Our money goals are to afford our lifestyle (pay bills), spend, save and invest. We personally direct deposit the majority of our paychecks into a joint account. Once we figured out our bills and how much we’d like to pay ourselves so we agreed on ~70% going to the joint account and the remaining is our “play” money going to the our personal accounts. The joint covers ALL household bills with the remainder going into savings. This way it doesn’t have to feel like you pay for this I pay for that. Play money is for our personal spending, savings, retirement investments outside of work plans.
Peace. Unfortunately, the media does play a part in the portrayal. I have also learned that a lot of our people believe what the tv shows. Many tend to follow the "trend". Seriously and sadly. I have been paying attention over the years. That microcosm of one ignorant gets exploited as it is happening en masse. There are many great black fathers. They don't always have to be in the home. However, definitely a plus if the father is in the home. Peace
I agree with Tasia about the Reddit post after only a few months I don’t think he should’ve been so caught up about her. But since they added sex to the mix sometimes those ties are hold to let go.
I believe you can have a connection. But it is a lot to learn about a person to determine that you are in love. And what they bring to your world to say you are in love?
Sleep on it. Give yourself some time to rest and get another perspective from your subconscious. Besides, no one ever said you had to sleep in the same room. Of course, lock your door cause you don’t know who might be a homocidal maniac.😂😮
Parents are often the most blind, entitled humans to exist. They have children to treat like little robotic clones instead of people. Many parents don't deserve the ability to have children and should have been born infertile.
You may have an opinion, but as a child, it’s not an informed opinion and that’s what matters. You’re the child, you are not aware of significantly more factors than are presented to you. So when the adult tells you to shut up and stay out of it, fucking shut up and stay out of it. It’s that simple. I can also tell she doesn’t have kids of her own, and if she does, she is quite ignorant to the fact that everyone looks at situations through their own perceived rose tinted goggles, from a childhood where significant information was limited to you. No one truly knows what your parents were going through as you grew up, you only saw what they wanted you to see. Looking at the world through the eyes of children does nothing when the world is ran by adults making adult decisions, with adult experience. So no, the opinion of a child is nice for the child to be able to say but does absolutely nothing for real world applications.
Facts don’t care about your opinion… and experience is best teacher… your elder has much experience over your life, knows how stupid you can be, if there telling you, it’s because they know you don’t see it… willingly..
I ask my child's opinion on matters pertaining to them all the time. However, children do not understand to the full extent of how the world works. There are many times where she will give her opinion and i just responded with "I appreciate you trying to be part of this conversation but I dont think this is something you understand enough to have an opinion on." Keep in mind, she is 8. That disparity will start to reduce when they get into their mid to late teens though. All children should be given an opportunity to voice their opinion, because it builds confidence and allows them to learn to not follow people blindly and think for themselves. But sometimes, you need to let them know when they dont know what they are talking about.
I'm the parent. I don't need your opinion. I mean...mostly. As my kids get older I do value their opinion, and when they are adults I hope we can value each other's opinions, however I do not want to hear my 8 year olds opinion on if he needs to turn the screen off and GO SHOWER!!!
