I have decided to set up this channel in order to help share my experiences of living under the mist of social anxiety and depression, the two tend to come as a pair. In sharing my experiences with you I hope it at least offers some comfort in showing that you are not alone in living with this condition.
Hope youre doing better now bro and that you have purpose and hope in life! I have anxiety and depression and i could never work cause of it! Im 35 now i feel so cast away and lost im so desperate and hopeless! I also have the feeling my Psychiatrist doesn’t get it and i do t know what im expecting either? A hug? Lol im just gonna continue in hopes it will somehow work out.
I am 32 unemployed since 2017. It been over 3 years I lost my job. But I still hope to get my engineering job. In these years I also attend mechanical diploma. Don't lose hope bro. You are on your path.
I am 30. Unemployed since 4 years. I am deeply depressed. Rarely leaving house. Unable to concentrate on anything. Living on small hope of getting my life back.
Right now my life... 1.depressed 2.unemployed due to SOCIAL anxiety. 3.addicted to masturbat* due to depression caused by SOCIAL anxiety.. 4..live with joint family they always scolds me for being UNEMPLOYED... 5.depend on my mother money continously watch this type of video to comfort myself but my family thinks am wasting my life on phone. 6.started RU-vid channel results utterly failed. 9.friendzooned by girl who I shared my deepest emotions. She doesn't tak to me after I proposed.. 10: healthy issue:puberphonia I cant talk loud this is the main reason I developed SOCIAL anxiety from highshcool. I never taked any drugs,never touched any alcohol not cheated anyone in my entire fuc*ing life.......still. Sorry for my bad English
Hello Danny. Great to catch up on your videos over the last year. Please remember that regular interactions with people are an essential support, whether these are with friends, colleagues or support staff at a drop-in centre. We all need to be face-to-face with other humans on a regular basis, otherwise there's a risk that our perceptions and evaluations will get skewed. I realise you recorded this in Vancouver, so I hope you have folk there to chat with in real time whom you can trust and relate to. Best wishes, and looking forward to your next update.
Hey, thank you for taking the time to watch some of my videos and leaving a comment. I appreciate the kind words. I completely agree that regular interactions with people are so important. I do my best to maintain a healthy level of this, which can be a huge effort at times. Since recording this video I have moved back to Dublin and started work as Vancouver was not working out for me. I am much happier in Ireland. I will post a new update soon,....
Great news that you are happy with your return to Ireland and have found work again. Well done for having the courage to get out into the World and explore! Your next post will be very interesting.
Excellent advice and to the point. Reminding myself that I am not my thoughts and just being aware of them, has helped me a great deal with negative thinking. Many thanks.
Hey man, thank you for watching the video and taking the time to leave a comment. Oh that is a good tip, I will have to start making use of "I am not my thoughts". Thanks a million
Thank you for watching the video and taking the time to leave a comment. It is comforting to know that other people are going through the same challenges in life. Knowing we are not suffering alone makes things a little better.
My girlfriend is suffering with anxiety, depression and has been unemployed for a while. I am working full time and we are renting privately and it's getting tougher day by day...We live in the UK any advise you can give us please?
Hi Jean, thank you for reaching out. I am not a professional, but I can relate to your girlfriends situation. I will let you know the things that help me put a more positive spin on things. If needs be you could make an appointment to discuss the situation with a GP . You could also look up the full range of services available in your country online and see what would work best. I think the most important thing to do in order to stop drowning in these feelings is to keep busy, focus your mind on other things like reading, listening to podcasts, exercise etc I think any form of exercise (even going for a walk) does help to clear your head and bring about a feel good factor. Finding something you are passionate about and spending time focusing on that is another important thing to do, it helps calm the restless soul. There are numerous videos on RU-vid that deal with these topics and I find that watching them can indeed offer some comfort.(even if it is just knowing that you are not alone in how you are feeling). I am not sure if I have helped to answer your questions, If you need any more help or suggestions I am more than happy to help.
I read many good reviews on the internet about how Atoractove Secrets can assist you completely cure your anxiety. Has anybody tested out this popular social anxiety method?
