Join me on my journey: a 50+ #Autistic woman living my best life on a #Tasmanian rural property.
I'm passionate about simplifying my life and focusing on what is most important.
I'm a deep thinker and love to share my thoughts with others in the hope of initiating a conversation and perhaps an alternative way of looking at the status quo.
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I cleared out my parent’s house after my mom died and my dad moved into care. It really shocked me into understanding what we accumulate. It’s a journey, but I am more conscious of what I will leave behind. There are some things I just can’t bear to part with, but I’m working to reduce and to limit what I now buy.
Why is it that after everyone is finished cleaning out their treasured possessions their house turns white and looks like an Ikea showroom? Downsizing and decluttering is important, but many take it to extremes. Why live in a place that feels like a rented motel room? Besides, as young adults, your children may not be interested in cleaning out all your junk right now, but as older adults, they may change their minds about your stuff when you eventually go.
Have realized that all the stuff is dragging me down and overwhelming me. I am starting this journey and your videos are very helpful! I have emotional attachments that cause guilt, but now is the time. Wish me luck!
Have read the book and listened to many people extolling the bliss of doing it but you are the first that presented it in such a gentle way. Repeating the immediate benefits and being honest about it being a process. Beautifully done. Inspiring. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Thanks so much! It really is an ongoing process and not an overnight thing. The important part is just getting started IMO. I appreciate your comment 🙏😘
Spent all my life accumulating, then the last two years getting rid of. I cannot imagine my two sons getting stuck with all the stuff I had and still have when I pass. I just lost my brother who had barely any possessions and that was very difficult. It has given me new energy to get rid of much more. What a waste of money and time.
I enjoyed it. There are still many places to visit in Japan. Next time, I recommend you to limit the number of places and it's good to be in a season like fall, winter and spring. Japan always welcomes you.
Absolutely! It's important to not try for everything all at once. We went in Summer because it coincided with our Wedding Anniversary, but yes, not the best time to go! Thanks so much for watching.🙏
My 95 year old mom has done this. It takes some convincing to get her to throw away a “perfectly good “ empty tissue box, but at 95, as long as she can still navigate her apartment with her cane, I let her be. Once every few weeks, I offer to tidy up because her balance is an issue of safety. She STILL says no. When she’s in the mood, she washes her floor, vacuums and cleans the loo. Yes, it’s cluttered. But it’s HER life. She’s all the things that make us hold onto”stuff”. I did wrestle away three cartons of tax returns dating prior to 1980! I hauled out boxes of my dad’s “ important” papers because he’s Been gone thirty eight years. What I left her instead was the framed paid off mortgage on her marital home. She paid off that house alone after he died, and worked a full time job and walked three miles to a bus at midnight to do it when she was 58 and had just lost her spouse of 35 years! After spending her savings in a used lemon of a car that died right away in ‘86, she wakes again for two years! And saved the money to buy a brand NEW Saturn! With an $8,000 cash down payment! So I have far too much respect and admiration for my mother’s achievements than to March in and “ Declutter”!
We have a think that follows. It’s the 1 9:18 12 12 12 rule. Each day, put away twelve things to clear your visual field. Donate 12 things you don’t need, and throw away 22 useless items. This reinforces all the work of the cleaning. I live in a studio apartment, in a Senior residence. We have a community table for give always, so no one feels things get wasted. Our thrift store is a block away and revenue from sales supports Christmas for the needy and keeping older homeowners independent.
One of the greatest benefits of minimalism is how it minimizes cleaning and tidying. I love that! I also love that, thanks to minimalism and döstädning, I will never be that parent that's resented for leaving my children with a horde of clutter to dispose of after I'm gone.
You spoke about the guilty feeling of having spent money on these items and then deciding that you don’t want it. Yep. That is where I have to just accept the fact, get rid of it and move on.
I can’t wait to retire. 2/3 of my wardrobe could go. Suits, shoes, dresses. I’ll keep one or two for special occasions, but I’m so tired of having all those outfits. I’ve been giving my kids everything I think they’ll want. I found a whole box of their school report cards! Trust me, they wouldn’t want their children seeing those! To the shredder those went. 😁
That is so funny! I’m 64. My mom is 95. She had mine, too! And one that said I was lazy and not living up to my potential… ( well, that TEACHER was boring!) I read them, had a laugh, and tossed them. I’m blessed that my mom FINALLY has a touch of dementia! She doesn’t remember what junk I’ve thrown away, and doesn’t accuse me of stealing it yet! I tossed thirty five years of outdated tax returns. I just tore out the SSN # in the pages and shredded THAT. She did have her first “bad night”, where she didn’t remember where her art supplies were and accused me of taking her paintbrushes. Rather than be upset, I asked her which ones she needed, and replaced them from my stock. I brought her three tubes of different shades of bright red paint- her favorite color. This made her so happy she forgot to be mad about the “ missing” brushes, that it made me happy too!
