Rachel East and Kristen Walker are co-founders of Clarity on Fire, a life and career coaching site (and podcast!) that serves up inspiration and down-to-earth wisdom to people who know what they don’t want in work and in life, but have no idea what they’d rather be doing.
They're the creators of The Passion Profile Quiz, a free online resource which has helped more than 500,000 people pinpoint the intersection between their passion and career. Their work has been featured online at major outlets like Time, Fast Company, Business Insider, and Forbes.
wow! I bought this book as I was listening to you two perfectly describe my mother and myself! Dr. Northrup's books are so well-written. I have started my emotional healing journey finally! Thank you so much for your conversation and input on this topic, I am totally the PREY! By the book. I had no idea. I thought I was just wonder woman as a wife and mom and career nurse and grad student. I realized, when I crashed an burned a few years ago that something is so wrong but no Dr could help. Anyways.... thanks for this discussion. It was perfect :)
Oh. My. GOD. This was PERFECT timing for me! I just made a huge move and am looking for an actual house/home, but not quite in your typical way, so I’ve been experiencing a lot of inner and outer pushback. I can trust myself! 💗
Within 24 hours of watching this I my husband pointed a huge billboard in Miami that only read “THIS IS A SIGN” . There was no phone number, business name, nothing. If that wasn’t the universe leaving me an unmistakable sign then I don’t know what could be😂
Looooooove that I found y'all because I'm reading this for the second time now. I'll report back with my first experiment when I get my blessing within the next 24 hours ❤😊🎉
Great discussion. I realize that this is a critique of the book. However, we are in the 21st century and about to be re-introduced to the fact that we can each have our own opinions and not be responsible for hurting anyone else's feelings. Opinions are just our own perceptions and we all have them. I'm knowing that we're all ready to give each other the latitude of being who we are and what we think. However, I'm being reminded of this quote, "the the easier it is to offend us, the easier we are to be controlled".
I am single, after being on dating apps for a year I was exhausted and fed up with married men and weirdos hitting on me. Shani is so right and I am really ok being single. Shani is amazing ❤
So glad you finally dumped the apps and embraced the good things about being single, Pippa! If you're interested in this topic in general, you might love the solo podcast about my journey through singledom: Forever Alone ru-vid.com/group/PLJ9IcW69YuB8oQe6iB7gPnU7bFaqfcNYm
@@clarityonfire thank you for the link, I am always interested in anything to help me on my single journey. And thank you for the reply, I am still in my single journey, but doing ok. Thanks
Yes most men I met on the apps or in person are married/in a relationship/ not looking for a relationship/ just wanna trap in endless texting loops in which they never ask you out. It’s crazy and then online all you hear is that when people say X what they mean is they don’t like you. After hearing it so many times I started to feel scared that every single intimate encounter was with people that didn’t even like me.
Saved this episode 5 months ago but I guess NOW was the right time to listen! Just bought the book before the episode even ended 😂 I grew up with binary thinking and it’s been such a struggle getting out of it. I think this book will help!
Daaaaaamn I need to print off that last answer I think!! I really needed that - I left my religion a few years ago and felt myself tumbling into nihilism instead. BOTH SUCK!!! You just took all the thoughts I’ve been quietly wondering in my head and put them in order. Thank you!!
How can I work on believing in a benevolent universe? It’s been hard lately 😔 And how can this kind of focus work for scanners/Renaissance souls/multipotentialites? Focusing on only one thing is SO boring lol… even though yeah, being too scattered doesn’t work either
Another great Fire Side chat. I love this concept of how to choose what to focus on… sometimes I can overwhelm myself trying to “do it all” … Thanks Rachel and Kristen
I love this Side Chat because I can 200% relate, as I’m a consultant. It takes courage to speak up. it can be done but you’ll also need to be prepared for the outcome. There’s an art to speaking up, knowing who and when, knowing if you can financially afford to speak up sooner than later, and having a game plan. I will say I’m (happily) no longer with the company and I’m moving in to another consulting company. I plan to take what I learned from that last job as way to set boundaries and hopefully be more successful.
