Clinical Psychologist -Award-Winning Author - International Speaker - Expert Consultant
With more than 30 years’ experience, Dr. Sharon Saline is a top expert on ADHD, anxiety, learning differences, mental health challenges and their impact on school and family dynamics. A sibling of a child who wrestled with untreated ADHD, combined with decades of academic excellence and clinical experience, assists her in guiding families as they navigate from the confusing maze of diagnoses and conflict to successful interventions and connections. Dr. Sharon funnels this expertise into her new book, What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life. Heralded as an invaluable resource, her book is the recipient of two highly-acclaimed awards: Best Book Awards winner by American Book Fest and the Gold Medal from Moms’ Choice Awards.
Mam, I dont know what I am going through, but I find it very difficult to remember the things which I learn previously (even though I revised multiple times) and my working memory is very much reduced , I cant solve complex maths and computer programs . During solving complex programs , I find it difficult to keep all things which I thought previously ( seconds ago) in my head to solve the problem. Even though I dedicate so much of time in studying , I could not match with my friends scores ( who score more than me by putting lesser effort than me ) and this makes more depressed and tired . Currently I have very bad lifestyle ( junk food, no exercise, no proper sleep) , but I have already tried following these steps and ended up in no results . I am a undergrad student , I need to resolve this to get placed . I need to know the exact reasons and disorder behind this and exact solutions to get back my old brain . This change happened to me before 5 years , currently I am 22 years old . During my school time , my brain was normal and properly functioning. I don’t know what exactly caused this change. Please help me in this , I am really hopeless here
I am sorry that you are feeling so hopeless. Does your school offer any support services? it seems like you need more assistance than you are receiving. I would also recommend making some changes to your lifestyle to eat healthier, move your body and get the rest you need. Change takes time and patience. Pick one of two things to focus on and start there. Good luck!
I don't know how this has so few "likes"! I took multiple pages of notes on this and plan on clipping portions to send to various people. It helps both me with my fairly new diagnosis of ADHD and has inspired me to help my son newly diagnosed with it as well. Great piece and I will be subscribing and/or following for sure.
this video is great but hard to listen to. there is another commercial every minute and a half. so those of us that try to listen while working, have to stop working way too often to skip the commercials. youtube will continue playing more commercials if we don’t skip. do what you want with this info, but i thought it would be good to share
What are your thoughts on neurofeedback being used to address ADHD symptoms? This was recommended to me recently after being dx with Inattentive subtype, but I'm struggling to find much research on it though for effectiveness.
Some people have found it incredibly helpful while others haven't. If you can't or don't want to take medication, it could be worth a try. The research on neurofeedback seem to be mixed but I'm not an expert on this technique.
Thanks for the great presentation on ADHD and anxiety! I'm happy to have found your work and look forward to reading your book. I just started following you on LinkedIn too.
I often feel like I don't have any spoons left to socialise, or to concentrate on/engage with what friends are saying or want to talk about. I never hear this being spoken about, so maybe it's not an adhd thing, maybe it's a me thing 🤔 😳
No I think many people with ADHD are so overwhelmed by dealing with the demands of daily living that there's nothing left for socializing. You are not alone.
I have ADHD and I often feel anxiety because my brain can’t triage what thing that needs doing is most important and what things don’t have to be done right this minute and it feels like everything regardless of how important it is needs to be done right this minute so the more things there are the more overwhelmed I feeland when people tell me that it doesn’t have to be done right this minute and we’re not doing anything at all even though stuff needs doing regardless of how prioritized it should be it causes me incredible anxiety
Thanks for sharing. This is a common problem for people with ADHD. I think this anxiety comes from the difficulty of deciding what's urgent (time related) and what's important (value related). I find that making a chart with tasks in one column, time to work on it in another and due dates in a third helps my clients (and myself) reduce this anxiety.
One small thing I found that helps with not forgetting stuff is grouping activites, for example a few years ago I grouped putting deodorant on with putting socks on in my morning routine, I can't leave the house without socks, so I also won't leave the house without deodorant
It can help to start with easier tasks that have something about them that you like to do or like enough to do. Break them down and remember that no size is too small.
Thank you. And thank you for speaking slowly and calmly- I find information presented with animated voices very hard to listen to and take in the information.
