Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Therapist. I want to take the stigma out of talking about mental health, while helping those who can't afford the services of a therapist. Will aim to post weekly mental health educational videos that talk about many of the problems we all commonly face related to our mental health.
Hello just curious what website did you apply for the grant? I would love to apply for a grant myself. God blessed you and answered your prayers. Praise God!
You put out great quality content. Your video about private practice went viral.. maybe more videos about that kind of content might help grow your channel faster.
Thanks for the feedback! Another private practice video is definitely on my to-do list. It’s funny that you said it went viral, because it’s my only video that consistently gets 50+ views a day. It was a slow burn to getting 20k views.
Thank you so much for this video! Wonder if you have any advice on finding therapists attractive from the beginning? For example, in my case I shopped around looking for one (and specifically turned a contender down because they were too attractive and I worried it would affect my behaviour). I chose one after a Zoom call who seemed perfect, but was reverse catfished because in person when they opened the door I instantly found them so so attractive. They noticed I was holding back emotions in our sessions and I admitted my feelings and they handled it well... but I'm scared this is going to persist and I will have to leave them and start looking again (which I'm dreading). TDLR: it was crush at first sight with my therapist, help.
Thanks for this video! I can tell a lot of effort went into it. How might you respond to a person who has settled into nihilism and despair as a response to death anxiety? These seem to fall under the category of shirking responsibility for one's life, but I can understand the appeal and perverse intellectual comfort they offer. I remember for me, the line of reasoning went something like: faith is irrational, and nothing can be known for sure about life, death, and meaning "beyond the pale". Existentialism is an arbitrary overlay, which means nothing I do objectively "matters", nor do others' actions, nor do the ripples I send outward (since, by extension, all other lives are doomed to my conclusions, and the universe itself will tend towards eventual heat death). Therefore: I may as well do nothing. If I admit I'm driven by pleasure and pain, I'd rather avoid the momentary discomforts of growth and failure, even if that means robbing myself of the rewards on the other side, ironically leading to more discomfort and discontent/anxiety. Furthermore, since life is at times an objectively painful struggle for mere survival, in the absence of pleasure from other sources (depression), I may even feel inclined to end it. Nihilism and despair. Dark, but I think it's worth dissecting. I can't really sum up my own answer, other than by the "awakening experience" you so aptly described!
Finishing the rest of the video this morning. Youza funny brotha. I can diggit. Lets make it happen. I'm trying to make this happen too. Ill continue to support you. I made it all the way to the end.
Excellent video! Raw verbiage is sometimes best to wake people up. I had a "thing" with my female therapist. I'm a gay F. My therapist was a 2x divorced, 20 yrs older than me, female. We didnt sleep together. This was in the 90s and started after about 2.5 years into therapy. I knew her for 16 years. Therapy was 10 years off and on. Due to the videos you have posted, I'm finally able to see HOW this happened. My former therapist passed on in 2008 and I terminated therapy in 2006. It wasn't pretty. Anger, yelling at me on the phone and tense emails. She wasn't going to terminate despite me asking repeatedly in 2006. We had not ever discussed our "thing" in therapy. 😢 I came very close to filing a complaint with the licensing board for the State. I ceased contact while I thought about the ramifications filing a complaint could have. In late 2007, I was notified by a friend and a former client of hers that she was dying. We had 1 final call that didn't have anger or upset. We talked about life, how she felt peace about her eventual transition and many other subjects. I thanked her for her therapeutic role that had been so helpful in the past. I wouldn't trade that final call for anything. "Live your truth" she slways said. There were 2 obituaries. The first one published where she'd lived for nearly 30 yesrs acknowledged her companion of 15 years. The second, published in her conservative hometown, ommitted any reference to her companion. I had to laugh. Yes, she was indeed human.
I beautiful read about how all of us, especially therapist can be extremely flawed individuals that have yet to deal with our own trauma. So happy to hear that you seem like you were able to end things peacefully and got the conversation you needed to move. Sounds like a very complex situation. It was a joy reading your comment.
Interestingly, therapy, 1:1 social outings and the physical encounters seemed all very separate at the time. I received a letter this week dated on my birthday in 2007 - our last conversation date. She wrote a total of 5 letters to various people. These were not sent until last week, when they were found by her daughter. I believe she ran out of steam to address them and send them. Mine is 5 pages, front / back. She does apologize and takes responsibility, a few times. This has brought an ocean of tears and going back over our encounters, purely social interactions and therapy that did help, immensely. Truth be told, the social outings and the physical were mind blowingly awesome at the time, for both of us, not going to lie. How we stayed out of bed, I'll never know. I do miss the person she was, flaws and all, 16 yrs later. Discussing with my therapist in the next 2 weeks. It's been a rollercoaster and I need to process this letter on my own first. I truly hope and pray that this was the only time she violated important professional boundries. Thank you for your kind words and videos dealing with this important subject.
