So this is part three: The aunt is actually there mom and she had to give them up after getting pregnant in high school. She gives the twins to her sister and after a couple years the fake mom told the new mom to not come back. Alex stayed and doesn’t know but OP moved out and is starting a relationship with his real mom.
NTA. Once trust is broken, it’s not easily mended. And every time you need to be able to trust him you’re going to think of this incident. Also, do you want him to do something like that or allow something like that with your kids???? Better off ending it now and finding someone who cares about you….. all of you!
My Birth Father was never a part of my life. Mom divorced him when I was 2 and he chose other women over being a father. When we were taken away from Mom by the state they gave him an opportunity to take us. I remember the 4 of us kids huddled together in the courtroom when the door banged open and there he was with another woman hanging on his arm. He didn't even look at us kids. Just walked up to the podium and stated in a voice so loud the whole court house must have heard him "I don't want those Kids. She can have them!" Then he strolled out and we didn't see him again till I was 18. A councilor went behind my back and contacted him. She invited me to dinner and as soon as I walked into the house I saw him standing there. I turned and walked into the other room. I told her that I wanted nothing to do with him. She had no right to go behind my back like this. She convinced me to give him 5 minutes. The first words he said were not I'm sorry or I love you. "You're a man now and you have every reason to hate me. Go ahead and punch me if it will make you feel better." I turned and walked out. He was a very abusive husband and father. His only solution was always violence. He hadn't changed. I was babtized when I was 20. Thinking of making amends for my sake I reached out to him and invited him to my babtism. He was excited to come. We made plans that he would come on Saturday and he would stay overnight with me before the babtism. I took off work for that Saturday and waited for him to call me. He never called and never showed up. 15 years later my brother was getting married. I was at odds with my birth mother but he really wanted me to be there. I showed up and my birth mother came outside to my car and hugged me and apologized. We went in and sat at the table talking and catching up. This skinny old bald man walked up to me and asked me how I was doing. I didn't know who he was. My mother said "This is your father." I had to laugh. He was always confident and sure of himself. He was a big man. Here before me was someone frail and broken. I just looked at him and told him if he was going to be there then I wouldn't be. I stood up to leave but my mom put her hand on my arm and told him it was time for him to go. I never saw or heard from him again. My second Sister and Brother went on to be a part of his life but my oldest sister and I wanted no part in it. About 8 years ago I received an email from a funeral home. He had passed away and they needed someone to pay his funeral costs. I replied that he was scum of the earth and they should just tie a brick around his neck and throw him into the nearest swamp. I didn't want him when he was alive and I sure wasn't paying for his funeral. I asked my brother a few years later what happened to him. "He got sick and his gf kicked him out of the house and put him in a home. No one ever visited him and he died. I had him cremated." What did you do with his ashes? "I threw them out the car window somewhere between here and there." Perfect ending to a scumbag dad.
Summary of the story: She explained that it was more than that and peter didnt really do anything, they drove around and everything was fine, they spent 30 mintues chatting, drinking and having fun, when Peter decided it was time to swim, Op tried to laugh it off and explained the sea wasnt really her thing, thats when Peter grabbed her and threw her overboard, Op can swim but in that moment she was panicking, her boyfriend pulled her out eventually and she spent 15 mintues crying and gagging, peter replied with "Jesus you were only in there for a mintue" Op looked at her boyfriend, expecting him to say something, but he only responded with "I told you she was scared" after a while of crying Op demanded to be taken back, Peter at first refused but when he saw how much she was crying he reluctantly agreed, once they came back Op rushed to her car and cried, Her boyfriend returned only to say "Are you still crying?" Op didnt responed and they drove in silence, Once she got home she broke up with him, He blew up her phone, but once she responded he only said she was overreacting, no apology, Her family supports her but some of her friends say she was being dramatic
I have almost drowned 2x in my life. I have tried pools, beaches, etc. and I can "swim" enough to feel okay but the moment my feet can't touch the ground confidently I freak out. If someone responded like this to me I'd break up with him to. Feeling safe from physical and mental trauma is a boundary everyone should have and respect.
I mean, if they’re not harassing you or shoving their sexual preferences down your throat why do you care how they choose to live? Stop obsessing so much over other people sexuality sheesh.
Ask your son, just ask him how he feels about his relationship with this man, and if he's okay with it just remind him to he can always come to you if the guy ever make him uncomfortable. I say this as a victim
I would just have divorced her the moment I had figured out the timeline, but instead of announcing it on the wedding, I would’ve just not attended and just left divorce papers on the counter or something, and even if I went through the trouble that he went through the moment she brushed it off, like nothing Shows that very likely she’s going to do it again and then brush it off just because timeline so divorcing is the only way that he should’ve gone through this.
She told OP she was with the best man 4 years ago, even though they've been together for 5 years. So looking time wise she cheated with the best man, repeatedly. And the only reason she said anything is because she believed since they weren't married it didn't matter and due to the wedding. But yeah, sure, at least she told him several years later and after they married.
