Welcome back all you beautiful people! I'm Kamina the Koach. From 2002 until 2010, while serving in the US military, I also served as a substitute teacher and occasionally a trainer in the military. In 2010 I discovered that I am a natural healer and coach and began to work in these areas.
For years I've been working in education while living abroad. I've lived in China, Saudi, Oman, the UAE, Iraq, Mexico, Thailand, and Myanmar. Thus, I'm an expert in making the move abroad!
Covid forced me back to the US in 2020, so I took that opportunity to dig deep into healing my PTSD related to early childhood trauma related to being a transracial, late-discovery adoptee. I spent HOURS learning about the science of trauma and the many different approaches to its resolution and healing. On this channel, I share my reunion journey, tools, tips, and tricks I use to heal and become more healthy, happy, and whole.
These are my passions and you'll find some of all of them here!
Eres muy bonita.... y me gusta come eres honesta y sincera de pensamiento.....y gracias por dar respetos a mi gente y pueblo de mi pais Mexico. Saludos y Abrasos de este Nopalito Mexicano !!!
Muchas gracias por permitirme vivir en paz en su hermoso país y por sus amables palabras. Es un honor para mí estar aquí y hago todo lo posible por honrar a la tierra y a su gente. Espero que disfruten de este fin de semana y que la pasen muy bien celebrando el Día de la Independencia.
I'm in Mexico too. Your experience is similar to what I've heard from other solo women around. In those smaller towns especially solo women are viewed with suspicion or pity given the traditional culture. It can be isolating. I'm curious as to how you were able to get a university position. I'm thinking of getting certified to teach but would possibly like the option to teach adults as well one day in case I get tired of the kids one day lol. Would love to hear your experience
Here's the podcast episode that made me record these videos. Too much backstory and not enough reunion story. It's a good podcast nonetheless. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/who-am-i-really/id1223841587?i=10006288871
Here's the podcast episode that made me record these videos. Too much backstory and not enough reunion story. It's a good podcast nonetheless. podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/who-am-i-really/id1223841587?i=1000628887162
@@kaminathekoach9087 I'm always touched whenever i hear your story and we need to share our different stories no matter how painful they may be. One Love from Me to You.
Regarding 9:31 - 9:56 This is what I told to a friend of mine with similar feelings and circumstance. " I was watching an old SiFi Terminator 1984 this guy is zapped down to Earth in a fetal position nude ,with traces of slim on his body , ( representing every human on Earth ). The movie is about 1:45:00 long. But only 3:52 minutes into the movie ,he is on his life's mission to assist Sara what's her name. So get this he spent only 2% of his life on earth getting his self together and 98% of the time in the movie pursuing his life mission. The average person who's been traumatized by a life event dose the reverse percentage,...... We spend almost 98% of our time saying I can't believe this mest up crap happened to me And our real life mission gets not alot more than 2% of our attention. " When we're in or think we're about to go in a slump ,....eat lots of cherries or something healthy with lots of cherries in it. And do something towards your life mission, or if you don't know what your life mission is spend time trying to wonder what it is.
I couldnt think of a better wasy to committ suicide by swimming with the sharks in Dubai. She was treated like a nig$$ because arabs think they are better then africans or anybody that has african origins. I wonder why a lot of IG models waste all that money going to Dubai? Im not going to say what i think because it would be embarrassing to those females that run over to that racist country. 9:27
@@kaminathekoach9087 understand, we all have our mission in life and sometimes we may not want to take on the pain but through the pain comes healing. One Love
56 y.o. adoptee here. Came out of the fog when my adopted dad passed. At this point, i am amazed at how much adoption had impacted me my entire life. The worst thing about this realization is that no one ever informed me about all of this. I had to figure it out myself. Love your videos. Btw, Think and Grow Rich, similar to the Gift, saved my life! Keep up the good work!
Big hugs! It's so much to take in, I know! I'm sitting here listening to the podcast Who Am I, Really? as I reply to you. How ironic? Yes, were inextricably linked by this paradoxical event in all of our lives. We don't know each other, but we all relate to some degree on more than one level. I know it's hard, but try and remember, we're all just doing the best we can with what we have. The human experience is a messy one indeed. Sending love and light! 🌻🌻🌻
Agree, I would never speak for a female when it comes to living in a particular situation. I always looked at the Middle East as a political place with includes the Gulf States and most of Northern Africa.
