I love the just a random guy giving advice note 😂 thank you for putting yourself out there with good advice and a visual understanding of this shiny pursuit bad habit most of us share. God bless 🙌
For sleeping problems, I listen to music for at least 30 minutes before I go to bed and pick out a specific instrument to listen to within a song without any words. For some reason, it's helped me sleep better immensely. Can anyone else test this method out to see if it works for them?
Very inteesting video. The concept of deep identity change is something that many ppl overlook, it is essentially a choosing of a path that many ppl avoid doing, but is necessary. can yo share where you got this idea or what inspired it. It seems like a very interesting read. Gret video! You got a subscriber
I give mine away to do the most good like free energy is real and I've developed it using gravity 2 tanks a turbine and water I can exponentially increase the yield its basically a siphon where the top tank pulls from the bottom while dumping lol into the bottom tank as long as the top tank weighs more than the pipe and bottom tank that's X that is the driving force its a stacked bell siphon
Bro, I like your thumbnails 😀 And also I think there is one thing you are good at is analytics. I myself have a new interest that is data science, it is a struggle but I think I'll be at peace once I get a job switch.
Can't deny at all. Recently been exploring the neurodivergent traits, my friend tagged me as a dyslexic but through self assessment tests and online content I was reassured myself as an autistic but now I come accross you my friend, felt like an assurance to me that I am not alien to the normal world and it's concepts. I am very well aware of the curse that you mentioned, I have fallen in to existential crisis and it is very exhausting. Without purpose of life it is breeds more anxiety and depression. I have a feeling that at the end the dots will connect. Right now I am mere collecting the dots now. I am a cocktail of all these traits that have unique/unconventional problems but need to figure out unique solutions, or it's not a bug but a feature, they are unique powers 😅 Though I don't know if it is ADHD as people define it differently. Now from the above rant you may understand What chaos we brew in our minds and the chain of thoughts. Universe came into existence after a chaos. Life and consciousness was eventually an emergent property of the chaos. It's a beautiful mess 😂 But I also feel ignorance is bliss.
I have so many ideas but I can only act on a small fraction of them. I just don't have the energy or time to spend on all of them. It's so disheartening, makes me feel like a failure. Like a part of me dies with every lost thought and idea... But they are all with me. All the thoughts and experiences I have ever had, have combined to produce my current state. They live as long as I live.
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The amount of work it takes to keep every interest going it's insane, I've decided to push with only two or three maximum and leave all the rest in background waiting for the right time. I want to be left with as many passions as possible in the next few years, I love the "process" even if it's disheartening most times. I've realised only in the last few months that it's ok to be a generalist and not give all of yourself in just one thing. Great video, keep it coming.
You mentioned happiness and "enjoying the process" in this video. Lately I have come to terms that both of those are not attainable for me. I now think that the goal should be to just grind and improvise at whatever you set your mind to. Getting better at something will always suck though, especially when we are not seeing the results we want, which can make us want to try other things as a fellow adhd... And i think at the bottom of our hearts, we know we don't want to give up and we want to stick through it. We know what we have to do, but putting in the work to improve might be disheartening.
I can't imagine how much effort you must have put into editing this video. I just started creating content and this is really good quality. The amount of edited footage, memorizing the script while looking into the camera, sound editing, etc. Good honest hard work. The message of this video really resonates with me and helped me realize that I may have ADHD as well... Thank you for making content like this. I wish to create content like you consistently so please continue what you are doing.
Nice video man, thanks for sharing and giving tips. Also really nice to see this video is doing so well. Keep going, I like your editing and story telling. Cheers!
I get you. I relate. Is it possible that you have stored trauma? I've been practicing somatic healing. Going places as you mentioned regulates your nervous system. It's a triumph what you learned. I know I too struggle with the set in stone obsession or the all or nothing thoughts or that's too big end result fear. Expecting it to be easy is painful and it's not life. Hard can be rewarding. I know what you mean. You have helped me. If you want to investigate somatic healing, you can know that nothing was working for me before. Irene Lyon is on youtube and she has an affordable course.
Bram! Appreciate you brother. Thanks for having the courage to share. I don’t have ADHD. I’m dealing with something else. But, I find your video informative. Valuable, related to what I’m challenged by. I’m also in the creative field, and one of the things you’re involved in as a business, I actually have some interested in, but never thought it could be a significant income source. I’m subscribed to Dr. K. Man, is he informative. I went to his videos to understand this dopamine issue a lot of us are susceptible to. He’s got great stuff. Thanks, bro, for sharing. May it go well for you. Dude, your self awareness, and using that knowledge to move forward, is to be mimicked. Ciao.
I am SO glad this video appeared in my feed. I am struggling so hard right now, approaching my 20s and not knowing what to do in life. I have such a hard time with shiny object syndrome, but it's gotten to the point where I started giving up things I am passionate about. Like you said in the video, what's the point of doing any of it if I don't finish it? (I also have ADHD, among other things) But I've been trying, yesterday I went to the city all by myself, for the first time I ordered coffee all on my own, went to buy clothes I ACTUALLY wanted. It felt so freeing and it made me realize a lot of things about myself. A lot of my life is being held back by fear and perfectionism, it's a hard thing to shake, but I'm trying. Very good video, made me even a little teary eyed knowing that I am not alone in this.
That's fantastic to hear you went out of your comfortzone! Behind the wall of fear is so much freedom. I too struggle with perfectionism from time to time, but I know I try and that's all what matters. You'll get there man!
