Welcome to my channel. Here I speak about my life, my journey with autism and things I have found that have really helped me. I try to keep my videos positive and truthful. I really hope you find something here that you relate to and may bring you some comfort.
I'm ADHD, probably AuDHD (only have the former officially diagnosed for now) and I have a very irregular work/effort output, which has always been an issue at school then at work. It always hurts to hear "if only you took less breaks, with your productivity, imagine how much you would achieve", because people who say this don't realize that if I don't take all of those breaks, that amazing productivity goes down the drain too, and you only get slow and poorly done work out of me. I realize it's inconvenient for planning and coordination, but that's how it is, you have to look at my productivity as an average over time. I'm a sprinter, not a marathon runner. Or like a surfer waiting for the next wave of energy and motivation. There can't be waves constantly, by definition they come and go. I NEED that amount of rest to be my best self. Also simply in terms of my happiness and health, because productivity is not everything, damnit.
If it's so affordable could you show how? With how much money you spend on each meal recipe. Maybe cooking challenge series? I'm curious, tried many times, and filed
You can make a lasagne with a tin of lentils, tomatoes etc. Or a simple curry with rice, sauce and kidney beans. So many things. Or pasta with veg or lentils. Tofu stir fry. Quick simple meals that don't cost much at all. Take a look at The Happy Pear on RU-vid. They have loads of recipes. Keep it simple would be my advice and then build it up from there.
I had my hair shaved once. This was actually the sign of my self destruct tendencies. I was suffering from deep depression in my late teens, and my parents were totally misunderstanding everything. They were like "if you'd be learning like you should, you'd have no time for being depressed". I wanted to scream, often cried. Once I have painted my hair, face and hands with some leftover enamel paint from painting walls, because I didn't want to go to school (they forced me to go even if I was genuinly sick). I was really in a bad shape and even looking back, I needed to rest. After that I tried to get rid of the paint, but it stayed on my hair. So I had no choice, but to shave it. I couldn't wait my hair to grow back. I wore a wig, but I still felt bad about it, as my natural hair was way thicker, shinier and had nicer color. It also had a natural white strand above my left ear, which I really loved - it looked so cool, like it was from a fantasy movie. I felt stuck for like 1.5 years (my thick hair do not fall down util they're at least 10cm long, and even then they tend to look pulled up; think of an afro, but from straight hair standing upright) looking like I didn't want to look. Now, when I'm a mother and a homemaker, I don't have time for daily combing or such, yet I'd never go even for short hair. I just discovered hairstyles that do not require too much care and look OK. So whenever I need to, I can look really good. I have long, heavy hair, but after learning more about actual haicare, I've learnt how to care for them to save time and especially - money. And as for cutting them - I've been cutting hair myself for like forever. Nowadays there are really good tutorials for various long haistyles. I always cut myself (yes, myself!) by layering. And all I need is just a comb, some water, haiband, good scissors and like 30 minutes - mostly for combing. And I do it only once a year. So in my case shaving a head was not liberating, it was a sign of a sickness.
@@thediaryofnow Sure, but what I meant is that it's not empowering or anything positive by default. Hair, especially female hair, has it's own meaning in culture. There are African tribes, where women shave their heads, no exceptions. But in other cultures hair is a sign of feminity, health, prosperity etc. "Every woman should shave at least once" is not a good idea.
@@thediaryofnow Oh, I've forgotten to mention: in the ancient Greece shaved head was a sign of enslavement. And as for more modern times: shaving head was a common punishment for women, who were dating German Nazi soldiers in occupied Europe. And this was considered a really harsh punishment for a woman. I've also heard about modern times women who were abused, that their oppressors shaved them, even if it made no sense - I mean if you rape somebody, you propably would want them to look appealing to you, but for some reason, they shaved their victims. Propably as a sign of power or something. I don't mean to argue anymore, as you have written, to each their own. I just want to show that shaving female hair has culturally more dark, diminishing meanings, than empowering ones. But I'm also against the demonisation of female baldness. I'd hate to see people making fun of shaved women, whatever the reason. For me it's something like getting a tattoo or jewelry with some symbols: do you know what that means? Are you OK with those meanings? And... is that really you?
I find it interesting that 100% for us is maybe entirely different than for them. I have this thought that their 100% is our 70%, because usually when neurotypicals give it 'their all' it seems that they're not.
Great idea but how. If you tell your employer you're struggling, you're a problem and employers get rid of problems. NDs are already suffering a higher unemployment rate and if you can string a sentence together, you can forget about PIP or any other benefit. The vast majority of people do not care about ND. I'd love a break but instead I'm running on three hours sleep because of having to deal with other people and their mess ups. No one else will pick that up. I agree about burnout but what do you do when you have no option. You go until you can't and then you crash. I hope your other viewers have better luck but realistically it doesn't happen for most NDs.