I wouldn't recommend anybof those regions to anyone really. Honestly, I was shocked that the brothers hoped it the way he did. There are much easier places to relocate. 🤷🏾♀️
Unfortunately, the avoidant attachment style is not in touch with their emotions. They can't tell you something they don't know themselves. If you're an anxious attachment style, this may be a pattern for you, choosing people who are very distant or aloof. They feel safe in the beginning because they aren't overly emotional. Unfortunately, they can't feel their emotions and this can cause more pain than an overly emotional person. It's takes a lot of work on the self to get in touch with emotions. It's something they have to recognize on their own and choose to work through. There's nothing we can do to change or fix that. Unfortunately, you will likely either have to learn to them with them as they are, leave. If they ever trust enough to let someone in, it will never be to the degree that you would like it. They're always going to feel like they have one foot out the door if they're an avoidant type. Many adoptees struggle with attachments. Compassion is key. We didn't choose this and even with lots of help, there are some things that will never change. Sending love and light. 🌻🌻🌻
About which part? There's a lot to unpack in this video and I didn't even get all that I wanted to say out because it makes me so uncomfortable. I'm pleased you got something out of it. This is very important very heavy lifting work that none of us can run from if we ever truly want peace for ourselves and our community.
Thanks! I'm so much better! I've already traveled again for a visa run and found it made me quite ill again. Seems my body knows it's 40 if not my mind! 😅 I'm absolutely loving this new move though, and am thankful to be making enough to do what I want in a couple of years. Hoping all is well with you!
There are those that will make the argument about POC not adopting and there being more children than parents. That's pure sociology. Fix the systems that are keeping women uneducated, impoverished, and forced to give up babies. Make abortion legal and accessible. Where children can't stay in the home, educate for placement inside of the extended family. And in the very worst case scenario, place children with parents that look like them. POC of color are denied adoption far more than whites. The entire system is broken.
Thanks for answering. I agree with everything you said especially placing with extended family that being the best option IMO. In the worst case scenario I definitely think that open adoption should be the rule.
This already looks interesting from the thumbnail image. It looks as if you’ve set up your lighting and camera very well to give a cinematic documentarian feel to it. Nice touch!
I wish it was that. It was just the end of the day low light. I did finally have a place to setup a bit better, but mostly just sick and trying to keep my head above water. 😂 Love & light 🌻🌻🌻
Thanks my friend! I’ve already found the local healers and 🍄community. I’m looking forward to learning from the people, instead those who have appropriated. 🥰
I can. It's time. The big shift is coming. It's going to get much worse before it gets better. Focus on enjoying the things you love most and being a light to those you can. It's definitely coming. Sending love, light, and peace 🌻🌻🌻
@@kaminathekoach9087 I feel it too. I’ve been in a huge low point in my life so this has hit me really hard I’m just trying to pick up the little pieces I have left and hold them close. It’s going to be rough but we have no choice now they have forced this no matter how much we resist Let’s all stick together guys and remember only peace love determination and kindness will get us through this. .
Awww! Im so glad you're watching and I really hope this feels right to you! The universe DEMANDED this video, for you, for me, and everyone else like us, feeling like they're suffering alone. That movie I mentioned "This is How it Ends" was just absolutely perfect if you ever get a chance to watch it on Prime. Sending love and light my friend! 🌻🌻🌻
This made me cry. I am an adoptee from Chile, and I have just lost the love of my life after pushing her away in the most horrible way you could imagine while in a relationship. This lost made me realize that I need help and I am, at 33, starting my journey on discovering, understanding and accepting myself. This video and some others on RU-vid are really helping me at the moment, Thank you.
Wrapping loving nonjudgmental arms around you as you find love and compassion for that beautiful baby Nico! Be gentle with yourself. No one deserves more love and compassion than you! You are having normal reactions to abnormal circumstances. This is trauma. Begin to see it and acknowledge it, but always with love for yourself. I know you hurt someone, but your inner child is also crying out. Big hugs! Sending love, light, peace, and joy 🌞💗
Seems much more kinder to reframe than "just" to let go of past hurt, it's one thing to have negativity bias but to give up on our imaginative power, must be our greatest loss. Will try to use your strategy, and if you care, will post it under my comment. Thanks!
These are definitely not techniques that I came up with. I'm only sharing what I've learned and what I have done to find lasting relief and freedom. Please do post how these techniques work for you once you've tried them. And if you find something that works better, share that too for sure! I'm not attached to any of these suggestions. All that matters is that we find the growth and healing we deserve. Sending love, light, peace, and joy! 🌻
Appreciate the emotional honesty and as you indicated, searching without expectations is the best approach. Trying is sometimes all one can do and it’s often enough to satisfy your own soul. Glad you’re in a good place.
Thank you so much! I share in hopes that others wondering through this dark place, seemingly alone, will understand that they're not. I appreciate your energy! Much love! 🌟💖