Hi Peter, I moved to Vancouver in February, as I got a 2 year working Visa. I had heard good things so I decided to move over and give it a go, try my luck over here. It is an amazing place, I just thought finding good work would be easier. I am still trying to find something,so fingers crossed. I definitely did not realise how expensive it was over here.
Hi Brianna, How are you? Thank you for watching the video and taking the time to comment. I thought I replied to your comment already but it would seem not. It is hope that keeps us moving forward as we experience challenges in life. I hope you are doing well....
Whatever you are thinking of doing , DON'T. I know too well that life is tough and in no way fair, it is a struggle for everyone in different ways. My advice to you is channel this into something positive, find your passion and focus on that, do something you love, in doing this you will transform your life. I have been at the bottom of the barrel and I know how dark it is down their but I promise you that if you listen to your heart you will find light. This light is your passion.
@@themistofsocialanxietyandd3008 I am unimployed for a very long time I got herniated discs I am in pain most of the time I am not a graduate person because I had to support my parents back then so I leaved my education and I got acne no matter what I do it comes back time to time I can't even look at my own face right now I don't have any savings left stuck in a very difficult situation but thank you for replying I know you can understand the feeling.
I'm 24, dropped out from college, jobless, depressed. I basically live inside my room whole day. I'm from india, mental healthcare is crap. Im totally ducked up. I don't know what to do
Hi Jijo I'm sorry you are having a hard time in life and hope your life improves soon. Hang on in there as you will find your way. I got let go from my job of three years last week which is cap but I never liked it so maybe it's a blessing so I can move on to greater things. As I write this I am sitying on a beach with my dog which is so much better than a crappy office. Take care and stay positive
That is really splendid. The art work is very cool. Great to see you've set your plans and ideas down to provide inspiration and direction, this year and beyond. Best wishes with all of this, please keep us posted on progress. Would you consider making a video on the things that lift your mood, as well as the things you tend to avoid because they aren't good for your mental health..?
Thanks for watching the video and taking the time to leave some feedback. It is always motivational to know people are watching my content.Thats a great idea for my next video, I will indeed make it on the topic of things that personaly work for lifting my mood as well as things that i avoid due to their negative impact on my mental health. Thank you for suggesting the great topic, I will get that video created soon, Thanks brother...
here's a few tips to try Find the reasons why you are shy - the first step in solving an issue is understanding why you have it. Be at ease about yourself - this makes it less difficult Just do it - you will feel better by taking action - especially by doing activities that stretch your limits. (I discovered these and more ideas on Martos Magic Method site )
Hi Lia Thank you for the positive words and feedback, it is always nice to hear when you are doinbg something right. Im happy to hear you have decided to subscribe, I will do the same back.....Have a great day
I did gaming channrl now started up such big step for me as how attaction on u more and ppl hear everything u say .. Ppl watch u i throught gpod way to improve conifdents to change my mindset too. Is challege as i will over think about it after tho after frinshing video not easy
Hey brother how is the gaming channel going. I think having a RU-vid channel is an excellent way of working on yourself and communicating to a large audience. I defiantly gain alot from it.
great video thank you for Shari g I have anxiety and can totally relate to this.. I just subbed plz check out my channel and sub to follow each other's journey
Hey, Thank you for the kind words, checking out the vid and subscribing. I am glad you can relate to the channel. I will of course follow you back. I look forward to checking out your content.
InfoGodess 101 Thank you for watching the video and extra thanks for following my channel. I appreciate the feedback and I will of course follow you back.
I'm struggling right now with unemployment.I know that I have a lot of bad habits, however I've had my fair share of mental health issues and addiction issues. (9 months clean&sober now though!) I'm only 22 and have been hospitalized twice for mental health (psychosis/anxiety/depression) and been to rehab 3 times. So even though I'm relatively as stable as I could be at this point, I remain unemployed because of lack of motivation as well as social anxiety. Once I blacked out and embarrassed myself during a presentation. I isolate due to an irrational fear of people. I'm lucky enough to be on mental health assistance and have my own apartment which I'm grateful for. I'm also grateful for the Internet simply because it connects us to those who are similar when it would otherwise be difficult to. I just need to push myself to find something that makes me happy. Anyway congrats on moving forward and thanks for sharing.