Found you on Threads! another 1300 days and you will be at making thousands to millions!! My daughter and I are in pursuit of the same and the subscriber journey is also tough lol it’s been rough! lol subscribing is free! so i have no issues subscribing! to the top you are headed! love and light 🎉 congrats
@@TheChocolateTherapist i’m glad i was able to do so! no problem!! if you have a kiddo or you don’t mind seeing me every so often.. feel free to subscribe at your leisure!! we all going ⬆️ ! lol
I'm one of your brand stalkers! I don't get to watch every video you upload, but I do watch 95% of them. Just to let you know we're out here, even if it doesn't seem like it! Thanks for sharing the nitty gritty, and keep going. :)
I can't thank you enough for all the effort you put into making this amazing video. I have suffered from death anxiety for a while, triggered by the death of loved ones and my 30th birthday. Life felt meaningless, scary, and at the same time too short. I was overwhelmed by the pandemic and other terrible news around the world. I feel regret about things I've done, but also things I haven't done. I want to leave this world thinking, "Hell yeah, that was a good life." I have always been a 'scientific' person, but I can't help but realize spirituality is the key to navigating our own lives. Thank you very much. Greetings from Argentina.
I live for these kind of comments. Thanks for taking the time to tell me this! Your point hit the nail on the head on why I made this video, help people gain the courage to live a life that leaves no regrets!
I thought it would be weird at first, but now it’s my new normal. I’m. 6’2 black man tho, I can see how this would be weird for a woman. My office is set up in a way where it makes sense as soon as you walk in so a lot of my clients don’t question it. It’s also separate from my living quarters. Out of the 100s of clients I’ve seen, there was only one person that had a problem with it, but that was due to past trauma from gang violence.
I love that you mention your prayer sessions. Ive never been a religious man but have always been spiritual. Religious trauma led me to be bitter and reject anything christian. It was like that for a while. Almost finished my psych degree back in 2014, i was so passionate about it i was sure i would make a good therapist but life happened, things got tough and that passion died for a while. But things have changed in the last two years. My difficult battles in life have gotten me close to Jesus. I started praying to Jesus ,never asked for anything i would just start saying his name and an overwhelming peace would put me right to sleep. One night i just asked him to guide me and help me do something good in this world. And guess what man, everything fell right into place! A clear path has been set! Im currently back in school and will be finishing my degree in may. Im taking this all the way to my license. All those obstacles have been removed and i have all the tools to get it done! I believe god protects his soldiers and my faith has never been stonger
Amen! This was such a beautiful read thanks for sharing. I’ve had a similar experience in my walk of building a relationship with God. It’s a beautiful thing, and amazing boost to our faith. Welcome to the team of mental health providers, can’t wait for you to build your own practice.
Great video! Very helpful, especially when it come to knowing your own value when it comes to setting your price. It may have been long but your relaxed and humorous approach made it hard to notice.
i can’t even begin to describe how helpful this video has been. I am 16 and have been struggling with death anxiety for 2 years. It’s mostly the third fear like you said, but videos like this help me realize it’s going to be ok. Thank you so much for your professionalism and help.
@@bazoozoosakzoozoo7855 You're anxiety is trying to tell you something. It sucks, but you have to try and listen to it. It's always been my belief that people who struggle with death anxiety may be unhappy with a current aspect of how they are living their life, and our anxiety is communicating a change needs to be made. Anxiety will only lower when the source has been addressed. I'm making a bunch of assumptions that may not apply to you, but if I was your therapist this would be my first line of inquiry. Hope this helps
“Life is meant to be experienced. Put yourself out there. Do things you’ve never done. Live a life where at the end you will have no regrets.” "The only people who fear death are the ones with regret.” Very informative and engaging as always ✨
This video really helped so much I'm watching this on a late night wanting to know more about death & help myself to sleep but I just ended up feeling offended but it has actually help & made me notice how boring my life really is but I have a lot of good stuff as well like my camera I got recently that's made me like nature & photography so I would say I enjoy my life but I'm not actually a boring person I just don't have many options or I just generally can't do it & I'm going through a hard time in life & everyone has that it's normal I'm not a price of shit I love living that's why I'm scared of death but when I can take opportunitys I take them I'm an ama- wait I see what you have done there you are brilliant thank you chocolate therapist!
