My came from not being to rely on my mother, father, all the foster mothers I had, social workers etc. I was essentially unseen, unnoticed, and uncared for. I was told I was crazy if I shared my emotions, I was criticized when I expressed myself, I was attacked if I defended myself, I was blackmailed, bullied by other girls who would try to gang up on me and start fights with me. I just became hyperindependent. Thank God I did because I wouldn't of been as successful as I am now. People only did things for me only because they wanted something from me or did nothing for me at all. When I needed people the most, that's when I was criticized, Abandoned, ridicule.
I’m sorry I’m just seeing this! And I’m so sorry you went through that. Those are all really traumatic experiences you didn’t deserve to go through, and I can tell you’re extremely strong by the way you’re talking about it now. Thank you so much for sharing your story so others can see that there is a way to make the most of even the worst situations. I hope the success you’ve shared you have only continues to grow and positively impact your life and others! ♥️
I was seeing a man who didn’t want to share his problems and wanted to do most things by himself and he wanted to be alone mostly. This was heartbreaking for me because I would have liked to see him at least 2-3 a week for a couple of hours but he made me feel I was being too needy. Even texting us each other every morning & night….just to say GM & GN was at times too much for him. All while him telling me how much he loved me. I realized even though he was financially successful he was not emotionally successful because his parents seemed to be cold and uncaring.
Thank you so much for boldly sharing this! That does sound really heartbreaking and I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. I can't even imagine how tough that would be to experience! It's so hard when someone's words and actions don't line up and when they're so unwilling to engage in a healthy relationship. It sounds like you were the most loving partner to them and I'm sorry you were treated in that way! It seems like a really wise and accurate conclusion you came to that even though he was financially successful, he hadn't worked through his childhood trauma in order to be an emotionally successful, truly loving boyfriend to you. I hope you know you deserve nothing but genuine love for the incredible person you are, open communication and emotional support and connection from your partner, and someone willing to do the work on themselves to heal because you're so worth it! I truly wish you the best of luck in this and just know I can see your kindness and wisdom come through your words! ♥
