These experiences are certainly not unique to British Private Schools. So grateful Earl Spencer for your integrity and choose go reveal your experiences so you and thousands of others might begin to heal. ❤❤❤Angels are more actively involved in our lives than we realize in assisting in 'finding a path through' to recovery.
My maternal grandad sexually abused me but he is dead and for me I'm relieved. My father did not sexually abuse me. Domestic Abuse in my marriage was the worst and no it is not OK even if you're sorry.
My maternal grandad sexually abused me but he is dead and for me I'm relieved. My father did not sexually abuse me. Domestic Abuse in my marriage was the worst and no it is not OK even if you're sorry.
It wasnt till I was in my fourties that I even considered my own feelings . Id spent my whole life aquiessing to anyone who showed interest, it was wrong to say no and I didnt want to be responsible for someone feeling rejected or to be punished for not refusing. Waking up and Making the change in such behaviours was enlightening. There seems to be endless effects of adverse childhood experiences and often just lived through blindly as though normal.
I'd sooner juggle pineapple handgrenades on a unicycle or do under water basket naked in a lobster tank with the lobsters claws free than date a woman.
Oliver! The British really hated their children. Wealthy children were sent away to boarding schools to be trained by others, royalty had others raise their children, and the poor enslaved their kids to factories or fields. All slaves.
Absolutely horrific and thank you Julie as you are an exceptional interviewer and this has been utterly eye opening and so profoundly sad. Charles is a wonderful man that after listening to this shows me we never know what anyone endures.
What an absolutely inspirational and humbling interview! Martine, you are strength and resilience personified. You have a lovely big personality which seems to have sustained you through your dreadful experience. I was very moved at your Mother’s and Brother’s supportive responses but that too illustrated the fundamental familial ethos and why you now speak as you do. You evoke profound positive energy and a love for life which is quite amazing considering what you endured. You are a very special person and I salute you with love and warmest best wishes. 🙏💜
One should realise that each and every one of us is having some permutation and combination of problems. No one has more or less. It's how one deals with the problems that is unique and different.
Such a brave man. I don't watch the news or buy a newspaper so had never heard his story before. My father went to Public school and it stayed with him for life, he was really heartbroken by it.
It must be tough to go through this but can I just say that Julia’s wisdom and insight in her podcasts is still so amazing and powerful and her interviews so thorough and sensitive. I for one am so glad she is continuing to work through this time
Exactly... it's like you have no skin... was looking at how to describe how I felt and this would be the closest. This talk was amazing... down to earth and REAL... thank you both.
Fabulous insights, i have been in a very abusive relationship for 38 years. I am scared of anger both mine and other, i am an addict after so many rear of abuse. Now at 59 my abuser has gone off with someone else.
Women don't go to the free weights because they see little to no gains for the time they put in. Men and women are built differently. We don't put on muscle in the same way! Biology!
How could U? Ur eyes, ur beauty; An angelic beauty. Copies of u would have done much good for the earth. It has bothered me. U r ok with it and now I have to be ok too.
For someone who’s going through so much loneliness (internally and externally), to watch your podcast and how mother and daughters interact in such a loving way gives me strength. Thank you ❤
When I read Minnie's book back in summer of 2022, I was actually camping in Malibu, but the crazy part was when I paused and looked around it was the area which she describes in the book. I loved that, as I also loved the book, and have been a fan of her for a very, very long time. She has always been the chick I want to come back as, well her or Sade. Lol ..
I'm not a therapist but I can relate to Rangan's last reflection on why his kids might trigger him at the dinner table although I question his conclusion that he might, even in an evolutionary sense, perceive his kids as a threat per se. I would frame it as his being in a state of perceived threat (from some source external to the dining room) and his kids demanding (quite rightly!) his attention and hence that he turn his attention away from the external threat, which implies vulnerability.
so great to hear a man speak with you so eloquently and intelligently Julia, about grief and growth 💓 thank you for sharing another talking experience 💙 thank you @GregWise 😊
This is so courageous. Thank you both. It’s about time society listened to survivors so that they don’t have to carry the pain alone. Childhood trauma has life long impact but can be overcome and there is hope towards living a contented life. Understanding and healing ourselves is the key to unraveling our self sabotaging behaviours and addictions . X
I’m so sorry for your tremendous loss . It is my belief that many people are attracted to health work because they are masochists. That statement may seem very harsh and wildly crazy but unfortunately, I have had direct and multiple experiences that are hard to believe and can’t be denied or explained any other way. I heard of my husbands death after he did not come home one evening. He had gone to his volunteer work with animals . We were living in my husbands country and due to language, I was quite solitary and isolated. After he was two hours late, I began to call around; hospital, police, and his friend, Paul, who did the same volunteer work. I knew something was very wrong. I called Paul again and this time someone answered and I could hear yelling and chaos. And then a man’s voice announced “ Madame. Your husband is dead.” He hung up. Paul had found him in the locker room where they changed into barn coats and Wellies. They had not come to get me ( we had no car and I had no cab money ) They just took him away to the city for an autopsy. They actually misplaced his body for 3 days at the state facility and when he finally was returned to the mortuary, they said he was too decomposed to be viewed and banned me from doing so. The next day, I was visited by the city attorney who told me to pack up. As my husband was gone, I had no legal right to be there, She gave me 7 days. There was so much trauma piled on my other that by the time I left there I was fairly catatonic; just standing in the middle of the room not moving, not speaking, trying to think , needing to act . It was cruelty on top of tragedy. The people I had to interact with were heartless. And frankly, I’m shocked that I’ve made it to this point. That was five years ago. I am back home now. And so is he. I was allowed to carry his earn with me on the international flight. I tell you this because I know it was a question for you. There is a slip the mortuary will give you. But the airlines allows you not to declare it. You can also have the earn shipped. No problem. I have still kept the earn with me. I feel no pressing need to scatter the ashes. As I know he is not there. I feel he stayed watch over me for a while but that he has gone ahead. There is a song called Sand and Water that I encourage you to listen to. I have gone through many hardships and changes. I have no family and friends are few now. It’s as if they think that grief is catching. What keeps me going is that he had said to me many times that he loved life and would want to live no matter what. I knew that he wanted me to take better care of myself as I had been through some quite unbelievable trauma before we moved from my country. It was the reason we moved. To have a new start. Your interview has caused me to cry. I haven’t cried for 4 years. I didn’t think I could. I thank you for that. The afternoon he died, I was sitting on the bed doing my makeup and he walked by the door and then he backed up and stood looking at me. He said “ Oh my God! You look just like an Angel”. And then he left. I wish you love and hope. And at every turn, someone to make it better somehow.
I love you guys. Thank you. I feel like I could have written this in. My mom died two and a half weeks ago and this is how I felt. She was absolutely my best friend and my favorite person. It’s slowly coming out.
So lovely to see who you have become. I remember seeing you as a young actor and seeing a particular look in your eyes that made me feel something in you was not at peace and that look is no longer there.