I have an employer though that doesn't care about having "two holes." This exact situation happened to a coworker of mine and the owner responded like the coworker had personally insulted him by not just doing what he told her to do. (It gives notes about his character how he always tells and never asks btw.) He told my coworker that he guesses she's not up to the job then and maybe she should look elsewhere [for employment an after being there for years]. When she replied, naturally insulted that he questioned her long time with the company, he stopped her and said, no this is part of your job now. You will do it. Period. She walked out. So yes, some owners and bosses are that terrible sadly no matter how gently you speak up or assert a boundary.
For sure, there are some terrible ones out there! Good for your coworker for drawing the line and walking out. Sometimes the only way to win is to refuse to play the game.
Firestarter here and this was so on point! I took the quiz & EVERYTHING on the profile fit me to the T. I've been on a mission to find my purpose and figure out how to monetize my passions. I truly appreciate you ladies!
Thank you for sharing this subject. So many children around the world are in a toxic environment that will never change. After they leave home theyll carry it with them to their grave, and along the way the toxins will be spread onto their own children. Knowledge and therapies of the like presented here are probably our only real redemption toward healing into the future.
This is me to a tee! I just don't know which direction to go in, and I don't feel like I have the energy anymore to pursue it! I just want to like what I do and I don't want it to be sitting in front of a computer! There isn't a specific job title I am looking for but more of what I want to do, if that makes sense. The job I am doing now does not interest me at all. I mainly stay because of the money and stability, especially because of the way things are today with the economy. I don't have time to start over, I'm getting closer to retirement.
So this was recommended to me & I just received the fastest respond from FP lol Im listening to this on my phone and I just replied to one of friends on messenger, talking about clearing baggage & cleaning house - so I decided to use a Snow White sweeping GIF &&&& not even 30 mins into this video -- “ Snow White gets mentioned 🧐🤨🤨🧐🤨🧐
47:50, wow I just wrote this down. I am commanding and demanding that my I am presence show me the most amazing travel adventure for this year with the most potent path forward for my art/self expression to progress into success, pleasure and plenty <3 thank you and so it is!
I just submitted my three weeks notice for an amazing opportunity and I thought I was going to feel relief but instead I feel incredibly guilty due to all the reasons you mentioned and helped iron out for us. The feeling of guilt overcame me that I even had to step out and breathe. Thank you so much.
Yep, terrifyingly accurate as usual! Last night as I was trying to get to sleep I felt compelled to write down a thought that came to me (that I knew would nag me if I didn't get it out). I wrote "I feel cornered when I need help...the scary choice between failing because I didn't ask for help, and asking for help but looking weak/incompetent or being denied it (I guess a lot of the thoughts that keep a people pleaser quiet). Hard to do either and still feel lovable. I'm cornered and set up to fail either way." So of course the Devil card felt super relevant to that, a sort of imprisonment of my own thoughts, and then the Judgment card came in with "so are you going to stay there or seek freedom?" And the last card feels kind of like license to stop being terrified of both the failing and the asking for help, because if I choose what's best for me, instead of choosing out of fear, I'll be that much more satisfied.
I work for my bf and with him. My life has been the most miserable and unhappy. I don't want to work there anymore or even be with him anymore. He's rude and always bitching. I don't even care about a 2 weeks notice. I want out asap. I'm living day by day. I'm wanting to quit every day and run away from him too. Today needs to be the day...
We're so sorry to hear that! You're totally right to get out of both this job AND this relationship. It sounds pretty unhealthy, and you deserve better!
What’s crazy is I’m a contract worker and I always do a good job wherever I’m at and I create great relationships. I’m not getting any traditional benefits and had a fight for sick time but I still feel guilty leaving for the direct client. At the end of the day I have to do what’s best for me because I am replaceable as everyone is.
