Laura Bilotta: Founder of Single In The City | Date Coach | Matchmaker | TV Personality | Author | Event Planner. Featured by: Playboy, EHarmony, Bustle, Rogers TV, CBC, CTV, Cityline, CHCH, Global HD and many more.
Going through this right now with someone I met online in late March 2024. I met her ('S') in an online chat room, of all places, but we hit it off right away. Furthermore, we lived relatively close to each other. We lived in the same metro area, though on opposite sides. In the very beginning, 'S' seemed very excited about the possibility of meeting in person, and even proposed several ideas for when and where we could meet. But as this was an online chat room, not a dating app, I was being extra cautious (yes, meeting people from the internet can be just as dangerous for men as it is for women). This was a red flag, and it all just seemed too good to be true at the time. Still, I wanted to give 'S' the benefit of the doubt. I told her I wanted to wait until I got to know her better. Over the next couple of months, we had a lot of really great conversations online. My doubts about her identity and genuineness faded and my feelings for 'S' grew and grew, until finally I felt the time was right for us to talk again about meeting in person. When I brought up the idea to 'S' in early July 2024, she freaked out and fled the chat. I talked to 'S' again a few days later. I told her that I was sorry if I had made her uncomfortable, and asked her what happened. She apologized for running off, but told me that she thought meeting me at this point would be "too weird," because she "felt like she hardly even knew me." That left me more confused than ever, and in hindsight, I suppose that should have been my cue to give up then and there, but I still wanted to pursue a relationship. I thought if we got to know each other on an even deeper level, then we might be able to kindle a flame. After all, she was smart, funny, sarcastic at times, bubbly, ambitious, and really seemed to have her life together. I admired and respected all of that about her, but at the same time, I tried to remain aware of how easy it is to idealize a person who, for all practical intents and purposes, exists only in your mind. Needless to say, I failed to keep my objectivity. Another month of chatting went by. In late July, while I was on vacation, she sent me a message saying that she missed me and wanted to feel closer to me. She wanted a deeper connection with me. She said she wanted to be someone that I could talk to about anything, and to share in my troubles and happiness. I was elated. I wrote back that I wanted the same thing, and told her how much that meant to me. I came home from vacation, ready to begin a new chapter. And then... Nothing. All throughout August 2024 'S' and I spoke with each other, I think, twice. Both times she seemed frigid and distant. Again I broached the idea of meeting, or at least exchanging phone numbers. I was met with silence. Yet she still insisted that she wanted us to be close. Nothing seemed to add up anymore. Labor Day weekend was the last time we talked. I told 'S' that I was feeling very confused about what she really wanted. I told her that I wanted a real relationship. I wanted to be more than just words on a screen to her. All I got was more frosty silence, but it spoke volumes. It just wasn't going to happen, no matter what she said to the contrary. I told her that maybe it was time for me to move on, for my own mental well-being. I just couldn't allow myself to be led on like this anymore. After that, she deactivated her account on the chat site, and I haven't seen or heard from her since. It's been two weeks. I feel heartbroken, confused, hurt, empty, totally spent and emotionally drained over "losing" someone I have never even met in person. No matter what I try my thoughts keep going back to 'S'. I keep wondering where things went wrong.What I could or should have done differently. Why I allowed myself to be led on for so long. I wonder if I was just seeing things the way I wanted to see them and not the way they really were. I wonder if there was ever even a chance at a real relationship in the first place. I know it's going to take more time to heal and move on, but it is affecting me in ways I never even thought would have been possible. Sometimes I wonder if the rewards of a relationship are even worth the pain, the heartache, and the effort it takes to get there. At times, I have my doubts, now more than ever.
She forgot one thing, one very important thing: she can talk to him eye to eye, and fuck him eye to eye. And, btw, "she feels more petite, which is a turn on"? So why do these 4f5 inches midgets wear high heels? Has anyone noticed, the more petite the woman (and usually very angry chick), the taller the guy she picks? Talk about a massive napoleon complex!
It depends on the woman. I think it's because a lot of women feel entitled to certain things or they make up the excuse that X wasn't sufficient enough for Y, since they no longer care with no moral compass. They justify it with some kind of narrative that makes them feel as if they're ethical in their decisions. Usually, unfortunately, this "ethical" search is found with other people, besides the guy she's with. Which is wrong, a problem that 90% of women have, is they're passive about what's bothering them. They don't come right out and say it. They'll leave "hints," and even if the guy isn't toxic, it doesn't matter, she left him "hints," so therefore of course she can now leave. That's the "sufficient" enough reason or "narrative" for her to get what she wants. Instead of just finding that with the person she's with. A lot of women also love differently than how most guys love. They'll link love to things that the guy they're with doesn't even consider valid, and then BOOM! Out of no where she's gone, a sneak attack blow to the guy that didn't even know it was a "thing." It's honestly not even fair, he got involved with someone that he didn't even know had this "extension" aspect associated with her.