Thank you for taking the time to provide support and advice for us women with adhd.❤ I grew up being told I was capable and so smart and couldn’t have adhd. By everyone, family, friends, even teachers and school counselors. Despite struggling with keeping up with assignments and focusing in classes. So resources like this are so affirming and needed. I am 27 just diagnosed and I feel like I know nothing on how to help myself. However resources like this, free, supportive, and informative are truly helping not only in managing my adhd but also my internalized shame, and guilt. Thank you so much!❤
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are not alone! Check out more resources for women like you on my website www.drsharonsaline.com and additudemag.com. Best, Dr. Sharon
And by the time I work through the work list, I feel energized enough to cycle through again and spend another five minutes on each category. Making the goal this small helps me feel like I accomplished something, rather than feeling overwhelmed. Finishing tasks is such a struggle, especially with young ones wanting my attention.❤
I would also love tips on mysophonia. My daughter has special needs, and when she has a bad day, she makes a particular sound.....and suddenly, I can't think!
For cleaning, I've found 5 minute timers help me get around to everything....tidying a room, starting laundry, unloading or reloading the dishwasher, taking out trash. Even if 5 minutes doesnt take care of the entire mess, it is much better than me hyper focusing on sanitizing my kitchen cabinets!😂
@@DrSharonSaline Great advice & reminders. I'm also trying blatant rewards vs getting things done I don't want to do. So far it's working, LOL. Who knew?!! 😂
I got diagnosed with adhd and general anxiety disorder. On my first day of concerta my anxiety vanished! I was so used to living with anxiety i just axcepted it as part od my life.. that first day was so eye opening. So grateful to go through a day without anxiety and actually habe high self esteem
Great topic- I have never had any friends. I have ADHD and was the last of 6 kids. My mom and my family always hated me. I have never been connected to. I am a slave as a career. Alone. no family or anything else. Its pathetic. I am not trying any longer.
I am saddened to hear this Jane. I bet that you have a lot to offer others and the world. Maybe start by joining a group where the stakes are lower? Good luck!
Mindfulness is the awareness of yourself--thoughts, feelings and actions--without judgment and with compassionate acceptance. You notice what's happening and own it without self-criticism.
Guys, Just like many ADHD'ers have created systems using apps like Notion, I'm using a mind-map system and it's working great. I can track, monitor and complete tasks which I plan for the week based on my energy levels. Would love to show it to anyone interested.
Why I'd have a problem with initiaton? When I'm not planned of a task in advance. It seems too complicated. It generates repelling emotions. My solution: I have created a task routine of say 15 mins which works for you which includes music, timer, a dice game etc. I just follow it and the task gets started and once it's started, I gain momentum
I love this video, but it took me 4 tries to finish. (Some of us have a hard time watching long videos without taking breaks.) I look forward to watching more. Please consider breaking some up into shorter segments. Thanks
Many of my friends and people wrongfully claim i'm creative and a good writer. While in reality i'm neither. All i can do is to copy the ideas of other people and my mind refuse to come up with anything of its own.
Ironically, I’m watching this only a few minutes after I broke down into hyperventilating and crying because I got frustrated and overwhelmed while watching how-to videos about starting a RU-vid channel and ruminating about how many things I need to do to get my life in order and achieve my goals. I wish there was medication to help me achieve the necessary clarity and courage to stop being so inhibited in life but I suspect that’s self-deceptive thinking (focusing on the outcome vs. the longterm process and having a psychological dependence on substances) If by chance you see this comment and have any thoughts on medication options for someone that suspects they have inattentive ADHD combined with social anxiety disorder, I’m all ears! I’m looking for a psychiatrist near me but I even get overwhelmed with that process and usually back out.
I think that more you can break things down into small, doable parts, the higher the chance of getting started and feeling a sense of progress. Dr. William Dodson reports positive results with nonstimulants like guanfacine and clonidine.
Came here after watching your video on procrastination/avoidance and ADHD. I was starting to get stressed due to a busy season of the work year and noticing those mental triggers that cause me to worry and hesitate about pressing tasks. Caught myself in those negative mental scripts, so I'm really glad to have come across these videos.
I'm not diagnosed with adhd but i do interupt ppl alot and overtalk. I try listening in conversation for awhile but i feel anxious and worried. Usually i lose my train of thought and get bored. Another thing is i overtalk and ppl feel overwhelmed, annoyed and like im full of myself. Personally i think im hyperactive.. Anyways hearing this video is very helpful. I'm considering seeking treatment.
Thank you for sharing. I think a lot of people worry during conversations about saying the 'right' thing or oversharing. I'm glad that you are considering seeking help. Good luck!
I'm 43 and following an event late last year whilst studying for a course it hit home that a lot of my struggles may be because of ADHD. I am now seeking a diagnosis. Meanwhile, I am doing my best to continue my full time job which involves a lot of good executive functioning 😵💫 I've been through a lot of youtube videos but hands down this video is the best I've found. It articulates whats going on and why, and most importantly what to practically do. Susan you've helped me so much. I cant wait to explore more of your content. 😊