@@jennifermarie8707I like shopping, so when my friends complain I go for them. I was a costume designer for local theater. I apply those principles to body type, color preference and budget. I’m always under budget, rarely buy a detested item( which I return or donate) and it makes ME very happy!
My mother was a hoarder. She had a lot of useless stuff she kept from her youth and before she got married. We had a full basement floor to ceiling full of stuff. When we needed to move her into a senior living facility it took my sister and I over eight months to clean out the house and repair it to be sold. I still have bitter feelings for what she put us through.
I had an old inadequate kitchen. When we finally remodeled I told the contractor I wanted the extra tall cabinets and two big pantries. What a big mistake. I love kitchen things and yes before I knew it the cabinets were full. We’re only two people. I have now decluttered and all those upper shelves that are really out of anyone’s reach are empty. 😞
With the exception of my grand piano, I've already given instructions when I die, to throw everything that was mine into a dumpster. After years of purchasing clothing, home decor items as well as larger pieces of furniture from thrift stores or second-hand private sellers or we've had the bigger furniture for years and years, there's probably not a single thing that my children would want or would need to keep as its all had its day. ;-) Someone is always coming up with a new term (i.e. Swedish Death Cleaning) for what we all should be doing throughout our lives if we don't want our 'stuff' to become a burden for others when we die. Every age seems to think they've developed a whole "new concept". 🤪 It's not new...just a different way to look at the same process.
I absolutely love this video. It is so beautiful and educational. I know so very little about Tasmania that I'm finding it fascinating. I have a daughter with Autism so I really enjoy your insight. She is nonverbal and has never been able to vocalize her anxiety in words to me but I feel I understand her a bit more because of you. Thank you.
GOOD GRIEF. Here's my solution: anything of monetary value is in the living room. The lock box and gun are in my bedroom. Donate all the food and stuff in the pantry to the local food bank. ALL the rest can be thrown away after I die.
I'm determined to declutter so my autistic son will not have to deal with it all one day. My mother recently passed and it's hard to let go of her things.. I'm doing it little by little and trying to save just the things that are truly meaningful to me. We've given sooooo much away in the last few years, but still a lot to go now that I have all my mother's things.
You inspired me so much that I am energized to begin decluttering again! I truly loved the vision you shared at the very end for the life your children will know that you and your husband have lived.. I shall keep that very vision in my heart, too, for my loved ones, as I resume this journey with a beautiful mindset!❤
I grew up in the 60s in the 70s and back then minimalism is what we just called living. Back then you did not have the choices that you have today and you did not have the easy credit that you have today. So it basically didn’t exist because that’s how everyone lived.
My mum did a SDC when she was told she had heart disease at 72yrs but when she hadn’t gone on by 74, she started buying stuff again to replace the things she had given away! Not as much stuff but it still took me a lot of effort and time to clear her 1 bed flat when she passed at 92. I’m 60 and just started my SDC - it’s a great concept, especially, if like me, you don’t have kids to clear up after you. Thanks for the interesting video.
For the people who believe that all their possessions are valuable and will bring money to your family once you're gone: Please look at an accounting sheet of an estate in probate. You will not believe how little things actually go for. Your family will be lucky to get pennies on the dollar, if they get anything at all. Be realistic and disperse your possessions you don't need while you are still alive because the estate disbursement process is brutal, costly, and unpleasant for everyone involved.
Would it be inapropriate to send this method to my parents ? I think they need it but i don't want them to think that i'm ready for them to pass away 😅
I think it's good for everyone to think about this, not just those of us in the "golden years" of our life. Maybe your parents are already making plans? :)
@@ItsMissRini Thank you for answering 🙂 They are trying to plan on moving closer to us, their children, but because of the price difference between our location they will get inevitably a smaller house. Sharing this method with that goal instead of preparing for the "after" could be better.
Thank you for disclosing and being visible. Both of my adult children have autism. My father has it. My husband has it. I believe the more people disclose and the less we mask, the better the world will be both for everyone.
@@ItsMissRini also my workplace department of 20 people, 4 of us are autistic. I never thought I could know so many folks who can relate to my daily struggles and experiences
@@autisticMargo How cool!! The only other Autistic person I know (in real life) is my sister and thank goodness for her. Online Autistic communities are really helpful to be able to relate to other people who face similar struggles as me. I think it helps with not feeling so "other" as I often do.
@ItsMissRini wow. I've always known other autistic people at school, church, etc. I'm 50 and live in the US. I'm sorry if you and your sister feel alone. Yes, online support is great ! I'm glad your channel was recommended by yt to me today.