I loved reading your comment. Glad you were able to get pass the initial offense, and were able to take something away from the video. Glad your getting a lot out of life, and sorry you’re going through a hard time right now 🫶
Heidegger is pretty deep for RU-vid here, Chocolate. Together, Freud and Heidegger defined the Pleasure Principle of the Id. Perhaps the outgrowth of an existential crisis brought on by a sense of isolation and loneliness.
Was introduced to him by Irvin Yalom, when struggling with death anxiety (my own existential crisis). A lot of old philosophers blow my mind with how helpful their wisdom is, and how it still applies even after 100s of years since they passed.
Listen I give appreciation to your video and all the hard work that you put into making this video not only did you bring humour you was real didn’t try and make me feel like I’m never gonna die. You were like listen you are gonna die but listen up really gives me a peaceful perspective of life, I still feel like I have this death anxiety but watching your video definitely help me to want to live a life that I truly would want to live again everyone’s got their own story and I’ve got mine I suffer with mental health really bad I am I just feel like I’m never gonna be loved because everyone’s hurt me and many other things have happened recently. Anxiety has been creeping up this year. I never realised there was such a thing called death anxiety until I started to look into it. I thought I was the only person thinking about dying every second and the fear of what’s gonna happen how I’m going to feel i’m gonna be in pain will I remember my life here how my kids are gonna cope even talking about it right now is giving me anxiety but watching your video is helping me to accept an overtime. Hopefully I will just be liberated in life and appreciation and gratitude so when you do die you will be in peace you will be ready. You want to move on I’m definitely gonna do some research. And trying to have more of a positive mindframe my life and be more in the moment I have subscribed you are amazing teacher peace love to you and your family and everybody on and off this platform. I wish them the greatest life and the most peaceful of death. A retreat for people that suffer with death anxiety where we we all come together to learn and accept the process would be amazing and I would definitely be there in a flash with my kids lol 💯❤️🇯🇲🇬🇧👊🏾
Thank you so much for the acknowledgement of the hard work I put into this video, was my life's work to this point. I loved reading your comment. Thank you for all the positive your sent. It takes time but your death anxiety will get better with time. Thanks for subscribing and welcome to the family!
the scariest thing for me about death is the afterlife, and i wanna know if anyone here thinks about it as much as me I think the scariest thing about death is how its both comforting and terrifying. There are tons of outcomes for what happens when you die, and idk what to believe. Either way, all options are terrifying because of how little there is to know. I believe in God, I want to go to heaven. But I dont want to be sapient in heaven at all. (This goes for any afterlife similar to heaven) If you have to exist for eternity in heaven knowing you will never end is terrifying to me. Sometimes I feel like im going against God when I think of this. Then theres reincarnation which scares me more than it comforts me. You're in an eternal cycle where you experience temporary conscience; after that, you disappear for some time then come back, forgetting your past life. Its freaky cuz this life of mine is the last time I'll experience it in *this* way. Now nothingness. It's like sleeping- except you dont dream, apparently. In a way, this would be the best ending. But the thought of never thinking again or feeling is horrifying to me. I won't be able to love, or hyperfixate on the things I love, yet at the same, wont need to suffer or hate anymore. Its hard getting out of this cycle because of how many possibilities, pros, and cons there are 😭 i really hope someone heres got the same thoughts as me. Sorry for rambling
The hardest part of it is consistently keeping up with said tasks and not saying "I'll do it tomorrow" because tomorrow never gets here. Great video as always ✨
I use my iPhone for every shot in this video I was using my iPhone 13. But I recently upgraded to an iPhone 15 which has been amazing. As for lights I’ll have to get all that information and get back to you. Thanks for thanking interest and I appreciate the compliments.
Im 18 and im so scared of dying im honestly convinced im gonna die early, and yes i do struggle with depression and i have made attempts but thankfully chickened out, but now i wake up in the middle of the night panicking my chest tight thinking "i dont wanna die please" i cant do this shit ive been like this for so long and im so tired of being scared. But im happy i found your video bc im too scared to say my fears to anyone out loud.
@@Shivam_cam good to know I’m not the only one, if this sounds sarcastic please know I am not being sarcastic I’m genuinely happy I’m not alone with this fear.
@@bucket5938 In this journey of anxiety and fear of death , I have found many teenagers who are in same problem. So definitely we are not alone , at least this comforts me for 5-6 hours
