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Good tool for all of us who are looking to change our self talk. Will try as it seems simple and I think more real and practice instead of being perfect. Thanks for your good work.
no like I dont get it what if someone is worthless and lack the confidence and just nt good at anything all of them is actually true with proves then how I make myself believe this lie that its not when its actually there
Try and remember a past memory of yourself at a time where you were successful and attempt to rebuild that image of yourself. Also don't ever say things like "Not good at anything" because that is assuming the worst in you, the truth is even if you may feel like you are physically incapable of achieving something due to your lack of mental clarity, it doesn't matter how "skilled" you are at something. Just be a human being, if you are somebody who can show respect to others and is often obedient, then reflect on that and be proud of yourself. Stop with the self criticism and instead focus on reinforcing a positive image of yourself through memory and building yourself back up for tomorrow.
Something that helped me silence the inner critic was listening to motivational speakers like Eric Thomas and Les Brown (lots of videos on YT). I listened to them multiple times a day, when I woke up or before bed etc. So, I essentially brainwashed myself. However, what I heard in those videos eventually helped my thinking and quieted my inner critic. Hope this helps.
I taught myself tat my taughts aren't the same taughts that utter people have. Can't take this shit serious, when I'm too busy tearing down utters. I'm going to hell, I know.
Just a tip for others with this problem: I couldn't see the cognitive distortions myself, so I asked Chat GPT, and it was actually so helpful. It used all of those mentioned in the video.
Im trying to use the tools and put them in the right place to help my children with aitism build up his self esteem. I need to work on balance giving to more attention on the good victories and less attention to the guilt.
Struggling with a girlfriend who has guy friends. Tells me they are just friends and there is nothing there or anything to worry about. It makes me feel so inadequate and not enough though. Any suggestions?
There is no friendship between woman and men. For sure they are waiting when she gonna be single to shot their shot. To be honest for you this situation is lose-lose. If you gonna say her that you dont want that she have male friends she gonna think that you are insecure or something. If you let it be they gonna dig under your relationship
Many years I suffered, lots of videos about many things, but this one is the one I was searching for and needed. Lost these techniques a long time ago, now I feel already cured.
CBT has a huge assumption that doesn’t hold up. They claim thoughts create emotions. That can happen sure. But also emotions create thoughts. It’s so obvious, but not to CBT. It also really likes to downplay the value of emotions as a form of communication. Hence they are a distortion. The therapists I’ve had who followed CBT were extremely robotic, uncaring, incurious and now I look back and feel bad for them. Their jobs probably suck if what you’re trying to do can be taught in a worksheet.
If you are having trouble with 'rational thoughts' you can ask yourself 'what would say to a friend or family member"? What advice would you give to someone that wasn't you?
