Why, hello there! My name is Harry, and I am an Autistic and PDA Writer, Public Speaker, Educator, Self-Advocate & Consultant, and the author of The PDA Paradox - the link to which can be found below. I created this channel for the purposes of educating people on Neurodivergent Experience; by providing detailed descriptions of the inner workings of the ADHD, Autistic and PDA world, mostly from a first person perspective. PDA stands for 'Pathological Demand Avoidance' - a profile within the Autistic 3-Dimensional Space.
*DISCLAIMER*
I, Harry Thompson, am not a qualified mental health/medical professional. I derive my knowledge about and insight into Neurodivergence from many sources: My personal knowledge is derived from my internal sources of intuition, interoception, and introspection. I augment and further validate this personal knowledge with reference to my extensive reading of published academic and practitioner research in the areas of Autism Studies and psychology, and beyond.
Harry: You are a Godsend for my 4 year old grandson. I have bought 2 of your books on Amazon. I will buy and read all others you may have. Please keep up what you are doing to help others.
Seems you’ve been falsely targeted. Thank you for bringing awareness to PDA. I appreciate your courage in telling your story of living with PDA as it has helped me to understand it better.
I am sorry Paula but it is a misconception that anyone can ‘feel more’ than another. Autistic folk feel a lot. The problem is for me at least, that a) we tend to be wired to think subjectively and put those feelings to one side while we acquire more data - and b) we struggle to get tonality and expression into our voices that convey the depth of feeling (usually hurt and frustration) that comes from being piled on by practically everyone we meet.
Interesting perspective, I do think some people feel things more intensely than others, the behaviours and actions some engage in certainly give that impression. Some people lack vital skills in navigating their emotions, leading to a greater intensity for sure, hence why therapies like DBT can be useful to help those with particular presentations, providing tools they were lacking and allowing them to navigate their intense emotional experiences more safely.
@@paularicePDAADHD BTW i am not judging - you have obviously helped Harry by agreeing that the smear campaign was not his fault, which is a great thing to do. My issue is that autistic people are 8 x more likely to commit suicide than average. That is a lot of suffering going on inside. So ofc different people are sensitive to different emotions - and here, it is harrowing simply having to observe someone absorb the shame that belongs to others. And i know - I KNOW - 'HG Tudor' is like Hannibal Lecter - and will have been spying on Harry like he does to me and many others, just waiting for an opportunity to strike out. (my other profile is not sharing this comment? - can you see one reply or two?)
This is good, but you fail to address the following: What happens when a person with PDA makes demands on you that you simply cannot and will not comply with? I mean, a child may want to buy something or go to a specific restaurant, and the fact that you cannot provide that as a parent, will also put them in irritable, modify, difficult mode that can last for hours or even days. I' acknowledge' my child wants that, but in that case his quest for freedom becomes a unsolvable problem. What can be done in that case?
I homeschool my son and this helps me feel I am doing the right thing for him. He also teaches himself. I wonder how you learned music? Did u have lessons and were able to because you had the interest. Or from ear.
Hi Harry, really sorry you have had to go through all this. I have been apart of group webcam chats with you and others, you have always come across a genuinely nice and considerate person. If you ever said anything that came acorss as rude you were apologetic or dealt with it maturely. Akways been a big fan of yours
I haven't ever commented on your channel before, but I started following you after an interview you did with HG Tudor. I had wondered what happened to your YT channel (I am not on Facebook) and was surprised to see this video in my feed. I am so very sorry you went through this. I cannot help but think, listening to your experience with accuser 1 , that you may have in fact been ensnared by a narcissist (there were many red flags about accuser 1's behaviour) - but, perhaps you've already considered that? Best wishes on moving forward and healing from such a horrible experience.
@@1WhoCares No, I understand. This video was a wake up call for me. I deeply respect Harry and seeing what he has gone through is as upsetting as it is sobering.