Those who lay down and rot (most NEETs and wizards) are the true MARTYRS of the Human Condition. Any thinking person understands that life is absurd. This is because life inherently lacks meaning and purpose, in and of itself. Now, some people are lucky enough to never come to this realization. This is because they are either too stupid to even consider it, or they are too happy with their lives to question life's meaning. However, most normal people will eventually entertain the notion that life is absurd at some point in their life. This contemplation is usually precipitated by some form of stress in that person's life (death in the family, a break-up etc). Nevertheless, while the vast majority of people will eventually acknowledge this truth, almost all of them will then actively blind themselves to it. This blinding is achieved by creating their own meaning and purpose in life. Most people will create meaning by choosing to focus on relationships and child-rearing, while others will choose pursuits like ****ing STD-infected sluts, careers and hobbies, as well as intellectual activities like art, science and philosophy. This choice itself is irrelevant. What matters is that these people have acknowledged the core truth that life is absurd, yet they willingly (or absentmindedly) choose to forget or downplay this truth by occupying their minds with these created meanings. To employ a metaphor, these people have chosen to 'pull the wool over their eyes' for the sake of whatever happiness they can eke out in their existence. There is nothing wrong with this. Created meaning is still meaning - this cannot be denied. Nonetheless, created meaning is a secondary meaning. The only primary meaning in life is this: Life is absurd. My contention here today is that the act of forgetting primary meaning is itself a BETRAYAL of primary meaning. It is a betrayal of the fact that life is absurd. Those who have chosen to lay down and rot have embarked on a life where the realization of primary meaning is a daily, if not hourly, occurrence. Through either choice or circumstance, those who LDAR live a life that is mostly free from the distractions of created meaning. Sex, relationships, child-rearing: All of these common secondary meanings are absent. As a result, those who lay down and rot will embrace the truth more frequently than the blissfully ignorant. Those who LDAR are HEROIC and VIRTUOUS in their constant acknowledgment of the truth, while those who forget are steeped in their BETRAYAL of primary meaning. Those who LDAR will die contemplating the fact that life is absurd. And what is martyrdom but death for an ideal? We are MARTYRS, my friends. We are holy.
+Whatever it Takes 5% Yes man i was just using the built in mike on ipad but have recentlt bought one from ebay, so my future vids should be better sound quality
Thanks for sharing! I find my Social Anxiety is in itself a barrier for seeking help. When I was younger I did seek help for depression but it only helped with the symptoms I never realised I had Social Anxiety so I just thought I was just weird as you said a social outcast. Feeling for a long time I'm stuck at square one.
+subwoofer359 Thank you for watching and taking the time to leave a comment, it means a lot to know people are watching and hearing what they think. the key to overcoming the worst pats of mental illness is by realising that by keeping it in you are simply causing it to grow, by been open about it you weaken the grasp it holds over you....
I'm so proud of you for finding a way to overcome your struggles. Thanks for sharing your success. It really gives me hope that one day, I can be as happy and motivated as you are now. I'll be looking out for your book.
+Tammy Luu Thank You for the kind comment Tammy It is hard work and is an ongoing effort, it is true to say that I am now in a better place and things are improving however I am still on a journey and have a long way to go before I get to where I need to be. The key point to remember is that I am trying.....
Trying to explain to social welfare there are no jobs is making my anxiety and depression even worse. I am going on disability as I cannot cope anymore.
Haven't been working now in 3 months waiting on a Canadian visa to come through (was due a lot sooner), I understand completely where you are coming from- I went through a few stages of unemployment after graduation and decided to head for Australia, best choice of my life! Very hard to find stable work at our age in Ireland (you sound irish and around the 25 mark)- so I have decided to hit the air again and who knows I might return when things aren't so bleak in this dismal economy!
Differences = Evolution. The perspectives of those who struggle socially are unique and necessary. Personally, as painfully awkward as I can be, I wouldn't trade myself for anything in the universe. Each of us sit in a place in life where things look a little differently than they will to the next person. Evolution, particularly our advanced psychological evolution as human beings, requires a vast array of perspectives, which while subjective, are all valuable. Keep being different, if it's what compels you.