Thank you for taking the time to watch and comment. Of course there will be times when things are all consuming but we do have to make attempts to advocate for ourselves. It’s not always easy for sure but if you don’t look after yourself, no one else will. The most important thing is your health. I wish you all the best. 🥰
I think what we also need to remember is we try so hard and to be honest, don't need to, much of the time. No wonder we're exhausted. I've realised this and am putting in less effort at work and it's been fine. The 100% is us pushing ourselves above and beyond cos we've felt criticised or inadequate but mostly no one notices if you can function and do your job just putting in less effort. And you shouldn't be picking up the slack for others!
pffft ive been trying to do that since ive been a child but i can never feel still or calm yet im constantly trying to be calm, but to be fair all i knew about myself growing up was i had adhd and was hyper......parents were to lazy to diagnose me, so im the "reason they drink" or some thing and the goals they set were never achievable for me and they never took the time to help me learn to cope in healthy ways.....hope you get big and help others like me that were just tossed to the side
Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. I’m really sorry that you have been through a tough time. I had zero support when I was a kid. It’s only since I’ve had my own child that I recognised that what I went through isn’t the norm. All we can do is try to pick up the pieces and move forward as positively as possible. I just speak honestly about my personal experiences in my videos and of it helps someone else, that’s a real bonus. Take care of yourself.
Thanks a lot! I don't agree with veganism or similar concepts, but I belive it's crucial to define clearly what we're discussing. For example I had to tell my friends, who call themselves vegetarian, that the're pescatarians, because they eat fish. Actually there is a long tradition of pesca-ovo-lacto-vegetarian diet during religious fasting. There's even a traditional term for such diet and foods: "jarosz/dieta jarska/jarski". And there arouses a huge misconception that we have huge population of vegans and vegetarians, because those two groups tend to be bunched up together for statistics. So it looks like we have supposedly 1/10 popularion living sorely by eating plants, while such lifestyle is incredibly rare. And I come from a big city.
I eat a mostly WFPB diet (no meat,fish,dairy or eggs but occasional vegan junk food). I still wear leather products I had before changing my lifestyle. Does that make me non vegan? Plant based is a good term but the general population don't understand the difference, so I just identify as vegan
Hi ya. I think most vegans have worn leather that they had previously owned. I no longer do but I’ve been vegan for nearly 9 years. You may decided that it doesn’t feel like you want to do that anymore and sell the items on or give them away, or you may use them until they’re worn out. That’s up to you. 👍
@@thediaryofnow Thank you for your reply. Selling the items would be profiting from animal cruelty so I'm going to keep using the shoes & belts I already owned until the end of their time. Thanks for the video
The whole "you were never vegan" idea is exactly why people consider veganism a religion or cult, and not just a life-style → the "you were never a vegan" take is the result of what is known as a "purity spiral". The more vegans that adopt this extreme mindset, the faster Veganism will disappear because it's such a turn-off. Purity spiraling destroys movements because it *_ALWAYS_* results in shrinking membership, and often erodes support from external, adjacent groups. Your're going to become more and more isolated with fewer and fewer people wanting to play with you.
@@thediaryofnow This is a big reason why the vegan movement has such high drop out rates. It's a good cause but it's purity spiraling into cult-like radicalism. You get to feel good. More animals suffer.
You look really good with the shaved head. I wish more women would do this! Do you wet shave it smooth? You have the right face and features for a shaved head. More videos please!!
I've been assaulted by a lot of people who I was just being nice to, who I might have been ok maybe doing something with someday, but they would push me and i would tell them I'm done please stop and they wouldn't, and I know a lot of it was just because I'm autistic, though I don't think it was masking because I don't mask very much. Also being trans makes it way more dangerous.
I’m so sorry to hear that. That’s awful. I’m sure being trans does make it worse too. I hope you’ve found a way to respond to these people now so that you’re Jo longer being taken advantage of.
Thanks for the video. On my end, I have barometric pressure migraines and was diagnosed with A rare vestibular disorder after being on a dinner cruise… I could barely walk my sense of balance was completely gone. It went away after two weeks. They called it mal de bebarquement syndrome. Thank goodness it never came back.
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment. That sounds really horrible. So glad it went after 2 weeks. It seems autistic people are more prone to vestibular disorders. Yet another thing I wish I’d known about 20 odd years ago!
I’ve recently had so many aha moments about the times in my life that I’ve gotten myself into dangerous situations because of my masking and interpersonal naivety. It’s been so confusing because of the gap between my ability to function as a professional (With clearly defined rules) It’s so much different than the social world. Now I know why I’ve made so many poor choices. This video hit the nail on the head. God bless you. I will be advocating for myself moving forward!!!!