Harry... using the word "hysteria" in your description is not a good word choice. That's an instant red flag and makes me not even want to listen to this. You will not use outdated terminology to further degrade ND women- something about that statement immediately made me distrust you. Think about what you are saying and check your arrogance. If you were accused of hurting multiple women... SOMETHING HAPPENED. Even if it's not what they say happened... something did. And maybe it was just poor treatment and disrespect- I can tell by the word choice you are quick to call women crazy. Any man who is accused of anything by other women should never use that word. I have been accused of things I have not done so I get how horrible that is- just know that to women in the United States--using that word to describe women has a very bad connotation. It immediately made me take pause- please be careful in the way you describe this
I understand your criticism however it completely misses the fact that Harry is a victim of a heinous crime and so completely dismisses and invalidates the real crime and very real pain caused by it. The person who falsely accused him and those who jumped on the back of the accusation are the ones who are doing the disservice to genuine female victims, like myself. They're the ones making it harder for genuine victims to be believed. I recommend listening to/reading Harry's official statement regarding the accusations where he delineates and addresses each individual allegation.
I believe Harry after this video but I cannot find any information online from the accuser about what they are claiming. Id like to hear her side just to be fair
The accuser's Facebook page/group started it off, then very many groups also made statements - if you commented anything other than believing the accuser, they blocked you. They may well have taken comments down now, given it was out and out defamation. There's zero evidence from the accuser anywhere. And when you could read the claims they were very vague - and disgusting nonetheless. They said they couldn't give details because there was a legal case being pursued, which has now been proven false.
To raise an abuser. I can’t wait for all the truth to be released ! Woman after Woman. It’s all coming. You can surround yourself with single parent domestically abused women, who need a wink and smile. The games up Harry Jack Thompson
It sounds like an horrific ordeal to go through and the allegations extremely ignorant and cruel! I'm so glad you're back Harry..bloody well done on getting through it.
The world may be more or less real (to me it seems we are living in a kind of hologram). What i know is each one percieves it differently, each from their own point of view.
Good to see you back, Harry. I'd been wondering what happened. I'm sorry to hear all the crap that happened but I'm so glad you've emerged and are rising above it
Ok, I watched an hour, I don't think I need to know more. I probably would never have believed the accusation, not that I would have ever heard it. It doesn't seem consistent with your personality. At any rate, I believe you now, and I will continue to recommend you. Your content is worth it. Please keep producing it.
Yay, you're back, I missed your pda content. And I'm really sorry for what happened to you. When someone gets cancelled, I always try to research it and make sure it's not a smear campaign. It's actually my pda that prevents me from going with everyone else and doing my own research. I don't have a social media so I had no idea why you disappeared, but I'm glad you're still with us ❤
I really appreciate this video. I think that the moral aspect of growing as an autistic person contributes the most complexity to the processes of healing and growth, and I value the balance between caring for others and caring for ourselves.
This is really great, explains so much about myself. I have numerous interests in the creative arts realm and every now and again I discover none of them give me the rush that comes from anticipating working on it. I feel empty as if my soul has left me, I don’t experience it as temporary boredom but literally as if all is foreign and meaningless. And then I will be filled with anxiety questioning if any of these interests were genuine and not simply a way to distract me from how unimportant and pointless my life is. Watching your short makes me feel like the next time this occurs, I could avoid the anxiety by realizing it’s a normal experience for PDAers. Like all else, this too shall pass and I can sit with the discomfort. Or go sleep until it returns.
Agree and now they gross me out even more. Showers all the way. Apart from those ridiculous rain showers. They are for people who never wash their bums.
I am very rarely bored per se. Sometimes I have a choice of tasks I don’t feel like doing, and that is irritating. If I am actually bored that means I am heading into a dark place.
Haha love it! I used to work with a little boy with PDA and he was fantastic. (Still is) kept me on my toes and I loved every second. Unfortunately schools haven't the funding to employ the people that all children need. Whether it's autism, adhd, mental health issues etc. Schools should be inclusive. Instead these small humans are pushed out due to the schools not having the expertise or patience to put up with them. Schools are a million miles away from what they should be. Peace ✌ out.
Fantastic, I’ve never had someone described so accurately my own social difficulties with banter. I feel less alone and less silly now. Thank you and well delivered
