Of course it's her therapist. You pay them to tell you you're broken, and then you continue to pay them to tell you how to fix it. If they actually wanted to fix you, and you actually listened to them, 90% of problems would be gone after 2 sessions
But it’s 4 years man and plus it’s literally the woman’s purpose to have a child. Sometimes sex can keep a relationship together but a kid will keep it going forever and that’s what I feel like he was trying to do.
You're being waaay too judgemental. No one is obligated to continue a relationship if there's never going to be any more sexual contact. For most people sex is an important part of being happy. Also ignore the other reply before me, he's dumb.
See this is something that I’ve been terrified of as someone who’s genuinely questioning their sexual preferences, however I have a partner who LOVES ME MORE THAN SEX so when I told him I was concerned he said that we could completely stop cold Turkey because he loves me as his partner and he’d rather loose sex than me
From what this story has stated, I don’t think he just “Only cares about sex”. Besides we don’t know what he wants in life, he probably planned to have kids with her in the future and you kinda need to have sex for that. So honestly I would leave too if this happened to me, it would be hard but it would be harder staying. If two people have life goals that clash with each other then that just means that there not compatible, and that’s no one’s fault it is just how it is. It’s easy to judge people until you are put in the same situation, then it’s different.
@@theredwitch1386 there are so many ways to have kids without sex. I was just saying the words my partner used, if you don’t like it that such I’m just quoting the man’s own words
She has a bad therapist!!! I have seen people totally change going to a quack that had preconceived notions. Not all Mental Health Experts are the same, and some are not Experts in any way, shape, or form
I saw the full story, and she was lying. She and her whole family knew she was A sexual way before she ever met him, but every relationship she ever had ended because of her being A-sexual. So when she met him, she got her family not to tell him, and she forced herself for years to have sex with him but kept getting harder until she could no longer do it. So, instead, she planned to pretend to try to fix the sex part of their relationship by going to therapists, among other things. With the end goal of coming out as A sexual and hopefully him being okay with it. Well, he wasn't, and so she tried to give her friends to him, but that just creeps him out more. It was a long, drawn-out process of her constantly trying everything she could think of to bring him back. But he refused and force the divorce through.
I don’t think forming a relationship over grief is a good idea.Then to lie to your kids and just randomly tell them the truth. To me it feels like it’s the parents fault also in this
While it does seem he has more information he should really actually include that. Just saying “my fertility test says I’m sterile” means nothing people constantly are told they’re sterile and I’m 99% of cases that means there’s just an extremely low chance but not zero. Pretty much unless the sexual organs are 100% removed there is always a slim chance
Yeah I was told I'd never have kids I went through so many test never even a pregnancy scare or miscarriage just nothing a barren waste land... i have thyroid problems missing an ovary the one i do have batwly works and i wouldn't even have my period for months, even a year once... this went on for over 10 years and I just made peace with it but now I'm pregnant with my 3rd! I remember when I found out the first time I literally did not believe it I thought I was having ulcer problems I had to see the ultrasound twice to even say okay this is really happening sometimes even now when I look at him I can't believe he's mine! Even after some men get a vasectomy it ends up healing n they have kids years later so you're right unless the sexual organs are removed or you're completely abstinent or both taking extreme birthcontrol precautions Life does find a way..
That’s fucked, especially the fact that the wife still asked for forgiveness and wanted them back. She knows damn well she’s going to do it again as you did say, she probably only wants you back for money
Sounds like an idiot picked an idiotic asshole as their partner and didn't plan properly or deal with his shitheadery properly, or just leave his ass. People like this don't get like this overnight, I am sure there were hundreds of red flags she ignored. Stop giving men this space and they'll stop (or at least be less) being such wankers.
Nope you don't need to be there at this point you can be distant till he gets her some serious help because at this point, your son needs therapy for the trauma. She's now caused him. And third-degree burns are no laughing matter frankly that kind of injury could've cost you your child if your body went into panic mode and the stress isn't good for your baby. She's angry at your son because he has a better life with you guys than she does with her mother. And her mother prioritizes her husband over her. On top of that, she doesn't know how to put words to it so she takes it out on you because she can't take it out on her stepdad. Overall I'd say time apart is probably good for you. and until she's gone to a few sessions where she's figured out her actual feelings and can see you guys as a safe space instead of a dangerous one or an easy target. You need to stay away from her on those weeks.