I’m so glad you got something from this video. Thank you for watching and commenting. It’s so important to advocate for ourselves and to speak up so others don’t have to go through what we did. 🥰
I hadn't put two and two together until watching your video! I'm a high masking autistic woman that didn't find out until late 20s, and the prevalence of my strange experiences was so well known that friends would say that my life was like a TV show. I couldn't explain how or why I'd end up in such strange situations. Luckily, for the most part... there are some that were harmful... these situations were completely harmless, just weird. I still end up in the harmless situations from time to time, but now that I know (and am open about who I am/don't mask as much), I'm better at saying "nope" to offers that lead to the dangerous situations. It's also easier to make better decisions about who to become friends with when you're open about being autistic... lol, the awful people just stop talking to you or refuse to accept.
I didn’t realise it either until recently. It was a big penny dropping moment. I’m glad your experiences were mainly harmless. I think more needs to be said on this subject as it could be really dangerous. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. 🥰
I've been a quasi-vegetarian my whole life, meaning I only eat minimal amounts of meat, and even then, it's typically discounted because it's close to expiring. What really bothers me is the amount of meat that's discarded in our society; wasted and thrown away. It's terrible that we slaughter animals for their meat, only for their sacrifice to be treated so carelessly, with many not even aware of how horrible this practice is. It’s something I find deeply upsetting in our first world.
@@thediaryofnow Fastfood chains have significantly contributed to the abstraction of meat as a product in the last 50-60 years. Like chicken nuggets are a prime example of emotional disconnect.
Love the way you have fully embraced having a shaved head - it suits you so well. If you hadn't done it for charity do you think you would still have shaved your head at some point in your life? Fully agree with your sentiments about how low maintenance a shaved head is - it is so incredibly easy to maintain. Thanks for sharing your videos.
you’ve made me want to shave my head so much, i think im finally going to do it soon!! i want that liberating feeling and to be able to touch a smooth head😍thankyou for these videos it helps a lot
You look so beautiful! I hope you can convince more women to shave their heads like you. I have been looking for a girlfriend who loves really short hair and shaving it, but so far she's been impossible to find!
Thank you, I need to show your comment to my neighbour, a Buddhist monk who hasn't touched animals products since the 1930s. English is his fourth or fifth language, but I'm sure it will make him smile- if he has time to read it, busy as he is. I hope it's not too late so save his life.
Vegan for 9 years and it shows. The dark eye circles and wrinkly skin speak for itself. If this video on it’s own doesn’t scare you away, please, for your health, don’t do it. It’s a cult based on insane ethics. Poants don’t contain over 15 important micrutrients, B12, K2, retinol, EPA, DHA, creatine, taurine, carnitine, carnosine, HEME iron, bioavailable zinc to begin with. Don’t do it. It’s a stupid cult
half of the nutrients you mentioned are non-essential, anyway it's the mid 2020s and most of those micronutrients are readily available even without having to slaughter 80 billion land animals and a trillion fish a year.
I shave my head to 3mm every week, it feels great and is so hygienic! I once had a sensory meltdown (on a mushroom trip nonetheless :)) after not shaving for a month, and that experience really solidified how important it is for me. Since then, I’ve learned to focus on what works best for me, and not worry about others opinions. And by the way, you look absolutely stunning and natural with your shaved head, it’s all about shifting perspective.
thank you for saying this. I have so many strange experiences from my late teens / early 20s that I could never explain why they happened, why they happened to me, and why let them happen - including, at the time, not knowing that I had options, that I didn't have to please everyone, that I could just simply say No thanks to offers. 30 years later diagnosis helps to explain it all - and your vid here has nailed so many of these :-)
@@thediaryofnow Rosette is right, you know. Agriculture destroys the natural habitats (forests, grass, wetlands) that the animals need to survive. Not to mention all the tiny living creatures that live in the topsoil. Caring for the animals is commendable but, unfortunately, living on plants harm an extreme amount of animals :/
@@behemoth5344 I totally agree, grain fed meat is a travesty. Grass-fed is the way nature intended it. Better for the animals, better for human nutrition and better for the planet.
@@behemoth5344still it’s true that veganism cause the most harm. With true regenerative agriculture you would cause less harm possibile to animals and the world. If you truly are a vegan you would only nourish yourself with rigenerative pasture raised cattle. I was a vegan too in the past then I informed myself
Cold showers might also alleviate some of the effects of sleep deprivation, including stress reduction by lowering the Norepinephrine hormone. I have chronic sleep problems.
