The most powerful phrase to maintain deliberate practice is, what I say to myself, "Be at the edge of your ability". You have to give your very best at every attempt, and that's key ingredient. The moment you start slipping, you start throwing. You must always be at your hundo💯 and then start fixing what you consider mistake/best. Find what's your best thing is at a certain thing.
Really confusing video. You say at the beginning that detachment does not mean the absence of emotions, but then you go on to explain how it means exactly that.
Nope that’s not what enlightenment is. Whatever book you wrote is a guy who didn’t know what enlightenment is. Because an enlightened individual is immortal. Death is the great mistake. You escape samsara by living. Die and you reincarnate
He sounds like a Dutch terminator that doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear. And it absolutely will not stop... ever, until you are dead serious about reading this book.
Want to detach from someone? Simple : " avoid to ask" How are you or how are you doing ". When we make questions like this paradoxically we are courious about others life and get involved in their lives. I don't mean that you must to be rude. Sometimes we even compare ourselves depending on their answers. Showing feelings will not help and if they really need help they will ask you and for sure you can act. Just don't get courious about others people life if you are not genuinely interested in helping them. When we do this we are " dancing around them or dancing alone.
The thing is that this world is not designed in the way you might "want" or how we "think" it "should" be - it just is the way it is. And therefore to make yourself "think/believe" it to be this good/fair place is just "fooling" yourself, because the picture you are seeing through those rose-tinted glasses will just not materialise in reality. Also when you are seeing certain people as bad/evil then this is usually just what they are (go with the gut feeling). No good thinking up all kinds of "excuses" for them because this will not "change" what they are, and also you will be leaving the door wide open for them to move in and make you their victim. Also if you have people who are enemies then no amount of thinking of them as friends will "change" that. Most enemies are malicious/malevelent and hell-bent on working against you. It is "their" minds that need "changing/altering" not yours. I discovered this a very long time ago. It is always best and safer to see things, situations, people etc as they "really/actually" are - and then work out the best way to deal with them. For one example, you can't make "good" of a rattlesnake by feeding it honey. It will still strike out at you and bite and poison you - because this is simply how it is designed and hardwired. I rest my case.
Detachment is really a good perspective when it comes to relationships. It is not about having open relationships but simply setting healthy boundaries and learning to walk-away without getting angry or frustrated because your partner couldn't respect your boundaries, as an individual that advocates for healthy and monogamous relationships. Detachment is key to keep a girl in love with your forever and chasing you, it really is powerful stuff!
Question: how can one detach without convincing? Example: Person 'A' experiences a trigger, then he attaches 'reasons' to justify an incorrect action (bad habit) Solution 1: he can defuse/detach (in order to remove the meaning of the reason). -> here he convinces himself that there is no meaning Solution 2: he can defuse/detach (in order to remove the meaning of the reason). -> here he doesn't convince himself but is this possible?
You could just look at your reaction from a third person. Than you would not have to attack your reason you would just look at your reasoning and reaction as you would if somebody else would do it. Although it's probably more effective approach if you also see how your reasoning is flawed, all reasons are mere interpretation. Each situation can be interpreted differently.
@@michaels-meditations Thank you. To re-phrase my question: SITUATION: Convinced = 'X' detaching = Whenever trigger, I tell myself: "I will do [bad habit] DOESN'T MEAN I choose it" Trigger + detaching = X (no, I won't do [bad habit] //aka I convinced myself) PROBLEM: Currently I'm doing this formula: Trigger + detaching = X (yes) //this means I did not convince myself so I keep thinking that something bad will happen WHILE AT THE SAME TIME it is detached Question: How exactly did I reach X = yes (where I succeeded in detaching without convincing myself)? (the answer I experienced was not 'look in the third person perspective')
@@michaels-meditations I apply my 'detaching' on my thought-emotion-body sensation. To answer your question: yes, the emotion is the same when I detach with and without convincing. I'll try to interpret it. I have a love and hate relationship with my incorrect habit because I was raised in such a way that it's okay to have this incorrect habit. Whenever a trigger happens, I convince myself (subconsciously) that this incorrect habit will happen. Now, in order to detach/defuse my incorrect thought "I will do this [bad habit]" I tell myself: "but this doesn't mean I will actually do this [bad habit]". Now, comes the important part, that last sentence could be where I get convinced (aka my thought changes from negative to positive). Since of course this is not the correct way of detaching, what I want is to detach in the same way but without convincing (so without changing my perspective) where the incorrect thought is kept in my mind without seeing the 'link/connection/meaning' with the incorrect thought. Question: how can I reach this exactly? What should I do to be able to detach without convincing myself?
@@AgarioSplitrunner well the thought you have stems from the trigger, I don't see how you can just forget the connection. Why don't you work on inquiry into why the though springs up and what other thoughts would be more beneficial? Why hold on to thoughts that are not serving you?
Only in the initial phase of learning, it flattens out the longer you practice a skill and eventually it closes the gap. Except for pure physical traits ofcourse. Otherwise link a scientific journal I'll like to read it :)
@@michaels-meditations Well, let's take top 1 chess player, Magnus Carlsen. He remembers thousands of games. Basically no one can do that even spending a lifetime training, and training just for this, not even to be good at chess. He clearly has a brain that fits well with chess. It's a great exception, but it happens. At 5 years old, he already had an incredible memory.
This is correct. Good intuition relies on being in a pretty predictable environment with variables that you recognize and have seen move 'time and time' again. Then you're able to get hunches and nudges to make decisions that often turn out right. I think it's almost like getting in sync or in flow with your environment (whether that be a digital or physical environment or a combination of both).
This video is incredible. I haven't ever seen this much effort put into a book summary. Amazing animations, transitions, and summary. There wasn't a second in this video in which I wasn't completely engaged. I'm sad to see you have not been active. I hope these brilliant skills are being used elsewhere!