I told my bf im 11 and im actually 10 and i said ot on april 1st(no not as a joke i actually lied ) how do i tell him jm not actualy do i say im gonna turn?
Women are allowed to have preferences, while guys aren't. Nobody bats an eye when a woman says she doesn't date short guys, but when a guy says he doesn't date fat chicks, he's the bad guy....
It sounds like you need to live in a city. If you live in a countryside, you have lesser neighbors. You need to live in a city more because chances are, there might be some women there living with families. If they have families, they can be mixed with all ages. That include babies, infants, teens, adults, senior citizens.
Thanks for the tip. Love is indeed magical and terrifying at the same time. Sometimes you jst make excuses for people not wanting to be with you anymore with the hope that they'll message you one day and be on the same page as you. Its so hard to find the perfect match, people who do are just so lucky. Hoping for the best for everybody here, may you find that one true love. ❤
Yeah I'm not bothering any of them especially the ones that hateful and hurtful certainly wouldn't have to worry about ever being with me there wouldn't be no issue on that that wouldn't be a big deal to the person so it doesn't even matter person I wasn't even dating wasn't even dating me not any of that the simple fact that nobody has dated me not anybody for 18 years nobody else has didn't know anything about anybody else to do with who was single or not single who was with somebody that I didn't like I don't keep track of that with people I can't be blamed for people I don't really know in that way if nothing ever gets said to me or anything like that like oh my gosh the amount of crap that was directed at me or who all where it was coming from
I just went on two dates with a girl. After the second, she texted me saying she had a great time and hoped I did too, so I thought she really liked me. We had a third date arranged, it was almost her that suggested the third date and put forward ideas for it. Then, a couple of days before the third date, she said she wasn't in the right place to date. I really liked her, saw great potential, she said she did as well. Anyway, it's not so much me getting over her, it's more that I'm getting on a bit now, I'm 42 years old (43 next month) and it feels like there aren't plenty of others out there. It's rare I find someone I really like and when I do, either they're not interested or something like this happens. It's hard to continue dating when it feels like it will probably end up in more pain.
Yours is about how to deal with a break up. Think about the title. It said get over someone you never dated. Many of us never once had a shot at dating. Maybe your part is you 2 had dated for a short while and then the relationship ended quickly. So your part will have to be how to cope with the break up. At least you had a shot at dating even if it is a short period of time. For some of us, we never even deal with break ups because the dating part never even started yet. No beginning means no end. You did have the beginning on your part. So it is clear you only impressed her enough on the 2nd date but did not make it to the 3rd date. Many of us never once had our 1st date. If we don't get our first date, at least it fits the theme of getting over someone we never dated. You had dated before which means yours is about dealing with a break up.
I think I fell in love with the idea of who I thought this girl was without knowing her and who she actually is deep down. I've been feeling so conflicted with a situation I wanna let go and don't even feel for the person that same way as I did in a moment. I've got these underlying issues I've thought I might need to get serious help for.
Met this wonderful lady I met and just instantaneously developed a crush on her after finding out she is a valedictorian. Tried talking but her interest level is low. Now, I'm really hang up on her because I feel she's just my type although it's obvious she isn't interested. Had to slowly move on and rabdomly coming across this video is great for me as it gives a wonderful perspective.
We tend to do that sometimes, but you have to think you don’t really know her you like the idea of her but you don’t really know her. I’m glad the video was able to help you.
@@officiallaurabilotta Yes, fantasies are mostly deceptive and choosing to deal with reality is the better way to go. Yh, wonderful video. Thanks again. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Your right you what worse than divorce some cheating on you is loveing some one that never loves asked this girl out two times been out with alot women put this is one for me lt was not crush even when lasked she did back away we get on so well yes there s alot of fish in sea put she was mer maid every thing lever wanted in awoman so beleve you lf your man out there in same postion lno pain of loveing some one you couild never have
I am married, fell in love with someone who helps me and cares for my wife, who is ill and she has cared for her for several years and we became very close. But it can never be and she is always there, but I can never have her. We both know this and I love her to bits and I believe that she loves me, but because of what she does and the situation nothing can happen and I am not a bastard and will never leave my wife because of what is wrong with her, I have to care for her. It’s hard.
