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@@SocialShortcuts so fun, I hope I could go on life changing trips on a whim like a certain Ryan Williams too, but yeah the gist of your video is, give em a plethora of reasons to be curious and engage with you more, like I’m doing right now, fuuun!!!! 🙃🎉
Gene Perret has a great book with exercises where he explains this. I've found that humour comes down to 2 things: misinterpretation and exaggeration. Misinterpretation: 1- accusing people of doing something that clearly didn't do 2- creating new meaning for words/phrases 3- sexual innuendo
Another nice internal memory strategy is association - connect their name with something (whether it’s a famous person or someone else you know by the same name, and focus on the similarities or differences between the two)
@@SocialShortcuts Ah... I see... in that case I'll certainly add it to my list of notes about observing bodylanguage :-) - thanks muchly for an actually insightful giggle :-)
@@SocialShortcuts it's because I think my humour is based on making fun of others. And I think I can get too insulting? My sister never takes it personally and she knows I love her a lot so my jokes are not real insults. But with others I think I might offend people. And also I think maybe if I make fun of them, they may make fun of me for a lot things. I am too insecure about a lot of things too. I think it's the latter. If I can maybe own my insecurities, I won't get care if I make some offensive jokes that I don't mean. What do you think?
@@d1rtyharry378 Wow I realized this about myself a few months ago too. That's so strange that another person has the same experience including feeling insecure when others make jokes at my expense. I'll share my experience with you to maybe help you and myself too. I realized most of my jokes were at the expense of others a few months ago. This actually lead to two female coworkers hating the hell out of me over time, every interaction becoming more and more nasty and subtly disrespectful, and eventually them stopping talking to me altogether. Their issues and toxicity aside, I realized my contribution was not being respectful towards others when making jokes at their expense. Funny people often have the attitude of being positive and respectful with others. Weird, right? I didn't realize that before. I also figured out that being funny in other ways is 100% possible and is what most funny people do most of the time and only using light teasing instead of what we are doing. They know their limits of teasing people by returning to their base of being positive and respectful. Lessons learned about humor: There are different types of humor (mine are sarcasm, exaggeration, self-deprecation-self-enhancement, dark humor...etc), you can recognize what makes something humorous (surprise, incongruity, superiority...etc), and there are ways to develop humor as a skill (exercises for word association, or what this video shows and so on). Knowing this enables me to become better at humor over time. It could help you too. A feeling of superiority can make something funny, did you know that?! I didn't. That's probably mostly why we laugh when jokes happen at the expense of others and why others laugh at us when it's our turn to be the butt of the joke. Self-enhancing humor and self-deprecating humor operate on that as well as the element of surprise that the joke has. So, I suggest focusing on surprise to make humor. There's a way to create surprise for laughter. Two skills: Main skill is to recoginze the expected or assumed meaning of a sentence, the sub-skill is to twist the meaning into something else. I learned this from a guy online with a site called a funnier you. Check it out. Hope this helps.
@@ok_computer12 this is not true it will make things more difficult but not unable to make people laugh. Nothing in social skills is ever a 100% or a 0% apart from how emotions work fundamentally and aiming to be a good person
I respect your view. A manager was disrespectfuI to me when practically criticzing me. There was fauIt on my half, sure, but she could've been more patient
Instagram models being social standard of beauty is wrong considering we all came from monkeys. Let them be the comparison. Than every human is beautiful
hey bro.... your videos are amazing but you dont get views. here at this point i want to say , never get demotivated and keep making these useful videos as there are some genuine viewes like me who daily checks you channel for any new video
At work, if I don’t like what someone is doing, I keep it to myself and tell myself: “I don’t like how this person is doing things” or “I don’t like when this person leaves this area so messy”. It drains my energy keeping the dislike in my head. I keep it to myself because I am not confident about my social skills- at all- and therefore, I think that I am going to ruin my relationships at work. I appreciate your tip and I will give it a shot tomorrow at work. Thank you!
Hey thanks for the comment. Generally this causes more problems than it solves because if you’re storing anger it will end up leaking out in other formats like body language, voice tone etc
Hi, I don't speak english, but I am trying. I am sorry if I have some mistakes here. May you write how to watch your videos to get the most impact? I mean, what videos must I watch? In what order? I am just a teenager from another country, I am studying at school so I want to get something good from your videos, because my social skills are very bad. I'd like to buy your course, but I can't afford it right now. So I'd just like to get advices from you.
The best thing you can do I would say would be to practice the exercises. There are a few on the channel. Also join the whatsapp chat too there should be a link in the video descriptions and if not then on the website
I see you, when you said "Men tend to be more attractive due social skills", I could see you grin thinking that's where I shine baby, how lucky you are above us all my friend.. 🙃
