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The world sucks. Jobs are alienating, third spaces are getting bulldozed or gentrified, everything is made addictive, and everyone has trouble connecting.
Hai flaura, I recently tagged you in one of my recent posts saying that you r one of my fav youtubers and it Wud be a pleasure to me if u Wud repost it and I Wud unflop and gain some subs!! Thx you<3
Thank you so much for watching! This is a particularly vulnerable one for me as family has been a difficult topic for me to broach. Appreciate your time and hope you would stop by & say hi just to make me feel less alone :)
Omgg flaura this is the best video in your channel for me bcus I related every inch and was struggling with this for many years and pressurising myself upon it, my mom had always been a golden and perfect child in everything and maybe the influence has passed on cus literally today I spent hours art journaling and critizing myself each second that I d be better or be doing smthing else or sme stuff like that I never like my grades down and each time I lost sme percentage from my last scoring I start burst out sobbing bcus I feel like I hv degraded and become lazy I critizing and wish how much my personality or my speech wud HV been better, thx you soo much for this video, this video makes me feel smthing my inner voice is shouting and giving me clues for smthingg, thx you soo much for making me motivated for who I am!!!
I see RU-vidrs always become friends with other RU-vidrs. It seems to be a good way for people to have a way to connect with like minded people. It's tough to form a community in person because people just hang out with people they already know or just are on their phones a lot so they don't go out. It's been like this for a while and not sure if it'll get better
I've been paralyzed for years now , just like that. There are so many ideas and dreams I wanna achieve but I'm right here sitting down doing nothing because I'm afraid of failing and everything what you've just said. I too will try to move and take action. I will try to verbalize or write down my feelings just like you did . I hope all of us overcome ourselves.
I think that sharing your thoughts could make ppl relate to you which is so sweet and make it feel like you are not the only one suffering from this so definitely keep going ♥
You described my situation to a T. I have been in a rut for THREE YEARS! I've had endless ideas about what to do with my life, yet I haven't even done ONE thing yet! Ofcourse I feel regret and shame for wasting YEARS of my life, just surviving and not living. I just recently started taking little actions, but nothing on my ideas list. I relate to being the gifted kid. I have high and perfectionist standards for myself. I should get it in the first try and if I don't, then something is wrong with me. I not good at it. Yes, I have been called smart and an artist from a very young age. I never learned how to learn. I just understood things and expected that to carry on in life. Exactly! I am completely impatient with myself. I actually get angry with myself and my competence. I feel like I'm not only letting myself down, but letting others down too, because I'm living a life that is 'beneath' me. I have paralyzing perfectionism. It's amazing how a stranger on the internet can verbalize my exact thoughts and feelings! It took me 3 years to realize, yet you understood it in a much shorter amount of time. I also believe in enjoying the journey, but I magically expect myself to be at the destination. I think that's a good strategy; to just attempt and be consistent at the attempt and focus less on the result - the result will come eventually. "I'm trying" and "I'm working on it" are beautiful things to say to ourselves. We acknowledge and appreciate the efforts of others, it's time to appreciate ourselves. Exactly! Being grateful for even just being able to do these things (no matter how imperfect)! Thank you so much for this video! You literally spoke my mind! Let's do this! We got this! 💕
Thank you so much for this message! I feel so seen :) you are not alone and the first step to growth is recognizing the problem/areas to improve on, and it sounds like you are taking great strides towards it. So proud of you!
26 your still in prime. i wish I was 26 again.. Take advantage of your youth and dont let it pass . I so wish to be 24 again with what I know today,.. I think you will be fine
this video brought me some extra catharsis to continue on this journey! :) Thank you for giving me the time and space to be vulnerable, hope you enjoyed!
hi flaura! sorry for not commenting on the last video, but your thoughts about loneliness are so relatable! the best cure i could find against loneliness is really to just know myself better and start enjoying my time by myself, as you said in the last part of the video! i dont think being lonely is bad, it gives you a chance to know yourself even better and thus enjoy your time alone! :)
As exciting as NYC can be, most days I spend indoors like this! Finding fulfilling silence can be hard, but in the moments when I can just look around and be in the moment, I truly truly relish it :)
I think maybe feeling a sense of belonging in a friendship is trying to connect with your childish ways when you're with each other. it's about having fun, about taking away all the restrictions we naturally place on ourselves when we grow up. It's about being vulnerable too. Of course, this won't work with everyone we know, but sometimes we find someone who awakens this energy of comfort, and perhaps it could be a possibility to make this feeling blossom.
Hi Rina! Thank you! It is refreshing to hear that people of different situations relate to this issue and that I am not alone :) If a relationship is something you desire, I really hope that and genuine friendships are in the cards for you in the near future!
