Yep - My wife is facing this - OBGYN says "everything is fine" - does not provide any data or hormone level numbers - simply blows off the complete lack of desire and it's killing the marriage. funny, I get my T levels checked an I am provided with the exact numbers, levels and what they mean - but my Wife gets "everything is fine" - I call bullsh*t
unalive. OMG you hit the nail on the head with this exact description. I'm 53 and have been suffering with horrific symptoms since 46 so its like so many years of what can only be described as torture (and which continues with new and random symptoms all the time) has left me feeling physically, emotionally and spiritually unalive. I just started MHT 7 weeks ago and hope it helps, esp with the brain dysfunction
6+ years, wife's gynecologist (supposedly one of the best) says, no problem. Total denial of the issue and outright refusal to discuss it or consider having this discussion. I am at a loss
Both men and women need to stop going to doctors without knowledge of what they DON'T want as a treatment. Just be upfront, say no anti-depressants, no therapy (if you think the problem isn't behavioral) and don't leave until you get a satisfactory answer.
I started suspecting menopause last year when I stopped being able to sleep and gained a few pounds. (Also going months without periods). Got tested, and yup, it’s menopause. Now I can’t sleep because of hot flashes. 😣
I have threatened my husband with divorce over sex. I went from a healthy sex drive to hating sex in the matter of a year, when I had an emergency hysterectomy at age 41. Now my doctor said it’s too late for me to get hrt. 😢
I soooo agree!!! I hate it that it seems the medical community doesn't care that women over 50 don't want to have sex. Nobody cares that we are losing a whole piece of ourselves.
@heartfullofhippies great question. It's a lucky hormone fluctuation. If you can find a doc who can help you. There are hormonal and non hormonal treatments. If you take certain meds, they can really suppress the libido. If you take BP meds, statins, depression meds or diabetes meds they can work against your libido. And it can be difficult to talk about even with the doctor.