concur with all the benefits you mention❤it’s a very freeing process and I keep finding things to declutter.

Thank you for this video. Very helpful❤️

I’ve been declutterring in stages for around 10 years. Each time, I get better at letting go of things. I do still bring some things into our house that I do enjoy, but I try to be selective. It is so much easier to clean and keep things organized. It may sound like a lot of time that I have been at it, but I can’t bring myself to be an extreme minimalist., but I keep working towards that. I have come a long ways from my original “I might better keep this just in case I need it some day”. I am pretty much in the maintenance stage now. Literally pretty much every week I try to gather one or two items I can live without and put them in the trash can or a donate box. When it is sufficiently full, it goes out the door to the thrift store. I will be 72 Sunday (May 19), but I’m still a work in progress.

Your video was great. Thank you. Several people in my family show autistic traits of various kinds and I have been watching RU-vid vidros on tne subject to gain a better understanding. Orion Kelly's channel called That Autistic Guy is a good one too.

Thanks for your lovely video! I’m 53 and self diagnosed. It’s really nice to see someone close to my age sharing about autism.

The reality is we leave everything behind when we die

Beautifully said! I have spent countless hours, weeks and weeks, dealing with my mother’s possessions. It was incredible and very hard. I’m motivated not to do this to my family. It’s a great gift. By contrast, my mother in law had her home ready and all important documents were prepared and took the stress and guess work out of her estate and made the grieving process easier. That’s how I want to go.

Agree with you about language. I’m also an autistic person ❤

I'm interested in what you say here, Ive started doing flylady regime for my cleaning. A lot is decluttering. My daughter is autistic and I was explaining to her that I think it would be good for her. I feel less overwhelmed, calmer, free, enjoy my surroundings. I'm not autistic and I said I was sure she would benefit from less stuff. I do 15 minutes of decluttering a day focusing on one room a week, then rotate around

I was watching videos on organizing and I was actually browsing Amazon for containers and organizers etc, when it dawned on me that I was reshuffling the stuff that I hadn't worn or even remembered that I had. Once I started declutterring, I was left with a mountain of organizers, plastic totes, containers etc. I've got so much room in my house it's amazing!

WOW! I have been aware of this type of thinking, but I have not adopted it into my life. I am at this point now!! Thank you for your encouragement and inspiration. 😊

What a beautiful looking woman you are, gloriously clear skin and I love the colour of your hair! Listening to you I already started looking round my lounge mentally and thinking right that can go and that…! Thank you for such wise and sensible words, bless you 🥰