This is a great video. I feel your pain. I've had four businesses. Three I stuck with for a year but realized I didn't make much money but more importantly, I didn't enjoy it. I liked it fine when I made the products for myself and friends but not fulfilling orders. It was boring. The fourth was 3 years making a movie. No profit, no sleep, extremely hard but I loved the whole process. I learned a lot from all four businesses. You are dead on about acceptance; on your brain being different, finding positive things about ADHD, about things being hard, and taking time. I have also found having multiple projects going at same time helps. When one is slow or is in a waiting phase, I switch. I also read multiple books at same time in different genres. This helps with the "shiny object" compulsion. You'll get there! Honestly, I now love my ADHD brain.
I hope I get to that point where you're at man! Complete acceptance an dealing with the inner battle better. Thanks a lot for sharing your story, it helped me
I can relate so much and although I wasn't sure if I had ADHD or not, I've changed interests and careers so many times in my life. I've always thought it was a problem but I continued to followed my curiosity and I've challenged myself to learn difficult things that I never thought I could do. This, I believe, has made me a much more well-rounded person. Don't be afraid to follow your heart :) - Sincerely, cake artist, figure skater, photographer, biologist, developer
I don't think the problem is 'ADHD', I think the problem is our own internal belief system, how our parents thought us to relate with the things around us, the fact that we fake trust with each other just to be accepted creating a lot of internal paranoia that make us doubt our own actions and also that we overfantasize socializing and as a thing that we all should be doing constantly even if it means just talking giberish to keep the dopamine going instead of accepting silence and just be there. Nobody gives a shit about what I ate yesterday or where I'm going tomorrow yet everyone asks you this stupid questions over and over again just to keep the dopamine coming. IMO it's not ADHD, it way more complex than that, it's a societal problem that has been building up due to capitalistic ideologies. I completely identify with your struggles and hate labeling myself with these new age concepts of mental health, I don't want anybody judging me because they see an adjective before my name, i want people to judge me for what I am doing. Also we sharing our thoughts and not doing the hard work is also a problem :D Purposeless lifes we have, we are just a number.
Well, we all wear masks outside our comfort zone and sometimes you do it for so long that you get confused on what you were doing before you were wearing the mask, as if the mask starts gaining his own identity and you start doing things that you would never do in the first place just because you are pleasing society in order to get what you wanted but you no longer remember what it was so the internal paranoia starts. Am I doing right? Who am I? Do I even like drinking beer on the weekend? Why do I talk to these people? Do I like my job? Am I pretty? Do I care? That video told me that I should do A but the other video toldme i should do B? And that famous person told if I do C I will get D? But my government also tells me to do E? Who should I believe in? Do I have ADHD? What is ADHD? Maybe OCD or Autism? Am I depressed? I saw this in me and I see it a lot in people around me, just faking emotions and body language with each other just to either get a bit of dopamine or avoid something, all because we don't want to feel rejection or be remembered that we no longer ourselves, that we are trapped into a lifestyle that we never chose in the first place, heck, all I wanted was to play video games all day but I can't because I have to pay to live. Human world is owned by some and they give you access to things that you never chose to use, someone just told hey, you can get dopamine if you use this and do that., now go get that money, climb the ladder, get a big house, a big car, be an entrepeneur, create more controversy and useless shit to make people stuck into their masks, make them question their entire senses that they no longer know if they are real so they mindleslly buy stuff and do stuff with their money. We all wish for power either its an instrument, an animal, a person, an addiciton or self-sabotage... or society itself. And that's ok you know? It's just how we humans are, we are moved by power and perfection. Some of us are just clueless of our capabilities because we have so much useless information in our brains. I believe whole society lives in paranoia, like many say, fear is the biggest motivator and paranoia is pure fear.
@@bramjilissen99society has been build of bs and immoral guidelines. Humans doing inhuman things is going to destroy us internally. "Everyone's" pretentious and it's most likely because we're all fighting for the dollar. The dollar is supposed to be used for trade not to make one's self wealthy. The victors write history though so it's forever in their favor and never in ours. Fast forward 500 years and hello wild dissonance. So then we'll come up with terms like ADHD for the people who's brains are seeing through the bs and trying to minimize the dissonance while piecing together wtf is going on.
@@Postocalypse I'm not sure what you mean by dissonance but I believe in what I said 100% but before I used to get mad and hateful about it and now I understand why and how it happens so I just accept it and try to find my own way and place in this world we have been shaping for milenias. When you come from disorganized, emotionally primitive and consumed by hate family where all they know to do is talk gibberish and abuse each other that gives you a perception of life way different.
One thing that helps me is swapping my interests in a cycle. That helps if you have to invest money in things because you will just come back to it when your no longer motivated to do the other things. Pick the choice that you are most interested in at that moment.
Thank you for making this. I related a lot to it. I never knew about shiny object syndrome. "This decision is not for life." That's really powerful. Thank you again for sharing this information. I really can tend to take things too seriously and be paralyzed by fear of making the wrong chocie.
Thank you so much🙏🏻 Yeah shiny object syndrome is really a tricky mindtrap humans have sometimes, it’s something to be aware of I still tend to take things too seriously as well sometimes. I remind myself that life changes and so my interests do. But yeah it’s easier said than done I hope this video helped you!
Damn I’m glad the algorithm showed me your video. I can relate to this so much as a RU-vidr. I have really bad ADHD. And I’ve changed my niche a million times. My passion is curiosity, it’s hard to box someone into a niche that has ADHD. I would say just make videos man. About whatever. You’re a natural. Main thing is to not seek rewards or validation from your creative endeavors. because it will only serve to disappoint you when it doesn’t pan out. Good stuff man