Luved this deep talk abt your life and not just talking abt positive things but also emphasing on the negative factors of life is amazing! I luved the words and vacabulary you used for conveying your word is soo fab. I wud luv to watch more deeptalks like this, pls make a vid on how you and your husband met and i was wondering you grew very far from your parents cud u make a talk abt that to? i luved this video especially and your voice is very therapatic! I in middle school rn and i rlly luv to talk and care for my frnds but seeing they dont and wont put the sme effort i do is sad, so i cut sme frnds out but they reffer to me as problematic, i just wanna say wherever everyone is just find your happiness like this qoute i saw on pinterest: BE YOUR OWN TYPE OF ENERGY YOU WANNA ACCTRACT OR MAIN CHRACTER ENERGY!
Thank you for your piece of wisdom! And I'm glad you loved this video! I am starting a playlist called "up close & personal" where I will be sharing more of my thoughts and stories. And noted about your video suggestions! I am excited to be making more of these talks, but will probably work on them between other vlogs and videos. Because of the sensitive nature to some of these talks, I want to make sure I am approaching these topics in a thoughtful and productive way :)
I wud not think it has wisdom, cus i am younger than u and havent seen life yet😅, i wud luv to listen to that playlist and u r taking alot of care on conveying this in a right way, luv ur vidzz!
Loved this video, @Flauranotfauna. Similar story here - I’m a 25-year-old male. During COVID (2020), I graduated from university and drifted away from all my friends due to being locked down in Australia for 2 years. I was fortunate to have the most awesome best-friend girlfriend ever. But we’ve recently broken up, and I feel so empty. It feels like I had all my eggs in one basket, and now I’m disconnected from everyone. I’ve tried messaging people from my past with a ‘Heyy :) long time no talk,’ but it just feels so awkward, and our conversations don’t flow naturally. I do have social connections at football (I play three times a week for a club), but they are more situational friendships rather than deep interpersonal bonds. I’ve tried to put myself out there, but it feels like many people don’t really understand me beyond having a laugh. Outwardly, I’m pretty extroverted, but I’m also a bit awkward (aka ‘extrawkverted’), and I tend to overtalk about deep topics most people are not really that interested in. What I really appreciate about you is your introspection. You not only recognize a problem but also are able to peel back and hyper-analyze the layers of what led to this. I feel like we are alike in that we both like to ask ‘why’ things are the way they are, rather then taking things simply as given, which I think can be both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, you can hyper-analyze and problem-solve your way out of many issues, but on the other, when there’s still no clarity, it can be so anxiety-inducing. What I love about this video, in particular, is that you rarely paint yourself as a victim. You take personal responsibility and have almost created a series of action plans to improve your situation. Some fail, some might work, but you lose very little by trying. That’s really admirable. It’s a shame you live in NY and not here because I’d love to hang out haha. Honestly, watching your video was like a fever dream of what I would say if I were to make a RU-vid video on this topic, almost word for word. Regardless, I’ll leave my IG here - instagram.com/harrison.m.clark/. If you or anyone watching this video wants to connect, that would be awesome.
Thank you for opening up here, it was truly a very thoughtful response you have left here. Your courage and acceptance is commendable! I understand how isolating it can feel, and 2020 certainly did not help with the situation. While you may experience isolation and heartaches, it also leaves room for so many more great things to come. As you said, we lose nothing by trying, so I have made it an intention of mine to keep trying, and accept the state of improvement as the journey and destination in and of itself! So glad you found my channel, and I hope you stay a while :)
I'm 25 and i'm also really often lonely. But after few years you are addictive to be alone, it's dangerous. One you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore. Sure a relationship would be awsome but that's not the subject here. I'm talking only about friendships. Love your channel thumps up from me :)
Thank you! Being alone can truly be peaceful once the acceptance kicks in - I often have to remind myself that having connections with others is an important part of living and that my mental health will thank me later haha!
Try visiting a small (or big) business once every couple of days. Simple conversation and connections will ensue. I forget to do it and work in front of the computer for days at a time and it's so refreshing to spend a couple of minutes talking to another person about a hobby or interest that the business serves.
I just went to buy some vintage computers and met another person customer whose family had a store in the same little crafts mall. Do you collect anything? There must be some of those shops in each big city - I went to one in Tacoma, WA.
Thoughts about friendships and loneliness have been on my mind for quite a while...it has always been a bit or a struggle for me, but I am finding ways to resolve this by turning towards communities instead of just friends! What have your experiences been like? What are some ways to find communities who share the same core values?
