Makes sense to me. Their grandiosity and self-righteousness comes from a place that's exactly the opposite: a corrosive cesspool of inadequacy and doubt.
My mom is a narcissist. She was perpetually late. I used to get in trouble at school for being late, i wasn't driving myself yet i was the one getting in trouble. She would get mad at me for asking her to hurry, she would get up at 5am and watch the news until it was time to leave, she had about 3hrs before we needed to leave and shed wait until i was ready to go to stop and get gas or whatever, yet she had 3hrs prior to run other errands. Uhg. I started lying to her about what time things started so wed be on time. Shed be mad if we were 5 minutes early, wtf 😂, why would you be mad for showing up a little early?
I'm Dealing with this right now.. with my own family. Separated from my husband and they swire they wouldn't take sides but (inadvertently maybe?), did take a side.
@@BFku36 yes it happens all the time, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. I’ve been through it as you’ve seen and it’s a very uncomfortable situation, thanks for sharing 🥰
As a suggestion, what about the lack of support you received from church or various Christians when they found out you were getting beaten by your husband?
First I appreciate your honesty, secondly I appreciate your unmoved faith in Jesus Christ, no matter what you've been through. So many people blame the abused instead of the abuser in domestic violence situations. People also don't understand how high in regard preachers were and how certain ideas of marriage were supposed to be followed, no matter what happens. I think it's why so many wives in these long marriages suffer so much. It's super unfair.
Absolutely. I tell ya what grew with family that would start it then drop that stand back. Definitely why I kept going for people in relationships that were like that Deprogramming now
Hi Ladies! 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾❤️You two look well, okay Mama I see you with the natural hair! Omg, why do I have a similar story! When my siblings & I were younger, we visited Revival Temple (I believe in putting bad people on blast) in Vegas, whose main pastor is a p3dophile (actually arrested on 11 sa charges and got off due to lack of evidence 🙄🤢) ... anyways, this was our very FIRST visit and ole boy forced us/our parents to come up there & sing with the children's choir. He went on & on about how he said ALL children need to come up and sing, to obey. It was soooo humiliating and the church was packed that night. We didn't know a word or could even portend melody. He is a straight narc and we have so many narc stories. It's crazy how we're all different, but connected in many ways! Thank you for sharing!
Yes you're right. For awhile mine would say let's go have a drink. Well we would and I knew a few people so did the ex. But as soon as I would say hello to a friend and catch up on their lives I'd turn around and ex was gone. We drove together lol. 20 miles from home. Happened 3 times in 2 months. On the last time I left my cigarettes in the car. An argument started I said let's have a cigarette... Ex said I don't have any I said mine are in the car. I need the keys. I went to the car started it, turned my phone off, and went out to eat. I know that's crazy but it felt pretty darn good at the time. Now I know I will never do that to someone even a Narcissist because I can pick them out now better than ever so there's no chance of history repeating itself. I never wanted to do that but I thought here's a taste of your own medicine. I never got in a car with them again but I kept making excuses for the treatment because I didn't know any better. Now I fill my days with people who respect me
So glad i avoided that for the most part. I briefly dated a strong narcissist. He exposed himself too soon, and I ghosted him. He went a little crazy after that. Sent his mother over to try to talk some sense into me. I simply told her, "We're not having this conversation" and escorted her to the door.
I had a beautiful little girl with a complete Narcissistic Sociopath. The most diabolical abusive toxic human being I've ever had to deal with. He always has to be the cause or be involved in some sort of drama. He's the biggest coward I've ever known. He's just a miserable P.O.S.
You know the more i look back the more i realize how i made it so my x could keep doing it to me. You're right. My mom died and the x said nothing no comfort. Planned for holidays and x would dissappear then show up after and say its not a big deal You're blowing this up i was with the most toxic Narcissist and i became toxic because of it. Long journey ahead of me.
@ginaalesha2 it is a struggle someday wish I could just forget but I know if I don't it'll happen again. I'm thankful for these videos it keeps me grounded.
This is interesting. I’m going to try this out on my coworkers and family. See if I can get em riled up against each other to get the heat off my back. Thanks for the tips!
Thank you! Wow, all people experience trauma, but sheesh... women endure soo much! You two are, as Aaliyah sang, "more than a woman"! More than "enough", and doing more good in this world! There are many, many people who have lost agency, peace of mind, stuck in cults, oppressed, abused, etc. and to hear you two make it out is so hopeful. Thank you! ❤🌻
First, love the mom & daughter heart at the beginning 🫶🏾 Secondly, sharing your stories/experiences is helping others in small & great ways. Thank you for the vulnerability.🧡
I saw your video on Soft White Underbelly and it resonated so much with me. I grew up in a small Pentecostal church that was very shame-based/controlling. The leaders in the church were molesting children. Nothing was done. I grew up and had to re-learn who Jesus really is. Now I know He is good and not out to condemn me. But I have a lot of trauma from growing up being constantly told how I wasn't measuring up and it was very confusing dealing with what the men were doing. My heart goes out to you. I know you will always have to remind yourself of your value and worth. I'm so glad you are still a person of faith because Jesus truly will walk with us through it all. Many blessings to you both!
Hello ladies, im here because of your soft white underbelly video. I've never experienced the kind of abuse you have but I think it's important to hear these stories. Thank you for sharing, I know it's not easy. Alicia, congratulations on your master's degree! You are going to change people's lives for the better.