Hey, I'm sorry that you are feeling stuck. I know that feeling as I've been through that myself. I was waiting on a job for over a year only to find out that I probably won't get it because of my medical history with SA. It sucks that they strung you along and gave you hope only to find out that you won't even get it. I really think you should continue on with the course and not drop out of it. Even though you said you have a lot of experience, it doesn't hurt to have more. Who knows, maybe a position will open up earlier than what they told you. Hang in there.
I think it's great that you haven't given up hope in finding employment. I myself am struggling to find a full time job and I understand completely how you feel about feeling uneasy about the uncertainty in your life. I don't want to feel useless but it's hard to have any confidence in myself when I struggle with the fear of being humiliated and rejected. I feel like it just exacerbates the anxiety and in turn making me feel more worthless. Do you have any tips on how you keep negative thoughts from creeping up?
Hi Tammy thank you for watching this video and taking the time to comment on it. Although I have often come close to giving up hope I have realized that if you let hope go then simply nothing can/will happen, you will remain stuck frozen in time unable to progress on ones journey towards a better life. It is HOPE that fuels this journey and leads to progression. To give up on hope is a huge mistake. Keep your head up and believe in yourself, I know its hard but it is this hope that keeps me going despite struggling with social anxiety/depression. I know there is so much more to me than where I am at now, I deserve more and I am going to be a success. Hmm that's a good question, I will do my best to answer it. The first thing I suggest is to accept that social anxiety is something in your life that you have to deal with, you do not have to hide it or be ashamed with it, socially anxious people are often the kindest most sensitive people in society, so it is not a bad thing as it can be worked on and brought to a manageable level. So accept yourself just the way you are, you are perfect. The second thing that I find helps is to identify what your passion in life is, what is the one thing that you enjoy doing most, reading writing drawing gym etc. In identifying this and pursuing it I believe this has an extremely therapeutic/calming effect on the individual. A third one would be to LOVE yourself like you would a family member, bestfriend etc and treat yourself exactly as you would theose people in your life. The last thing you would do is put them down so never put yourself down, there is only one of you and you are and should be the most important person in YOUR life. Become your own life coach, your number one project is YOU. I could go on but these are the main things that I live by... Feel free to ask more or even ask me to record a video on a subject.. all the best D
Thank you so much for your kind words and advice. Loving myself is the one thing I have a hard time doing. You are right about treating myself as I would if I were one of my family members. I would NEVER treat them the way I treat myself. I never really thought about it that way and it's a really good perspective. Thank you for taking the time to reply to my question! You seem to be doing a lot better than before so you give me hope.
There was a bill in congress that would have taken tax benefits that cover the cost of moving jobs ,out of america away. Then they would have given american corporations tax benefits for moving those outsourced american jobs back to america !REPUBLICANS VOTED THAT BILL DOWN !!!!!!!!!There was another bill in congress that would have helped america's latest war vets. to be trained and to help them get employment ! REPUBLICANS VOTED THAT BILL DOWN TOO ! There are no angels in politics but there has always been the lesser of the two evils ! WHY DO WORKING CLASS AMERICANS KEEP VOTING FOR PEOPLE WHO ONLY LOOK OUT FOR WHAT IS IN THE BEST INTEREST OF CORPORATIONS,AT THE EXPENSE OF WORKING CLASS AMERICANS ??????????
Great video!!!!! I have a mental health channel here on RU-vid where I talk about depression, anxiety, self harm etc.:) , please check it out, some goodstuff, and subscribe! :). You are doing good, keep it up and stay strong :) i just subbed xo, come on by and recover with me if you would like! Let's stop the mental health stigma together!!
Hi Rose, Thank you for taking the time to check out my page and leave such a kind message, it means a lot, realy it does. Fantastic I will subscribe and look at your videos. I love seeing how others share their thoughts and experiences with mental health. It really is such a brave thing to do and it also offers support to others in times of need. You are an Angel.
aww you're most welcome...yes we all need to support eachother and be of help for others, as well as importantly breaking the stigma attached to mental illness.
